6 Self Sabotage Behaviors That Affect Cptsd Recovery

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[pearlgirl]

My narcissist parents never encouraged me to do anything; they were too busy focusing on themselves.

[bronwyntanner]

OH my word. Such intense cruelty. And you are so absolutely right. My therapist also didn't understand narcissism. She didn't recognise that my mother is one. She didn't recognise that my husband was. No contact with them both. They survive and thrive on my pain which they inflicted!

[kathyb.]

Wonderful video! Thank you my dear 😘
No. 1 is really the most difficult one 🙄
1. Impatience
2. Inability to feel comfortable with discomfort
3. We get triggered on the healing journey and therefore quit
I use this mantra and it helps me a lot "triggers are my best friend"
4. They shift but stop the journey before new behaviours become the default behaviors
5. The positive changes on the healing journey result in negative painful consequences by narcissist
6. Disempowering beliefs
Here my favorite one: being in denial

[bethmoore]

When I first started Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, it was terrifying. My family history was a minefield of guilt, abandonment, physical and sexual abuse, whatever our parents could think of to make us hate ourselves, which somehow made them feel better about themselves. I have spent most of my life walking alone through a hostile universe with a heart like an open wound. It’s going have to hurt to get better, but not as much as not getting better.

[Lyrielonwind]

I feel like if I had my skin peeled off. So, I have a hard time going out and the pandemic lock down made it even worse. I have been so comfortable staying away, dwelling in my shell that even though I crave interactions with other people I'm scared of anyone; I find people boring, untrustworthy. Noisy.
Thanks. I will keep the video so I can watch it again and digest it. 😉👍

[inthemix]

1. Impatience with self (deja vue childhood experience)
2. Comfortable with the discomfort (brain societe with danger) overwhelming
3. Getting Trigged (fight or flight) authentic self is scarying
4. Shift but stop the healing journey
5. Dynamic change in a Coodependent- Narcissist relation
6. Subconsciousness mind set

[paulasussman]

I’m going to watch a again - really great insight that you

[ginatober]

I feel like at various points I’ve had all of these. When I was going for therapy and was pulling away from my narcissistic mother, she really fell apart. She became depressed, anxious, and eventually psychotic and needed to be heavily medicated. It was very hard not feel guilty and responsible for her meltdown.

[DevorahTafus]

I have realized that I've been isolating myself for too long, and it's probably preventing me from healing. Then immediately I came across this verse:
Proverbs 18:1
"A man who isolates himself seeks his own desire; He rages against all wise judgment."
I find it amazing that God showed me this verse right when I was thinking about isolation. I guess this means that at least one of my motivations for isolating myself was really just wanting to do my own thing instead of getting together with others and doing what they want to do. It's caring about my own issues and doing what I enjoy more than caring about other people. So that should motivate me to come out of isolation. It's also some other motives, but making myself be more friendly will help with those motives too. So thank you, God, for your guidance, and thank you Michele, for having a hand in it!

[_Trakman]

Subconscious beliefs:
If i heal, my mother and father "die"
I'm broken
I'm unworthy of ever being loved

[davidl]

All five resonated with me. I have been working on self-sabotaging beliefs and limiting thoughts. I kind of knew patience was going to be key. Until just recently I realized that more patients is required. It feels like I'm in a big hurry to go back on the autopilot. I know it's going to be a little while and I'm okay with that. I am making progress and moving forward and that's a good thing.

[flordeolivoaccents-inspire]

When my ex gets mad at me. I feel myself pulling back and I want validation from him.
I hate it . But I do have to reassure myself it’s ok . He knows what he is doing. And I’m so happy I noticed the pattern. But I need to tell myself it’s ok you will be ok .. I will move forward. I don’t need his approval. I’m safe and I’m grown enough to make decisions.
We were together 22 years .. i let him control my-life. I never saw the patterns . ( fear maybe) Till one day I got so depressed I wanted to end life. It took me 2 years More trama before I left 3/2019 and it’s been a ride but I’m proud of me. At 27 months of separation I’m proud that it I can say no to lots of things now .
And accepting that there is no change. Even when it seems as though he has changed. And how his change is to hook me again.

[HaleyMary]

I'm only learning to be comfortable being my authentic self recently because theater teachers, screenwriting teachers and acting teachers have taught me that it's okay to be authentic. It's unfortunate that parents, teachers in school and society in general tends to shame people who are being authentic and real. This past year and a half I have built up my confidence and part of it is I think not being around negative energy people.

[TYGZus]

This content is the best coaching I have found, in my past decades of searching. The tools provided in her online courses allow a person to uncover and work through their own issues. I am just getting started on one of her courses, but so far it has taken me farther than all of my counseling sessions put together!

[darrenkendall]

Bravo! Oh Captain! My (SWEET!) Captain! -stop the pain. 🤗

[ruzicatowers]

youre my fave, youre so easy to understand. i do so good, and than suddenly i mess up...ill drown in sugar or junk when ive been eating veggies, fruit and herbs for months and BAM, guilt sets first i thought it was the weather or lack of sleep, but NO, im afraid of success. im so used to failure, its comforting, so when i start to feel good and look good, i freak out. this needs to STOP.

[sarah.marco]

being comfortable with someone not validating my thoughts, presence or opinions was something definitely uncomfortable to me. whether it be in person, or through a comment on social media or even at work..i find my body being a bit shaky due to anger being triggered or my brain racing with thinking about how to respond whenever there was a moment where somebody disagreed with me or did not validate my work or my thoughts ...it was through meditation and doing the work that i really learned how to be comfortable with the thought that the only validation that mattered was mine and that i dont need anyone to validate me ....

[MaveBrownwyn]

1 & 6 are my self sabotaging patterns. Still working on them

[jazbogideon]

You’re a blessing. God bless you. I hope to meet a partner soon just like you, caring and giving. 2 giving people together is the best.

[Kari]

There's a different thing that's held me back. I can't trust anyone now. Like I cat let any body I to my life not even really friends. I pushed them all away when I was being gaslighted and lovebombed and now I'm alone and I don't want to give any one the chance of hurting me