Why do I still love my ex narcissist?

[KleeKaiPuppies]

You’re falling in love w yourself bc the narc is showing you “you.” You’re quite lovely❤

[jilladair]

Eleven years of cruelty, and I have asked myself this question. You have explained the phenomenon of this toxic type of co-dependancy really well. Being very naive about these predators, I moved hundreds of miles away from everyone I loved and all that I knew to be with the narcissist. Until I moved, he was super attentive. Then the holding back came in, on every level. In an urban area, I was lost and dependant solely on him. He spent the first six years derailing me until I did not know which way was 'up'! Then came 'discard no 1' leaving me with all the guilt and remorse. A year later after contacting him, I was hoovered in and used for another five years. The Pandemic gave me a break, a chance to straighten my head out a bit. I changed the relationship to a friendship, but his bad behaviours were there but a bit muted. In April this year, the break was made. I began it and he ended it and blaming me of course! There have been attempts to hoover me back via a close friend and my son, but I have stayed resolute in 'no contact' being the beginning of recovery. Thank you for making these videos Joe. Onwards and upwards! 😁

[abby]

PLEASE PLEASE KEEP MAKING MORE VIDEOS!! ATLEAST 1 VIDEO A DAY. I’M CONSTANTLY REFRESHING YOUR PAGE CHECKING FOR NEW CONTENT. YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW HELPFUL THIS IS!! 😭🤍

[Saskia]

Big mistake on my part, was showing and letting him know how much I loved him. Easy peacy for him 😪 Thanks Joe 💚🌻

[LoriOtto]

Humans have an instinct to fix things and to receive. Valadation. So they need to fix what the narc told them was wrong.

[SavedbyGrace]

It's sad when it everyone in your family.surrounded by these 😈

[redsquirrel]

I have been through two of these toxic relationships now. After the first one I educated myself (or so I thought) on the subject of narcissism and swore that it would never happen to me again. More fool me.
What I need to recognise and understand is that I am something of a prime target for these individuals and I need to get my head around what it is about me that makes me so vulnerable.

[chilloften]

Indeed, don’t forget those red flags you saw and pondered. Hmmm, Suzanne, the ex-wife is calling. Hmmm, grown daughter was yelling at his bedroom door as he slept and I’m there and I awake him to tell him and he says ohhhh just ignore her. And then grown daughter hands me a note and my hair clip as we leave in the morning.

[SlimSigtrig]

Still love her like nobody else we have a kid together and she is best friends with my mom can’t stop seeing her here and there and she wants me back so do I but i have to resist