I'm embarrassed I STILL LOVE the narcissist

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[ShortDarknLovely]

Whenever I found myself dealing with the situation of still loving someone, I've come to realize that the person I fell in love with didn't really exist.

[youngblood]

One of the hardest lessons in life is letting go. Whether it's guilt, anger, love, loss or betrayal. Change is never easy, we fight to hold on and we fight to let go.

[youngblood]

Breakups hurt and sometimes memories sneak out of my eyes and roll down my face but losing someone who doesn't respect and appreciate you is actually a Gain not a LOSS.

[carlalouca]

I had to jump to this video the moment I saw it because I am so disgusted with myself for still caring about my husband even though he’s cheating and has done a full discard. Thank you for being nonjudgmental and helping me to understand.

[AFAskygoddess]

I learned (the hard way) that you can never really "love" an abuser.
You can only "love" the fantasy IN YOUR HEAD that you pretend the relationship is and/or will be in the future. A gifted psychologist taught me how to look at situations honestly, for what the really are, not what I pretended they were. I now take total responsibility for my choices. I stopped lying to myself.

[lancelotdufrane]

I can’t stop loving that Monster. It’s been 14yrs. I watch the new supply . My kids lives… I am not ok. Others might adjust. Successful narcissists are the most diabolical

[rebeccaunasultana]

Just because you love them doesn't mean you have to be in a relationship with them!

Thank you Dr Ramani ❤

[Natalie-lfhb]

It is no embarrassment at all, it shows the positive signs of successful evolution. Real empathy can not be faked. That is why it is the opposite of embarrassment

[TheJordanFrench]

There’s a song called Crying Over You by The Band Camino and the chorus says “i choose crying over you. I choose silence over being lied to. I choose drinking alone, drowning in my tears in my bedroom, cause it’ll make me happier than you do. I choose crying over you.” Such a beautiful, genuine reminder. Also a beautiful song!

[catwalkernyc]

This is why I love Doctor Ramani. So grateful for her.

[teresacotton]

I still love him even though i know he isn't the person i thought he was.

Its like the loving memory you keep of someone who died. Your heart will always love them, because you don't want to forget the love you lost.

But you know he kept who he really was hidden from you.

[melisentiapheiffer]

I loathe the narcissist and misogynist in my life! My feelings for him wont ever be resurrected. 😤

[ardent]

Yup, I cope with this as well. Haven't spoken to the narcissist in 9 years, no contact but still love her, miss her and think about the good times every once in a while. A couple weeks ago I got the urge to look at old pictures that I keep tucked away on an external hard drive. Thankfully I'm able to resist any urge to look at her social media. On the positive side at least I'm not filled with hate and seeking revenge.

[grandmaatthefarm]

Oh my Gosh, this is SO right! I loved my narc spouse with everything I had in me, suffering for years to TRY to show him that a real relationship is one of the most valuable human experiences you can have. Nothing worked and it saddened me greatly to finally have to disconnect and leave after 18 years. Then, after just 4 weeks, he died. It's a haunting truth that I am going to need time to work through.

[DiscordBeing]

I went through a whole year of relationship detox and heavy trauma therapy for narcs and was very public about it with all of my friends. They were proud of me. Then I ended up dating an even worse narc who was. this time, physically abusive multiple times, broke into my apartment, and got me kicked out of my dream apartment. I still kind of love them, and when I admitted that to my friends they all lost respect for me and think all of my abuse is my fault now because I lack 'strength'. It's been devastating.

[mrs]

I loved my narcissist from 1991 until 9-12-22 . That was the day I go my own place and I began to love ❤️ meeee! 😊

[icme]

NO no no. I love him because of parts of his personality, not the things we have together. and it’s a combination of parts of his personality I admire and the areas that do connect with me. He’s a talented smart good looking guy. The loss of the things we have together, the memories, and what we have built over time is A SECOND grief.

[jaggeranand]

For me doesn't matter now. She is what she is. Fascinating to watch her these days. I still love her because that's me. I love her because I do. I also love huge grizzly bears... I don't want either in my living space!🎉 Get me???

[willemfeather]

My "therapy" was neither protected nor non-judgemental. The covert narcissist "therapist" violated me mentally, emotionally, spiritually and financially. I trusted them implicitly and am still in shock and deep grief.
"Loving someone does not mean you need to be in relationship with them." So true. And often so, so painful.
Thank-you, Doctor Ramani.

[netlizard]

I used to find a reason to love her every day. So now I’m left with loving the way she smiles, the way she walks, laughs, sings, smiles, eats, her ideas, her aspirations, how easy it was being with her. It was great unless emotions came up. Superficial. And it got bad, real bad but now after it’s all over I’m left with seeing her when I close my eyes. Sorry about the word vomit, it just came out.