The Penis Project, Episode 1: Size Matters

#WellnessWednesday Guys, it's time for the first installment of our #PenisProject series: Size Matters... Or Does It? Men's Health Expert & author Dr. Aaron Spitz answers this question with a little help from his son Zach. Information is taken from #ThePenisBook - a great #FathersDay gift.

[Warriordog]

I just want to say I love how comfortable dad and sons are with each other. Healthy dialogue and healthy relationship it’s amazing.

[copperman]

You guys are awesome. OMG. Do I ever wish I had a Dad like you. OMG... your sons are SO BLESSED to have a Dad like you.😊

[corpojp]

its just so great that son and dad can have such a frank conversation and just ask each other open questions without shame or embarrassment. There should be more conversations like these without stigma or shame.

[ScottCone]

I love the sex positive and kind way both father and son had this discussion. It’s really a model for how all dads should engage their sons in a fun, informative and very loving way regarding their bodies and sexuality. I also loved how porn was discussed so openly and without shame, which really helped Zac take better care of his sexuality. Beautifully done guys!

[unowhojr]

As many others, I find the openness between father ans son very refreshing but also the honesty to admit to each other his own faults in terms of pornography addiction as in Zach's case, but also the father admitting this addiction going undetected by an expert, an eye opener for us parents. Thank you for this episode in your series and looking forward to more talks like this.

[tjbren]

Wow, I wish I had this video about 50 years ago! This should be seen in every "health" education class!

[chrisjay]

I love this family lol they had to be extremely well rounded to do this lol 👏🏽👏🏽❤️🔥👍🏽great job Doc!

[okimlisteningu]

As a high school counselor for decades, thank you Dr. and Son for this extremely helpful video. For me it was so helpful on many important levels: a] it was great to see a healthy relationship between father and son; b] it addressed a very common challenge most high school guys have; c] it was very informative. Thank

[Skybutler]

The openness, honesty, down-to-earthyness, realism, amount of facts and many more elements in this video are wonderful and very reassuring. Great job at maintaining this type of family culture! Being a guy who's into guys, I can say it's not the size that attracts the flies. I can't speak for women, but I prefer a man who knows what his sexuality is worth over a huge pole that fits into nowhere. Thanks, guys!

[littlediamondthundercat]

What a refreshingly open conversation. Really educational and easy to understand. I appreciate it!

[jamesliclican]

This was very wholesome. Very relatable and feels like I'm sitted with them on the table. More of this please.

[marcusmartinez]

Good short video and shows the power of dialog and having comfort in having these convos with your children. On a personal note, my Dad NEVER talked about this stuff — it was brushed under the rug. It’s refreshing to see the change over time.

[MrA]

I learned so much that I did not know from this terrific conversation between the urologist doctor and his very talented son. Thanks to both of you because you have taught me a lot.. I wish I had seen this many years ago. You have really improved my sense of myself as a man. Wonderful job, please make more of these. I wish I could have had this sort of relationship with my dad. Lucky sons, very lucky sons.

[halburtonwarrington-minge]

My lesson from Mum. 'Its not the size that matters. It's what you do with it'. From one of 9 brothers.
Great show. thanks.

[highflyerpotatoe]

Wow, wish I had had this conversation when I was 14. This is something every guy should have.

[Emblue]

You guys are really open towards each other coz I don't think I would ever do something like this with my father especially coming from Africa it's a taboo

[johnnyvo]

a candid father (dr) and son open conversation about hoo-hoo's, well, hats off to you, just all inspiring. Well done to all! Thank you.

[PeterGregg]

Man, I wish I had a doctor like this. My doctor almost is scared to even talk about it.I have so many questions and no stable solid person to talk to. Thumbs up and thanks for your sons being so down to earth and willing to just be normal in front of a camera. Thumbs up 👍👍👍

[theziggy]

this popped up in my yt recommendations and I can't help but marvel at what an attractive family this is. Dude has incredible genes... your sons are gorgeous. I'm gagging, tbh.

[stevegreening]

Thank you for this informative video Dr. Aaron and Zach! I hold my hands up, I'm average size but, like you said, I've worried and been very self conscious about my size, especially because I'm a grower and man, I really grow! So whilst I had friends who'd play strip poker, or they'd whip theirs out, I never did and I was so embarrassed about my size and felt so uncomfortable that I avoided sex until I was 26. I fooled around before then but never got undressed - I did all the work so to speak. I fell in love young and we were waiting for a commitment ceremony/marriage to be intimate anyway, so it wasn't a big deal until that first love ended, but even now I don't have hook ups, I don't use dating apps because photos are expected and I don't usually feel confident enough to take those photos, and when I have dated I don't get intimate for the first few dates. I am gay, and I feel that makes a big difference because size is a big deal to a fair amount of gay men - unlike the vagina which I learned from you only goes, on average, 4 inches deep, the back passage goes a lot deeper and so, despite the prostate only being 2-3 inches deep, there are gay men who want a foot long, and I'm not referring to a Subway sandwich. And even though I am what's known as a versatile-bottom, meaning I prefer to receive, there's still a size expectation with a lot of gay men. I actually don't like to top (give) because I'm that self-conscious about my penis size that I get in my head and start thinking "I'm too small, they're probably pretending to enjoy this to be polite. They must think I'm pathetic. I bet they dump me because of my penis size and tell everyone how small I am - I'm going to die alone" - trust me when I say those thoughts do not make sex enjoyable! With regards to those "size queens", I guess once your body gets used to a certain size you need to keep going with that size because things stretch and take a little while to go back to how they were (if they ever do). But in my experience, the bigger it is the more it hurts and even special "bottoming lubes" don't get rid of the pain so, for me at least, I prefer a guy who's got an average or even a smaller penis! But this video was very informative in a chilled and jokey way, and I'm grateful for it, especially since I'm looking to get back into the dating world!

I also want to say how awesome your guys' relationship is! It's great to see! My Dad was military, he's religious and so I dreaded coming out to him much less talking about penises and sex. But I have to hand it to my Dad, when I told him I was gay and that's why I broke up with my girlfriend his response was "okay, is spaghetti bolognese alright for dinner tonight?" He just wasn't bothered. In fact, he was so cool about my sexuality he even tried to set me up with his colleague's son at a college open event 🤦🏻‍♂️😂 bless him, I do appreciate his acceptance and I love my Dad so much! But in general we didn't talk about this stuff other than when we had "the birds and the bees" talk and then after I came out we sat down and talked about everything - gay sex, protection, what condoms were best to use for anal, masturbation, all sorts. It was a weird, no-holds-barred kind of talk and I learned so much (and so did mu Dad 😂). Interestingly, the reason we weren't so open was me, not him. As I became more comfortable in my own skin we talked more and now we talk about all sorts. My point here is your kids are lucky to have that relationship with you, Dr. Aaron, to be able to talk to you about all sorts - I wish I'd let myself have the same kind of relationship sooner. And Zach (and Zach's brothers) good on you guys for being open with your Dad - not only is he a Urologist, he's a man, he's been there himself and his guidance is invaluable. Whilst it was unexpected, it was cool when you mentioned jerking off to your Dad because it shows how comfortable you are with him - I always pretended I didn't do that, heck I even pretended I didn't know what it was when my parents told me it was natural - I just acted dumb because I was so shy. You're obviously a great family - cherish the relationships y'all have with each other because you'll never have another father-son relationship, it's a beautiful, special gift!

Anyway, I'll shut up now, but thank you for the vid. Is the book available in book stores? When I find it I will definitely be buying it! Sorry for such a long comment. Take care guys!