How to Tell if an INTJ Likes You

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Typing disclaimer: Hi my name is Lindsay, I'm an actual INTJ typed by actual professionals using the scientific method on a 512 scale. I didn't choose this profile, it chose me. Official type is: FM Ni/Te BPSC
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[danmeuse]

I'm just an INTJ watching this for counterintelligence purposes lol

[StatmanRN]

#1:if we interact with you when we dont have to

[ErykThompson]

How to get an INTJ to NOT like you:
1. Call them out of the blue
2. Show up at their house unexpectedly
3. Talk about trivial things like the weather
4. Ask them about their feelings
5. Waste their time

[jerusalem]

“When an INTJ likes you it means they are fascinated by you and your navigation of your human mechanics” WOW. What a perfectly accurate way to describe it!

[liveinpluto]

First time I met with this INTJ guy, I disliked him. But the only person who shows up when I need a help is him. We made a chat group and I told them (all people in the group) that I was sick. He called me and said "hi just go down from ur dormitory" he showed up and brought me a bowl of porridge saying that it is good for my health. He didn't say anything. Just gave me that porridge, smile and telling me to get some rest then left. The other occasion, I sprinkled my hand, I told all my friends that my hand hurted. No one helped me. But him, he gave his medicine for me and said "you can use it until you get better" and didn't say anything. INTJ is the best human in this world. I am not lying. Only people who don't know them can't recognize it.

[ZyroZoro]

Biggest sign: if we voluntarily talk to you, then that means we like you.

[chrisgill]

Unfortunately, this also means the INTJ can quickly become dis-interested in a friend or love interest.

[Naturenerd]

The One thing INTJ's Are Not Direct About.

[ianthompson]

You know an INTJ likes your video when they watch it at 1x speed.

[far-away-so-close]

And how do you get an INTJ’s attention in the first place?
1. Pick up on an INTJ’s obscure, lofty or abstract comment, without explanation. You will have passed the first test. This is somewhat rare, and, by itself, interesting. “Oh, you read that too?”
2. Do things that are out of the ordinary, but with a clear intent. It will pique our curiosity. “Well, that was interesting. What are they up to? How did they come to do that? Hmmm…” Subtly surprise us, and it will leave a lasting impression. We will think about it for days.
3. Appeal to our secret rebellious streak. (It’s the Ni that made me ignore convention! Really!)
4. Observe, and make wry comment on an underlying pattern, particularly about the behavior of those strange humans. Bonus points for identifying the delusion that led to said behavior.
5. Silence is not stony. It is golden. Be comfortable hanging out for long periods of time, together, doing something, maybe separate things, and not talking. Especially if it is in a book store (Where those still exist).
6. Be energized at the possibilities (!), after hours-long, wide ranging conversations.
7. Get excited at the prospect of research
8. Recognize bluntness as a sign of respect. (We assume that you can handle it.) Sharpness, on the other hand…
9. Be very competent at something. We often have generally low expectations, and being proven wrong in this is delightful.
10. Precision.
11. Elegant solutions.
12. Pragmatism.
13. Approach disagreement and argument as a learning process
14. Pull off a calculated, but daring move

15. Being patient with our emotional understatement.

16. And our penchant for numbered lists.

[killownz]

Ask him if he likes you, if his brain lags and he looks like he's just been asked the most complicated question on earth, theres something there, maybe small, but something.

[carlomanesc]

"God forbid, the phone call" relatable AF

[opheliapurple]

When you're telling a story and the INTJ says "I bet you did this next." And get's it dead on down to the specific keywords.
It means their analysis is complete and they now understand you on a base level. Showing it off is like bragging about how close you two are.

[helenadetroya]

I honestly thought that INTJs were mean, but now I know they're kind of sweethearts in their own way...

[reemwe]

This is accurate. I am impressed in your way of describing. Moreover, when an INTJ likes you, we'll seek information about you, and mostly without you even knowing, just to improve the way we communicate with you. We'll pay attention to your smallest details and we'll really care. However, when you make us feel even for one minute that you don't care, or that our efforts are not desirable.. We'll stop caring in that same moment.

[KZ-svkk]

How to get an INTJ to NOT like you:
1. Small talk
2. Cheesy flirting
3. Stupidity
4. Being clingy/ not giving space
5. Question their decisions
6. Physical contact

[christycolman]

I'm an ENFP dating an INTJ and it's the best thing ever. He's almost the opposite of what I am. He's consistent, conscientious, and cute as heck. ;) From the moment I met him in the math lab, I thought his analytic comments were just the cutest thing ever. Maybe it's an ENFP thing, but I really appreciated the way he made things simpler. He was always very kind as well. Sure, sometimes he could be rough around the edges, but that was just part of his charm. It is very easy making decisions with him or knowing what he's thinking since he will be as honest as possible. We both love talking about Philosophy, Psychology, Theology, and everything in between- which is probably why we got close so fast. I could tell from when I met him that emotions were hard for him to process, and I quickly learned that talking about them theoretically helped him process them better. I was his creative, bubbly friend that challenged what he did and believed, while he was my consistent analytic friend who would challenge me equally to where we both quickly became indispensable to each other. We ground each other very well and are that support when we need someone. At first, I thought he judged people very quickly since he would say he didn't like a particular person very quickly. But I later discovered this was because they had not "given him a reason to like them yet." :) Nine times out of ten, he would end up liking them on the next visit. I have broken many INTJ rules and he has broken many ENFP rules, which has just made us closer since we've had to work through so many things. Also, we have changed each other for the better. My INTJ found the way I connect to people fascinating, so without me realizing it, he watched me closely. Now, a year later, our mutual friends tell me his people skills have dramatically improved to where he seems like a different person. On the other hand, I have become more consistent with things in my life and am able to do things now that I couldn't have done otherwise. INTJ's are amazing people that often need that push to connect to people. It's hard for them sometimes since people can be chaotic and irrational. But, if they can put up with stepping on each other's toes at times, they can form an amazing, emotional connection and bond that lasts a lifetime. :)

Update: One and a half years later and we're engaged to get married in May. ;D

[mattr]

INTJs ARE SO ADORBALE! I love how they like downplay every kind of blunt, brash thing they say with a laugh or smirk but at the same time they are dead serious. The best. They like know how “extra” their inflexibility is. Ahhh, the best:)

[headstrong]

Basically, you'll know when you become a research subject.

So that's why I have these habits

[Camilla-mxwr]

“We will study you like a precious experiment” that’s actually a really beautiful thing to say