Why Does My Feed Hate Women? (w/ Alanah Pearce) | Sad Boyz

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[Renfairelass]

I noticed this too! Recently my feed has been really misogynistic and alt-righty… even though I always click the not interested button. Recently, I’ve been getting a lot of videos of this judge who really likes to stick it to women and call them gold diggers and stuff in custody court. Weird.

[PeterAmbos]

I feel obligated to mention: Apple having to switch to USB-C and strong data protection laws punishing US corps are thanks to EU law, not UK law. The Brits left before all that happened.

[anonyxx]

What's wild is I've been wanting to talk about this but people cry "curating my algorithm" ASAP despite me REPORTING this content. No, it's digital force-feeding.

[rascal_rae]

The type of "rule following" Jarvis is talking about is a good example of having a strong sense of "horizontal morality". Horizontal morality is a logic/empathy approach to deciding what's "right" versus "vertical morality" which is more like, "this is right because it's the law"

[SamuraiGuy]

People always talk about not using your blinkers at all, but I think it's just as bad when you don't use your blinker until you're already turning. The point of blinkers is to display your intentions. People act like the signal just alleviates them of any fault if they cause an accident.

[AnAmelieAnomaly]

I think the backlash that a lot of feminists have to the idea that "we are failing young men" is not that we think it isn't true, but that women are disproportionately expected to cater to men's emotions without reciprocity, at home, at work, in relationships, etc., and it is just so exhausting. As an afab person who is already expected to do a disproportionate amount of emotional and care labor at work, I just don't have the energy to also do the emotional research for disenfranchised men and boys. One of the things that I very much appreciate about this podcast, and about Jarvis's other content especially, is that the guys are using their position of privilege but also understanding to reach out to people in this demographic and help bring them forward with sensitivity and care. It's the work we all need to be doing around our own intersections of privilege so that the burden doesn't always fall to the people under attack to fix the problem.

[Extra.Medium]

I'm a truck driver and I feel something like that road rage constantly. I can look down from my seat into your car and clearly see you texting and driving with your knees with your kid in the back.

I also almost daily get a moment of "you are alive right now because I was paying attention. You're fucking welcome Jersey plate".

[tabsterg]

Everyone always says _"I don't know how to solve the problem"_ almost as if it were a personal responsibility but I think a good start would be if social media companies stopped tossing vulnerable children into these rabbit holes the SECOND they detect any just because it creates more engagement. People gotta realize that these kind of cesspools don't just pop up naturally, they're forced into popularity by algorithms that prefer the worse kind of behaviour because it's also the most profitable.

[sunnytheo]

I’m so glad Alanah brought up the comments cause it has been SO BAD. I ended up deactivating my tiktok about a year ago because I started getting slightly popular in the space I was in and it was terrifying when a video would go outside my bubble. That and I had a coworker find my tiktok and publicly shame me at work for talking in a video about taking a pole dancing class. And in that video I didn’t even show myself in the class it was just me in regular clothes at home being excited about trying something new. I want to be creative and talk about things I love but being afab on the internet is honestly so scary to me now and I can’t handle how mean people can be sometimes

[LleytonCorbett]

As a teenage guy myself, I think that this type of dialogue is super important. In my school and even with some of my friends I find that the idea that "nice guys finish last" is still being perpetuated. I think that young guys need to see people like you having smart and nice discussions about young men, it inspires me to constantly be a better version of myself.

[aeron]

The Instagram comment thing is unreal. I commented literally a five word sentence on something and out of NOWHERE a man called me an obese ugly attention seeker and attacked me for being a single mother I was like I deactivated my insta a few weeks ago cuz I can’t even scroll without seeing every single comment section attacking women it’s horrid.

[yellobb]

I’m a huge rule follower and I feel Jarvis so much. It could have turned me into a cop, but instead it turned me into a leftist 😆

[Insomniacrylic]

It makes me really sad seeing young boys fall into misogyny so early. I remember being in sixth grade trying to help a kindergartener and he looked at me and said “I don’t listen to girls.” Like that’s a five year old kid and he’s not coming up with that shit by himself

[ThatCrazyBookWyrm]

Jarvis talking about his rule following becoming more of a "the government/these companies arent following the rules" I FEEL SO SEEN

[franjkav]

I was just complaining to my friend last night about the misogyny on Reddit. I hardly even look at social media at this point but when I do it feels impossible to avoid the woman hating. It’s very frustrating

[darkaiel]

Early on Jordan says as a joke you'd rather your boss thinks you're bad and dumb than have any mental stress and it hits so hard. I literally just emailed my boss about what's going on because of that.

[dragone]

I think yall might really like FD Signifiers videos on the manosphere. He does a great job of talking about how we are failing young boys while also discussing the patriarchy.

[wunkin]

I'm a girl, who in my school and even in my family, see how boys in my life are affected by the toxic masculinity from people like Andrew Tate. Ultimately producing people who won't watch the Barbie movie because it's "too girly".

[turbotoke]

Alanah is the perfect guest for this podcast man

[sadlystuckinreality]

Oh my god, Jarvis talking about driving was so relatable. That's how I talk to other people in cars too. I'm such a rule follower as well 😭