Getting mad or getting even with the narcissist

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[britannia]

Get mad you've been mistreated and use the anger to get out. There's no getting even with a narc, no revenge will redeem the suffering caused. Just get out and live your best life.

[aks]

Soul distancing + self nurturing is the only revenge that you will ever need. Thanks Dr.

[p.w.]

Becoming indifferent is the best revenge, because that's when you know that you have become stronger, and that you have freed yourself from the burden of anger. It doesn't mean that the narcissistic abuser can't hurt you anymore, but that your measures to set boundaries have succeeded. You're in control of you, not them.

[someonerandom]

I don't want to get mad or get even, I just want them to stay out of our lives.

[katie]

“Getting even” with a narcissist is a futile effort. Just removing yourself safely from the situation with minimal physical, emotional and financial damage is the goal.

[lisabee]

My favorite quote about revenge is : If you seek revenge, dig two graves! It got me focused years ago. Thanks for being so helpful and clear with your awesome advice!

[Enlightened]

Disappearing, cutting off, block and delete…and stay silent really is the only way to get under their skin, trying to do what they do, we are not like them so stand no chance trying!

[ardent]

It's never worth it to get even with these people, you will end up in a back and forth that may seem to never end. When it does end you'll be exhausted, miserable, depleted and so on. You may also lose much more than you intented, money, property, possessions, rights, or the worst loses of all, your freedom or your life. Karma is always the best option, know that their karma is in built, their pusnishment is them being who they are.

[RandyBrady]

I am growing away from the situation. I will get even by succeeding. For the first time in my life, I am beginning to make money without anyone else being involved. Nothing will stop me.

[cheri]

Getting even doesn't work. Work on oneself. They don't care. Exactly!!! Stand your ground, stay away. ✨️ 💯 Have a great day, Dr. Ramani. ❤️

[rubberbiscuit]

How can you "win" in a competition with a narcissist? If you have a conscience, you cannot. If you have empathy, you cannot. Release the need for fairness and justice when it comes to this person. It is not that the playing field is not level. It is that you and the narcissist are not on the same field, period. Release, and move on.

[tcm]

Happy to say that workplace bullying is a health and safety violation throughout Canada!

[davidking]

Stay calm, gather evidence, have a paper trail and never loose your temper in court if that is where u end up. Please realize they are damaged and it is sad but unfortunately they will most likely never realize the damage they cause. Meditation and connecting with the Creator will bring you out on top but it will take time.

[tammyfinberg]

Wise words from this well educated woman on narcissistic abuse. There will never be any real justice with narcissists, so taking back our own lives is in itself a form of justice. As the scapegoat of a narcissistic family they have taken everything away from me.

[katehere]

Dr. Ramani: "Detach and start working on you"
Oh, I've had thoughts of revenge...but then I'd be just like them, and also, don't want the "rebound karma" associated with revenge.

[resilientangel]

Get mad, get even?
No!
Get away. Find a way out and create the life you deserve. Don't check on them. Put yourself on check.
Self love, self healing, self care.
Get on to living the life, God intended for you.

[steggopotamus]

In my experience getting obvious vengeance always backfires even more so if you're against a narcissist. So the best vengeance is just living life as fully and peacefully as possible free from their control, they HATE that and in some cases it causes them physical pain as they feel shame of not being able to control you or have that perfect image that includes you as a prop.

[daviddevlogger]

You can't give up now, it's just a season. Whatever you are going through. No matter how hard it is... It will pass. Better days are coming ahead ❤️

[ai]

I have finally come to realise that healing is the secret antidote to narcissistic abuse. It makes forgiveness and/or revenge irrelevant!

[michaelmorrison]

My (ex)wife is a narcissist. I was frustrated that she was actually teaching our 3 children to get revenge. What a horrible lesson to impose upon children! No wonder the world is so messed up. Fortunately, my empathic influence on our children won out over her evil intentions. I am proud to say that my kids figured her out and have grown into kind, loving, compassionate, mature, supportive, decent young men... total empaths. I just pray that they don’t become targets of narcissists.