10 Reasons Why A Girl Says 'She's Not Ready' For A Relationship | (Apollonia Ponti)

10 reasons she's not ready and how to change it or move on. These signs will also help you with how you are showing up in your dating life. Enjoy and comment below. xoxo

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[jons]

It's a hard and bitter pill to swallow, but when a woman says "I'm not ready for" or "I don't do that, " the "With You" is always at the end of that statement, and it's always silent. She doesn't see you as her best choice and you need to just walk away at that point. If you don't have the self respect at that time, work on gaining your self confidence so you can walk away. You do not want to be with someone who settles for you. Walking away is your greatest power. Cut off all the attention and validation she got from you, and go work on bettering yourself. They're not worth it.

[batmikipig]

If she says "I'm not ready" you should add "with you". She's not ready FOR YOU, but may for someone else

A very valid reason: She has lots of things going on in her life. She has to focus on her health, her career, she's building a life for herself that she wants. She's investing in herself. And a relationship deserves energy and commitment. She simply does not want to invest that time or energy to somebody else.

And no man is entitled to a woman's commitment, time and energy. Keep this in mind.

[joshualeblanc]

My ex agreed to date me, But wasn’t ready for a “boyfriend”. After 2 weeks of dating, she told me she wasn’t ready to date anyone but still wanted me in my life. She ghosted me then wanted to be friends after a little over a week of not talking to me. Guys… those type of girls ain’t worth it. Don’t settle for less than God’s best. Move in and quit giving into the games. God has someone for you and don’t settle for less than what you want

[regisjohnathan]

What are you guys thought

As someone who is currently in the midst of such a situation. I often find myself researching and trying to learn about a mindset and certain emotions a special girl might posses that I am not used to. Even though I came across this as a search to find answers. I see certain comments and I feel like I can actually share a little to maybe help.

First of all…… Don’t give up.

Second……. Don’t listen to respond, listen to reinforce your understanding and your stance.

After my 10 year marriage ended, I was in a very dark place too. I was afraid of sharing my heart because it wasn’t whole. It was shattered. Suddenly I was a single dad. Something I had never asked for. Tough place to be.

But I met someone very special about 9 months ago and after hearing just pieces of her story I began to realize that my heartbreak couldn’t compare to the tragic and painful past she was sharing with me. As I stood there listening to her, I knew completely and without question. If I wanted to pursue this woman (and I was certainly feeling that way) I would have to face things that I had no idea how to face. There was so much pain, so much doubt, so much fear, loss, devalued self worth, guilt, etc….. But here’s the thing. Although I saw all of that on the surface. What I saw inside was what grabbed my heart. She was strong. Stronger than she knew, stronger than I had ever seen. I am a man of faith. I try to focus on God and seek his plan. So I cried out and asked for direction. The answer was tenderness not romance. Compassion not lust. Respect not impatience. No way, would I ever crack this shell by thinking for myself. I had to think with her emotions. Learn triggers. See the pain and take some of it upon myself to truly understand. Sure I could do and say many things to teach her how special she is. Remind her of her beauty, her worth, value, and rarity. All of those things are great but without respect for her boundaries and what she needs to process. All would be wasted. Not long after we met. Circumstances changed and the friendship was forced into a long distance connection. To maintain the “vibe” I became attached to talking daily. But she needed help and a time came that I could no longer provide that. When she began therapy to overcome the trauma she had endured. She slowly started pulling away. I saw it coming and knew what was happening. But I still tried my best because I was desperate to see my continued impact. Then she got new advice. The Therapist advised her to distance herself from any emotional pull from others. I was clearly in that category and I completely understood it.

So recently (the better part of two months) we haven’t had much communication. Her mother reached out to me and explained what was happening very softly and respectfully asked for space. Not just from me. From all outside connections. She had to take time to focus on herself and fall in love with herself again. So as confusing and hard as it’s been. That is what I am doing. She didn’t pull away out of anger towards any pressure I created. She just needed to focus and allow the therapy to take its place in her healing.

I tell you all of that so I can give the advice that I intended. The idea of running away from her is mind boggling to me. That’s terrible advice and it should be ignored. Ask yourself how many people have already done that to her. I can give you the answer. If she has pain in her past, trust issues, or fear of a relationship. The answer is EVERYONE. Everyone has run from her at some point. That’s why shes here. If she knows your feelings. She knows your desires. Let it be and don’t go away completely until you are asked to do so.

People ask me everyday how long I will wait for this girl. That question has two answers.

As long as it takes.

or

Or until I am told that I shouldn't.

Try to remember these things.

RESPECT (no elaboration needed)

Don’t give up when she expects you to. Remember its probably her past that makes her feel like you will.

You are not the cause of her wounds.

If you love her, love her without apologizing for it.

If space is needed. Only you can provide it. Shes not going to beg for it. She will ask once, maybe twice. Failing to understand its importance will morph your fears into reality.

She will never ask you to wait. But you will do it if you think shes worth it.

She feels guilty that you’re putting your life on hold for her. Ignore that. She feels guilty about things you will never understand. Guilt is probably her most painful emotion to overcome.

You are not a band aid, so don’t act like one. Hookups are band aids. Affairs are band aids. True friends are not.

Encouragement is still valuable while giving space. Send periodic messages that she doesn’t need to respond to. Do not burden her with the guilt of “ignoring” you. Remind her that you’re proud. Do what you can to leave love out of it. Just tell her she is strong and you are thinking about her. praying for her etc. Remind her that you are always there “IF” she needs you not “WHEN”. Don’t come across as assuming. (space these messages out. Don’t think daily right now, think weekly)

Remember that she is probably less in love with herself than you are with her. She has to get there in order to give you or anyone the best version of her. She cannot give the broken version away. The fear of sabotage is too much. If you are good, she fears ruining you.

She wants to be heard but she will never beg for your ear. You just always have to be listening.

Take the time to work on yourself. If you have fear and doubt about her. Take the time away to rid yourself of those emotions. Uproot your own darkness that is causing them.

She likely wasn’t looking for you when you arrived. You showed up out of nowhere. There are probably feelings that confuse her from the very first conversations you had. No matter how much time has passed since. Those confusing emotions still run through her mind. That’s ok. That’s likely good or she would have cut you off completely before letting you into her circle to begin with.

Remember that the confusion you feel right now does not compare to hers. The time that goes by will suck. You will miss her. But there is nothing else you can do. Tell yourself everyday that you deserve her. Tell yourself that she deserves your patience. Focus on what makes you special to begin with.

She is worth it. Or you wouldn’t be here asking this question.

That’s most important thing I can say. When you tell a girl that she is worth it or she’s worth the wait. I promise you shes heard that song before. So far no one has made that true to her. No one has actually finished the song, recorded it, and gave it to her to keep. Be the guy that that completes her playlist. She has a wall that you will never completely tear down. You will remove a few bricks from time to time. But if you really like whats on the other side of that wall. You will try again and again to climb over it. When that person decides to love you she will love you so completely and faithfully that you will be glad you waited. She will not give her love away casually.

Stay focused. Keep climbing.

The man on top of the mountain didn’t just fall and land there. (Not my quote)

God Bless You

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[nars.y]

Yes I'm not ready because I want to be alone as I just left a long term relationship. Have to put myself first .

[lincolnpascual]

"I'm not ready for a relationship"... always assume the silent "with you" is true, and act accordingly. She's not worth any more effort, especially when she was throwing all the signs of "girlfriend material" the whole time. Walk away, and don't look back.

Behind every beautiful woman is a man who is sick of her shit. Be THAT man... walking away.

[luistonicher]

This was my dating experience this year, just stay way from this people and value yourself and your time more, you can be friends but dont simp her ot let her use you....

[aviasim]

Just came at the right time actually I've been very curious why she told me she was ready but listening to your advice has GREATLY helped me
Thank you

[andrewgrace]

As a 35 yr old man I can honestly say that I have been avoiding my feelings for a long time for fear of being hurt. Then 8 months ago I met someone who I had no idea would change my life in a way I didn't think was possible. Guys let me let you in on a little secret. When you know in your heart that you have found that beautiful soul who is charismatic, authentic, caring and they accept you for who you are, there's no greater feeling in the world other than the birth of a child. I recently have asked myself do I deserve someone who is that wonderful of a person? My answer is your damn right I do! I want to know everything there is about her and make her feel as special and amazing of a person as she is and deserves. She deserves someone who will treat her and love her for her and I want to be that person in her life if she will allow me to be apart of her life. I once asked her how does she know that she won't meet someone who will be her best friend for the rest of her life? And I knew it right then that I wanted to be that person. She has treated me better than I've treated myself and I want to do the same in return.

[chishimbabc]

You are looking beautiful Coach🙌and thanks for the information.

[darktrooper]

Thank you for your fantastic video. This will greatly help me in my quest and will improve myself too.

[juliochingaling]

Thank you Mrs Ponti, excellent and helpful video. God bless.

[ribbit]

Your timing is scary! Thanks for this video!!

[danielsantana]

Thanks apollonia you really made my day with this video. I told another youtube channel how much I love your how to attract videos

[albertwhittaker]

Thank you. I needed this video. Spot on.

[BelowTheApron]

I'm not ready right now, because I'm too busy work, which is all the time

[JDoomhauer]

She’s ready, just not with you. Cold hard truth.

[believer]

What if she says she’s not ready but turns around and decides to be in a relationship with another person? But for a very long time was telling you she isn’t ready? (This just happened to me)