Tony Robbins explains how to not let opinions of others affect you

Author and newly-named member of the Worth Power 100 List, Tony Robbins recently visited Business Insider for a Facebook Live chat about personal finance, politics, and strategy.

Here he talks about not letting the judgement and opinions of others affect you.

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[zealoustipp]

I hate when ppl drain my happy spirit from me. Especially when I'm just trying to survive and s***. It's like leave me tf alone & let me do my thing.

[jollyblue]

I'm not the biggest Tony Robbins fan, but everything he said in this video is dead-on accurate and true. Valuable words to live by whoever you are.

[lizziedizzie]

Now this is a different angle to not giving a sh*t, which is correct but infront of toxic people, not giving a sh*t is a cure.

[Huntingtruth]

confidence purpose intent and goal. as long as you have a reason that works *for you* to do the things you do, and trust disagreements or being wrong is fine, learning is something that continues in life, dont be afraid to try and learn and share with basic respect.
Life on easy mode

[nothing-lped]

Tony Robbins u r the best motivational r unique ☺❤

[johnwhite]

Having something that makes you excited and feel alive everyday is key - the proof is watching retirees degrade so quickly after leaving what they love and not having a substitute -

[JontheWorldsBestMediator]

Nice video Tony. Well said. God to see and hear your human inflection. I agree having a mission is our guiding light! Thank you Business Insider too!

[GodsCommunity]

Goodness! Blessing full of blessings. 🌲🌳🌴

[jacobcanon]

"don't let other people influence you"But... it's why we subscribed...

[teddybeer]

Oh my goodness...when people say "I don't care" they mean they won't let the things like other people not liking them for example, stop them from living their lives. It doesn't mean "I'm indifferent to everything" or "I'm too scared to try".

This has to be explained?!

[Huntingtruth]

I live by one rule that branches like a tree depending on the area of life im dealing with.
Any advice is good if you use it correctly you can in maths get a correct answer as long as you have some base data the trick is to put things into a context valid to you and your situation.
also remembering to love yourself like you love a naughty but adorable child or animal you love but respect.
treat yourself when you are excellent and exceed your average attempts but dont expect excellence as normal happiness contentment is a choice based on the mode of life you want to live but any version is valid and worthy

You don't ever stop caring, or become numb or disassociate completely...unless you are void of all emotions feelings and thoughts and without constantly medicating or meditating (choose your pleasure/poison) the only way that makes logical sense (we can use logic to create habits tools rituals to be make non logical mental and emotional phenomenon healthy and positive) you learn to put things into context and recycle emotions and energy correctly/efficiently.

one hurdle ive gotten over is loving family that doesnt know how to love without causing damage.
i have more love than ever for this person because i understand them more than they do and carry no more pain but the expectation they are who they are and i can love them without needing to take on the negativity.

an example. we sometimes have friends that we can dependably not depend on, or only depend on them being there at certain times or for certain things we can do this easily at work with animals and children but find it hard when our emotional intent isnt defined or given context.

are you expecting something you know full well the person is not capable of? are you insulted that they behave the way you knew they would? does that now not seem like something you could have turned to your advantage?

Learning to choose who fits what and learning people are individual and will do things the way they feel best is important. basically getting to actually know someone and showing them who you are and being honest with yourself and them.

doing that and having that understanding of yourself is another step i am currently working on. I am faster to judge myself than others. if i just do the minimum of what i expect of myself a passing grade or dont over achieve past my expectation i will feel some way about it till i think about how hard and unrealistic i'm being on myself. that its silly, and how amazing simply being alive in the world then i laugh about it and accept the world as it is.

lots of things we would like but most of it isnt real or isnt as good as what we already have thats amazing but dont think of as often since we are used to it.

emotional pains and set backs are all learning experiences i compare to when i stub my toe or hit my funny bone it always hurts, thats no surprise but you have to laugh it out (not the end of the world) and sit while you consider the solutions (put it in context and veiw it outside of the situation) its never as severe as it feels at first and **time is yours and free take as much as you need to come to the solutions that work for you with minimal external impact** live physically and ethically/morally in balance and harmony

pain can be motivation, shame can be the truth and a lesson rarely given hard to overcome but amazing once growth can occur.
simple small steps to lead to not invulnerability but the ability to think rationally have a debate deal with pressure and fire but with grace for the best.

live life like a emergency surgeon or firefighter or high risk profession or a peak athlete.
using the skills these people use to think and act in fast high risk impact situations all crossover to other aspects of life.
you dont have to be a pro boxer to know to "roll with the punches" emotional or physical to lower damage
you dont have to be a public speaker or singer to learn breathing speaking techniques that help with confidence and expression or body language and how to use it to communicate. you dont have to be an athelete/singer actor performer to understand or enter flow state we do this often while unaware but when things surprise us we get thrown out of our natural flow. the trick is to consider it part of the same as a singer mistakes happen in music or vocally a trick that is valid with many things repetition of an accident makes it intentional can add interest and is still in symmetry, space/taking your time and silence are powerful when used. Anything done with intention and confidence, but with honesty and openness; will always be respected more than inauthentic perfection
people only know you are wrong if they can prove it in which case be open to learn and grow or if you show them you are wrong with your energy lack of confidence or follow through.


Remember to love yourself like you love your favourite animals or people. they have boundaries and are not always free or perfect but you know to expect them to be them and you love them for it.
likewise love yourself for your imperfections and praise yourself more when you exceed yourself instead of self excellence being the standard

[purplepeopleeater]

I was just looking for inspiration...how oversimplified and unimaginative this was

[rullygyuud]

The hipsters I see are actually the *most* caring people.

[ldrbufe]

Care why? That's a good place to start,

[shadowman]

What if you don't have a mission or something that excites you. :/ even after searching for decades.

[ParallelGamingReality]

I hate when People mistake Demons for being people as well.

[nightcorefan]

Another way to block opinions is know that only you and god knows everything about you. Parents as well but not for everyone. I hope this helps people realize and start to keep a positive mind in them forever.

[ParallelGamingReality]

I must have less needs than the others

[BrotherBoresIsBest]

Kobain did it best. He just put it out of his brain...

[darksoul]

Bullshit. Caring is the way to have a miserable life.