Should You Still Have Kids Or Not? | Filipino | Rec•Create

We asked these young Filipinos yes or no questions if they still want to have kids, and is it okay to choose not to?

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[ninjaBAZUKA]

If you can't give the world to your kids then you don't deserve to have one because of how cruel this world is. Don't let them be a part of this miserable world.

[mystique]

I love you babaeng nka yellow with glasses. Everything u said are ON POINT. Kung wala sa capacity to raise a child and give a better life for them, PLEASE wag na magparami maawa kayo sa sarili nyo at sa magiging anak nyo.

[nadsmedina]

I really like the answer of the guy with checkered long sleeves. Kung di emotionally stable or di mo kaya magpalaki ng bata na kailangan ng emotional support, financial security, safe & accepting environment and shelter then don't have kids. Dahil magpapalaki na naman kayo ng mga batang emotionally unavailable at nakapasan sa kanila ang responsibilidad na buhayin ang sarili nila sa murang edad na hindi naman nila ginusto.

[hellokatt]

I remember having some co-workers who constantly made me feel like they were dragging me down because I didn't have kids. They would ask med to splurge more because they believed I had no expenses, and they pressured me to have a child with my ex-boyfriend even before this happened. I was so irritated that I couldn't help but say, "Please don't involve me in your complicated lives. You guys are always complaining about your husbands and noisy children, unable to focus on skincare, and pressuring me to have a child. Is it because misery loves company?" No effin way.

[raiamanzano]

Parenthood requires life-long commitment and emotional, financial, physical, and mental stability. If wala ka non, and you're also not that eager to work on these things, it's much better to not have a kid.

[jrllynlcr]

As a 17 years old this always come to my mind. Gusto ko to topic na to as much as possible inoopen kwento ko sa family ko, ayaw ko magka anak. Sabi nila sino mag aalaga sakin pag tanda. Nasa isip ko so mag anak ba ako para may mag alaga sakin. Ang dami ko nakikita (sorry for the term if may na offend ako) - matatanda or a grown up may anak but magisa sila sa life. Nasa isip ko yes masaya may anak ka iba feeling, pero it is a responsibility and hindi ko makita sarili ko may anak. Lalo na panahon ngayon puro single parent tapos ang laki na ng population. Saka you to be financial stable, mentally stable talaga to have a child. Saka wala naman masama if choice naman ng isang tao d magka anak.

Saka pressure, kasi syempre babae is the one giving birth may cases pine pressure sila magkaanak. Kasi parang gawain lng babae mag anak. Pero dapat normalize natin if a girl doesn't want to have a baby so what! Saka mahirap kasi madami naghihiwalay na partner pero may anak. Yung anak naapektuhan talaga.

[lunaimadog]

Wow! I am so glad pinagusapan na din to jan sa Pinas. Romanticizing the idea of a baby or a child, 🤔...
As a woman in my early 30's I would say, I didn't regret my decision of not wanting or having a child. I was highschool, at that time I realize it is not for me. Poverty and inflation opened my mind sa reality ng buhay. And when I was in my 20's and working. The desire of not wanting child(ren) is became more stronger. I couldn't even afford to care for myself, provide for my needs and I have my parent asking for my help (typical tradition of Pinoy, you owe them your life). Ngayon, napaka saya ko. I don't have to hustle for a job, I only worry for myself and my partner, the house is quiet and clean. I don't have to feel selfish kung kakain ako ng masarap or magbakasyon na wala yung bata kasi, my child doesn't exist. Maraming ipapasalamat na wala akong anak. If only we analyze the idea of having a child, siguro walang batang magugutom, napapahamak, or any negative situation that can happen to a child or a person. Kahit sabihin natin na we grow up in a loving family but then we(they) leave in the house and build our (their) own family. Can we still assume if they'll have the same environment? I've been there and done that. I was a child, a daughter, a student and a person(worker and colleagues), and also a citizen of the country. Mahirap. To inflect that pain again to another person. I don't think so it's a good idea just for my own benefits to find fulfillment, meaning and so on. 🤷
Anyway, to each, their own. ☺️
🕊️♥️🍀

[OurLordandSaviorSigmar]

We're more than 100 million here in the Philippines, so if you're feeling pressured by others, don't. You're not under any responsibility to procreate.

Children are wonderful and complex beings, but any parent will tell you, they're expensive. Just imagine how much our parents have spent on us growing up. If you have the means to raise them, and you want to, go. But if not, then don't. We don't need more neglected children here.

[Evenie_]

Being childfree by choice is beneficial for me, I dont want my child to go through what i have gone through. This is fulfilling to talk about because i feel very happy that im single and i am financially and emotionally incapable of having a child.

[sky_iwana]

when i watched the 'opposites' episode related to this, i was feeling different about the woman preferring not to have children kasi itinanim sa akin ng school na ang essence ng pagiging babae ay ang pagkakaroon ng anak. But as time passes by, I am leaning on her side.

I am very happy with this discussion because it feels like the voice inside my head has been spoken with these beautiful people especially the lady in yellow. As a panganay in a not so well-off family with unspeakable traumas on the side, it's a good decision not to have a child. 'Wag mag-aanak kung hindi naman kayang magpakamagulang.

[maryjeantigoylo]

If you can't take the responsibility as parent..then choose not to have kids.. periodt.

[christophervillanueva]

Nung late 20's ko nape-pressure na ko kasi lahat ng batchmates ko may mga asawa't anak na.Pero ngayon mag 34 na ko.Sinabi ko sa sarili ko okay lang kahit single di na ko mag-aasawa.Lalo na naexperience ko yung sa household na wala man lang support galing sa father.Yung sinasahod ko ngayon pang single lang talaga.Natatakot ako na baka di ko mapunan yung pangangailangan ng magiging anak ko, mahihiya ako sa kanila.Ok lang mag-isa though may time lang talaga na malungkot ako na mag-isa.Tanggap ko na tatanda ko mag-isa though di ko pa rin sinasara na baka magkapamilya ako in future.

[blnk]

Love the topic. Having a kids is really a preference and a lifestyle.

[jlsrflch]

I have so much respect for everyone involved in this discourse. Kudos!

[sineguelas]

Having no children is not wrong and does not make a person less than people have kids.

[tedsanity]

Honestly, I'm in the middle. I mean, it's definitely nice to raise your own child, but it's also expensive. I mean, it's already hard to pay the bills, what more if you have a family to feed right? It's not practical to raise a child.

There is no wrong answer here honestly; it's just a matter of figuring out your priorities

[atejumiiiiii]

Very relatable. Now that I am in my 20's and a breadwinner for 7 years, I decided to not have a child. Hindi ko nga maasikaso sarili ko, yung future anak ko pa kaya? I am glad na hindi lang pala ako ang may ganoon mindset. I am an elementary teacher and I love being with kids. I just do not want to have them because I am not ready holistically. Financially speaking, hindi ko mapoprovide kase sa pamilya ko pa lang at sarili ko kulang na. Sana wag masyadong mangjudge ang ibang tao sa ganitong mindset. Hindi kakulangan ang kawalan ng anak sa pagiging ganap na babae.

[olivertorres]

yes! To each his own. I always wanted to have a kid and I recently had my first. I'm the happiest when it happened but it's never easy raising a child. It's not for everyone, It's a personal choice.

[mariefetutor]

Totally agree with the girl wearing yellow 💯 on point. I really waited for this topic to be discussed.

[vareseources]

The answer is both.
Yes - if you plan your life and can afford to have kids.
No - if you want to stay happy and do whatever you want.