How to Positively Influence Your Husband - Gary Thomas Part 2

They discuss the challenges that come when you’re married to a man who seems unwilling to change. They discuss the importance of understanding who you are in Christ, how to act in a way where positive change in your spouse is possible, how to ask the “magic question” (“What things would you like me to do that I’m not doing?”), how to deal with “functional fixedness, and how understanding the differences between the male and female brain leads to greater intimacy.

[stacey]

"We go to God to receive, we go to our spouse to give"

[kathymyers]

I give this video an A plus. Begrudgingly. I’m becoming a godly woman. I ain’t there yet. Lol Thankyou for not painting us as harpies.

[janethallgurganus]

I am working everyday on forgiveness for myself and my ex husband. I have had a hard time on how to pray for him, but the comment on seeing him as a child of God and not an ex-husband has extremely changed how I pray for him. I can now see him as a brother in Christ rather than an ex. Thank you so much for this video.

[InverseDream]

Thank you all for the vulnerability! To hear men of your age and status acknowledge in a public environment how you need to grow in your marriages is so encouraging.

[jenniferc]

Conflict with my spouse is God's opportunity to reveal more of himself to me.

[wombamakuwanashiwaya]

Thanks Gary for teaching me the way that i can pray to the Lord about my husband.

[Silver-clbd]

As a wife and a mother of 3 (2 boys and 1 girl)God has shown me how to live and respond both ways being talked about in this interview. I love it! I'm so thankful that God has helped me to be gracious both ways.

[kimacker]

I think this is some of the BEST Godliest advice I have ever heard, thank you! I need all the help I can get.

[se]

What a blessing, I feel exactly the same way and it is what I teach my daughters.
Thank you for such needed message!
So full of wisdom and helpful if we listen, put it in our heart, and into action.

[sandrapagoria]

35 years of marriage and I’m literally crying as I listen, because I’ve never been able to change myself on a permanent basis. I’m striving to stop making the same mistakes with my husband over and over which frustrates my husband to no end. Lord pleas3 help me learn to change myself, because your my only help. Thank you for this video

[JM-rfbe]

You are amazing
May the lord bless you Gary Thomas!

[katherinecox]

Thank you so much for all of these. It truly does help. Especially when they won't go to counseling yet.

[nnylasoR]

Just @2:05 in and I’m simultaneously spiritually refreshed *and* SPENT.
✨✋😅🤚✨
I love what a vessel Gary Chapman is. Thank you for reaching through him to the core of me, dear Lord. ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥
PS- I am working towards recovery from lifelong [hoarding disorder] ~which has nearly driven my absurdly patient (albeit avoidant) husband to his brink~ and I do believe even he could concur with @2:10-2:21.

[francechabot]

Magnifique partage 🙌✅ merciiii 👍 I need to apply this. Gracias 🌈👑🗺

[joyofsalvation]

Husband or wife, one thing everyone needs and wants is validation.

[anneandersen]

So grateful for this. Thanks for sharing.

[grandmasstories]

This really hits the nail on the head. Thanks!

[Joyful-Heart]

Thanks for this advice! The Lord bless you!

[kkmomma]

This is so true. This had helped me ...ty

[BigEyesSmallMouth]

The one thing I have to disagree with is the "fix-it" vs. empathy dichotomy. When I fuss, it's because I want something changed/fixed. "Venting" just makes me MORE upset. And I'm saying all this as a woman.