How to Positively Influence Your Husband - Gary Thomas Part 1

They discuss the challenges that come when you’re married to a man who seems unwilling to change. They discuss the importance of understanding who you are in Christ, how to act in a way where positive change in your spouse is possible, how to ask the “magic question” (“What things would you like me to do that I’m not doing?”), how to deal with “functional fixedness, and how understanding the differences between the male and female brain leads to greater intimacy.

[the_ssas_squad]

Wow! This was amazing. I personally was in a marriage that ended in divorce. My ex wasn’t a believer and left me and our 4 children. Since then, I’ve grown in the Lord, and I am going through these videos to ensure that I am ready spiritually and naturally for marriage when it comes back around. But I wanted to let Mr. Gary Thomas know, how spot on his teaching and advice was and how thankful I am to the Lord for it. Although my ex was emotionally abusive and not interested in the marriage, God still had to show me, “You’re weren’t always right! You had some growing and maturing to do and you need to realize this before you get married again!” So thank you!!! It was great to hear how we as women should treat our husbands, how we are NOT always right, and the easiest change to make in a marriage is YOU! Hallelujah!!! 🙌🏾☺️

[goodmorningbeautifulhumans]

Act like a queen in your home, deserving respect. ❤

[nnylasoR]

I have been in recovery from shame, trauma, codependency and a severe lack of boundaries (among many other things) for many years now… and something occurred to me the other day:

Not long after getting married, and looong before my journey towards recovery, my husband once said to me:
“I want my strong, independent [my name] back.”
Lately, I’ve been feeling like I *am* back(!)
BUT not as myself, alone.
I am not “independent.”
I am once again a strong [my name] — because I am **dependent on the Lord.**

[iw]

Wow, excellent teaching. Pray for my husband & for me to stand up.

[karen]

I’m that wife, that needs that magic question.
It’s so hard but I serve the Lord my lord and my Lord will walk me through it. 😭🙌

[theladyamalthea]

THANK YOU for the obvious exception given for women in abusive marriages!

[charlesbayamfui]

I love everything about Gary Thomas. He brings so much on the table anytime he is on focus.

[MrVarkeyengland]

Very true, effective. Life gets easier understanding that only Jesus can change situations and change must start with in us first. The rest Jesus will do it .

[gods_girl]

Thank you so much! I'm always praying for a teachable spirit. I love to be taught.

[childrenofgoduniteinpeacel]

Wow!!! I love this! Thank you for posting!

[kaylanitsh]

So much of this was helpful and what I needed to hear. Thank you!

[luckyandblessed]

Act like a queen in your home, who deserves respect...

[cristinamathew]

Thank you. I needed to hear this, really puts things in a new perspective

[nenitamowery]

Wow just wow… needed this message. Thank you so much

[Thankful]

Consequences for a self-centered man? ok!
Here's the reaction:
"Don't treat ME like a child!" or...
 "I'm the man of this house/the leader or... the King of my castle!"
Guaranteed ...She will pay a price for giving a consequence aggreed upon or not ! I've seen it waaay too often.

Teaching a man to be a man, is NOT the responsibility of the wife; it's the responsibility of his mother when he was a boy---she was raising an adult---she failed---he will not change and resent the attempt.
I agree with you on the point ...'He will not change, so accept it', accept what he's doing; stop trying to change him, or give him consequences !
Here is what you do wives ...
P - R - A - Y !! P - R - A - Y !! P - R - A - Y !! (Fast if you feel lead.) God will contend for you ~ Psalm 35 ~ He is your Daddy and He doesn't like you being treated ~ harshly, disrespected, rudely spoken to, aggressively, passive aggressively, and or ignored! Praise GOD!!

[robincollinson]

My husband will not communicate. Ever. Unless it is screaming and cursing. No communication for 25 years. I am over it. Don't know what to do anymore.

[sofiaedwards]

Wow!!! Who is this man and how does he know everything hahaha. I want him to teach weekly in our church, please!

[Living_By_Grace]

I didn’t like to hear anything you just said but I understand and thank you for sharing this🙏🏼

[sharondavisson]

I prayed for my husband, built him up with positive compliments all the
NOW HE CHEATED ON ME AND IS WITH ANOTHER WOMAN 😡

[kkmomma]

This really made me think. Thank u for the broadcast!