Do Men REALLY Want a Strong, Confident Woman? What 'Strong' Women and 'Nice' Guys Need to Know!

Do men really want a strong, confident woman? The short answer, maybe! Are you a strong, confident woman who just can’t seem to connect with the guys you are interested in? Do friends tell you that 'guys just don’t appreciate your best qualities'? If so, how you display your ‘best qualities’ may be turning men off! Robert Manni, host of Guys’ Guy Radio and TV, offers his perspective on how men really feel about strong, confident women, and how the way a man feels about a ‘strong’ woman is often parallel to how women feel about ‘nice’ guys. What’s really going on underneath?


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[michaelsnyir]

I’m a widower dating a widow and thank goodness we don’t have this issue. We are both very laid back, both retired from professional careers. We communicate very well and know what to expect from each other. It should never be a battle of the sexes, it should be that power couple moving together. I don’t expect her to be more manly, she doesn’t expect me to be not to lead. Working together everyday at our relationship and recognizing our roles is critical. If you love your partner then the art of compromise is essential.

[montamiddleton]

Even other women don't like to be around women who can't turn off their "I'm the boss" persona. If you see everyone as below you good luck finding anyone who wants to be around you.

[kerryfoster]

Yes, if either partner is not able to hold their ground, it's never going to last. Someone who agrees or gives in will end up a doormat. Confidence is a very obvious but understated quality.

[tracy]

It’s draining: be this way to succeed at work: change to be that way to succeed out of work.

[Wildevis]

Such a relevant issue as there are many single women who had to get more assertive to take care of themselves and are reluctant to give up that independance without knowing they can trust a man to be soft with. I also have attracted more weak men who's just looking for someone to take care of them than a man who is decisive and assertive, without being disrespectful or bossy. I agree with Robert that one have to stay true to yourself as well and I have found that I only become "bossy" (a state I hate to be in) when a man is wimpy and indecisive and sits and waits for you to make the decisions. That is not what I want and I will do it a couple times just so something, anything is decided and happening but then I just tell them very nicely that this is not working for me as I am becoming someone I am not and do not want to be. For me now that is a good guideline, if I have to become someone else in a relationship to make it work, I am wasting my time and his

[kathleenleachman]

Hi Silke and Robert, great episode. Robert, you totally tell it like it is, and I love how you've described the current state of affairs. David Deida writes a lot about this topic, the masculine energy of the modern day woman and how we can manifest our soft, playful, attractive feminine energy. I agree with one of the comments below, no one wants to hang out with a bossy person, man or woman, it's boring and annoying.

[rene]

I’ve been watching your YouTube channel for a while and I finally decided to subscribe because I really like you and the content you create. I wanted to suggest that you have Brian Nox on your show. He’s an author and YouTuber like you-he’s a very bright young man who is insightful and honest. I especially like his video where he describes and analyzes the difference between physical and emotional attraction. As we all know physical attraction usually disappears if there’s not an emotional attraction going on.

I know you usually feature experts of “a certain age”. I am 64 and love this guy! please take a look at his channel and consider interviewing him. His advice applies women and men no matter what their age.

[junebuggy]

I only want a sweet and confident man, not childish nor macho, but fun and naturally manly. If you feel tense from their demands and need for control and it's a relief to be AWAY from them, run. Women want a man that's interesting, but if she's mean and wants a 'bad boy', she's immature.

[breynnbailey]

I really like what Robert said. Are we encouraging women to be in their masculine or be men or are we encouraging women to be the best feminine women they can be. Women by design are not weak. Being feminine is not weakness. I think that some of the feminist movement was about women becoming men. You can see it in clothing design and how they act, aggressive, dominant, pushy. I think where men get scared is the playing field is unfair. If a man is dealing with a woman in her masculine and he responds to that and then she switches and cries or her feelings are hurt he doesn’t know what to do. Another very good video. Side note. Jorden Petersen talks about this a lot and really explains it well. He also does an interview with a woman and they talk about this. I will look up her name. But very interesting. ❤️

[TedNewkirk]

Strong, confident women may over-estimate the caliber of man they can attract. While "strong and confident" make an average-looking man much more attractive (overall), that does not mean the reverse is true.

When a woman says "I can't get a man even though I have all this to offer", what she is really saying is "I can't get a man of the level I feel that I deserve". Sometimes people set their sights a bit too high. The marketplace can be brutal in showing the reality of what/whom one can attract.

[robs]

So, the question is "Do men really want a strong, confident woman? " Robert starts telling MEN how to behave. That's not answering the question. That's a bunch of gobbledy-gook. Men don't care if a woman is or is not a "strong, confident woman." Men at this age (59 for me, but generally over 50) want women who are fun to be around and interested in the things he is interested in. Sexy and attractive are pluses, and are also subjective. Start there. If a relationship develops, great. If not, you can be great friends, and meet their friends, and maybe find a relationship there, assuming you're actually looking for a partner. "Strong, confident woman" is a way women describe themselves. I don't think I've ever heard one of my friends say "Ooh, I like a strong, confident woman" or " Nah, I'm not interested in her. She's too strong and confident." Is she doing something I'm doing, like dancing or skiing? I'm interested. Is she attractive and showing interest? I'm interested. I'm never going to ask "do you consider yourself to be a strong, confident woman?" Cuz I DON'T CARE! It doesn't affect me. What affects me is your personality when you're around me.

[jodirowe]

This was fascinating; my experience has been men won’t stop talking about themselves, selling, dominating, which is interesting as I’m a professional woman. But in my experience, men don’t want to communicate WITH me, just AT ME

[susancourtney]

Excellent conversation - appreciate you both!

[leonardascorpius]

I think we all need a refresher/do-over on how to communicate non-defensively with less pre-existing judgements from all of our previous "failed" relationships.
Men need to become more proactive, assertive, and take care of their inner demons on their own time, while women really need to stop going for 100% equality in every sector of life. There's a time and place for nature and biology to let men be who they are--protective, decisive, providing, the pursuant/chaser.
Learned this the very hard way over the last few decades. 😅😮‍💨

[jackieedwards-henry]

Generally speaking, I like people. That’s a good starting point. And then, regardless of the relationship—female/female friendship, male/female friendship, male/female romantic relationship—the ones that have worked best for me involved some shared common interests and each of us having our own sense of purpose and some different interests. The people in my lasting relationships are interesting people who are attractive to me in much more than surface ways; people from whom I can learn, and people whom I respect. And those relationships work because it’s mutual. I’m happy to follow or lead depending on what’s needed at the moment. I dislike being forced to always follow or always lead, and that usually results in the end of the relationship.

[qbraun]

I would never date or marry a woman with a corporate title, a devout feminist, or activist. A strong confident woman is like a guy trapped in a woman's body, and I am not gay, nor desparate. I learned that the hard way with my Ex, who to this day can't keep a boyfriend and is a director at a large corporation. She is friendly yet bossy. She just can't turn it off.

That said, I like confident women. But confident as a woman, in a classic sense. I want to see witty and clever conversation. I don't want to arm wrestle a conversation, and go to war when we disagree. I want to sense a soft spirit who wants to be interested in my life, and I want to feel like I want to encapsulate her and make her my own purpose to provide and protect.

There are guys out there that like the strong and confident women. They often have that mom-complex thing going and will eventually run off any woman.

It's just the sign of the times. It's best just to remain single until a suitable partner turns up, and not look or hope to find them. Don't hunt, don't seek and let life work its way out.

[MrSsur]

I'm a strong, confident woman BUT I'm finding from your show and with John Grey and Alex Cormont that women STAY in there Masculine much and forget how to be feminine. Hard lesson for me to learn lol. I love a masculine man and yea he would like a feminine woman---but confident woman being her best feminine self. Both have to be their best masculine and best feminine selves. My issue comes with arguments. I grew up around men--no women and my brother said I argue like a man and men don't expect that nor know how to deal with it; and I don't know how to argue differently. Trying to figure that out now. lol Thanks! Was Great!

[snorrevonflake]

I want a dreamy, sensitive, airy, almost fairy like woman because thats the energy i also live.

[sesvaoffice]

there are preconceptions about traditional stereotypes that some people find difficult to detach from because if means re-evaluating their world view and belief systems. They may not even be aware of this. Disrespect may be entrenched in that type of thinking. Overall though, respect for other people whether in a romantic or business relationship or just everyday life can overcome the issues being discussed - whether one is interacting with a man or a woman. In relation to fun, I've found men are always more ready to joke. Tho this can be frustrating in business meetings where the guys go off on jokey blokey tangents while you're waiting for them to get back on topic. My experience is men tend to be more easy going and don't take life as seriously. Women are always on alert to the currents and nuances and the need to be 'responsible'. Yet, when women get together they can be crazy wild but don't necessarily want their men to see that side of them (what happens in Bali stays in Bali)😆.

[wyleecoyotee]

Why are we concerned about this?
Women, be who you are and don't dumb down for anyone.