Polite People Never Ask These Questions

#Polite people never ask these questions. But, it's been said that the best way to get to know someone is by asking them about themselves. So, I'm going to be asking about you and will do my best to make you feel comfortable in the process. Subscribe if you're interested in getting to know me better!

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#You're so cute, why are you still single?
"Thoughtful, polite people don't ask about someone's relationship status," says Epstein. The word "still" comes across as judgmental in personal questions, she adds.
#why don't you have kids yet?
Polite people don't ask about reproduction because it's a touchy subject, Epstein says. "These questions can hurt, especially for those who struggle with infertility or have chosen not to have children.
#You look so thin! Have you lost weight?
For many, recognising someone's hard work is the ultimate compliment. Unless you know the person is trying to lose weight and is OK with your comments, stay away. Epstein: Polite people never comment on others' weight. "Superficial questions lead to shallow conversations. Illness, eating disorders, anxiety, and grief can cause weight loss."
Why haven't you put a ring on it yet?
Jodi R. R. Smith, etiquette expert and founder of Mannersmith, says not all long-term relationships lead to marriage. "Only the couple should ask," she says. If you want to attend a big party, host one (after the pandemic).
You seem like you're doing well, how much money do you make?
Smith says only headhunters conducting a confidential salary survey can ask this. "If you're curious how much your friend, cousin, or neighbour makes, check a salary website," she says. Asking for money is still impolite.
I'm sorry to hear your dad passed, how did he die?
Smith says it's natural to be curious about someone's death, especially during a pandemic, but you shouldn't ask. "The person you're talking to is in mourning, so don't play amateur detective," she says. "Express condolences and comfort the mourner, then leave." Plus, there are kinder ways (like Google) to find that information than burdening the family.
Why do you look so tired?
Bonnie Tsai, etiquette expert and founder of Beyond Etiquette, says what the listener hears is "you look bad." "They may be experiencing health issues that make them feel more fatigued, or they may always look that way," she says.
So, who are you voting for?
Politics is a taboo topic at the dinner table and in most social situations, says Tsai. No one likes being put on the spot by questions about political affiliation and values.
Where did you go to college and what's your degree in?
While this question sometimes happens in social situations, it's very common in business settings—and it's an etiquette no-no in both, says Maryanne Parker, a business and social etiquette consultant, author of Posh Overnight, and founder of Manor of Manners. Part of networking is learning as much as possible about a new acquaintance, but this can bring up uncomfortable issues like school rivalries or embarrassment over not having a degree, she says.
Why don't you get out more?
This could be a way to encourage your friend to try new things, hang out, or travel. "This question can be offensive because it implies the person needs more exposure and knowledge and is uninteresting," she says. This can be a sore subject if someone doesn't have your financial resources and wants to do more.
Oh, where is his dad?
This is an uncomfortable, painful, and unnecessary question, says Parker. "This is a personal question, and people tell you if they want to talk," she says. "Don't pry into their family life."
Are you a man or a woman?
We live in a different time than previous generations, and gender and sexuality are frequent topics. While it's fine to discuss them in the abstract, it's not fine to question someone about their identity, surgeries, treatments, or anything else gender-related, Parker says. "It's rude, inconsiderate, and derogatory to ask someone about their gender or sexual orientation," she says.
How old are you?
This is the perennial "do not ask" question, says Parker. "We all know people who don't like this question," she says. You shouldn't care why they won't discuss their age.
Why are you parking in the handicapped spot?
"Any disability-related question should be eliminated," says Parker. Many disabilities aren't visible, so your question may make them uncomfortable or defensive. You're requesting their private medical history. "Avoid anything about disability-related physical appearance," she says.
Are you pregnant?
Lisa Mirza Grotts, etiquette expert and founder of the Golden Rules Gal, says there's no safe answer. If she were pregnant, she'd tell you, but it's unlikely.
What religion are you?

Like politics, religious beliefs are very personal, and questions about religion are often based on location, ethnicity, or appearance, Grotts says.