5 Signs of a 'Christian' Player: Christian Dating Advice and Red Flags to Avoid

Sadly, players are in the church too. Here are 5 classic signs of a player. Never date someone who does this . . .

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[sugarandspice]

And just because you met them in church doesn't mean they're not bad/player men.

[vanzrox]

Red Flags(men AND women)

1) they want to date you before getting to know you
2) They'll send you mixed signals
3) Intimacy without committment!
4) A player will manipulate your deepest desires
5) They avoid your family/close friends
(Love the wolf/sheep parallel in the last point)

Thanks again Mark. Very helpful

[gabrielamartinyuk]

Oh boy. I’m so done with men who complain they didn’t get a kiss the first or second date... red No patience !!!!

[madelyngutierrez]

I had someone in my life that exhibited all of these. Goes to church but his life doesn't show fruits of the spirit. Plays games. Turned out to be a Narcissist. I put him on NO CONTACT. If you use the Bible as your guide, you can't go wrong in determining where their heart is.

[harveyabel]

I became good friends with a divorced Christian lady and our friendship became stronger and stronger in Chirst, eventually turning to love. However, she was convinced she could not remarry and sought the Lord's wisdom in the Bible. Imagine her surprise as she studied, to determine that she *could* remarry (as she honestly, desiring to obey the Father, interpreted it). We have been blessedly married for 33 years now.

[jdfodio]

#1 - Tell them to wait to move forward with you and watch what they do. Love waits. Lust doesn't wait. A player will move on to someone else. God's chosen person will endure. Problem solved! #discernment


1 Corinthians 13:4‭-‬7 NLT

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

[jdfodio]

"A mature Christian doesn't play games." #nuffsaid

[Michel]

The best way to recognize a player is to be sincere yourself, live close to the heart of the Father yourself. Dark spots are recognized easily when somebody is hold onto the light.

[friendshiptree]

A verrry confident player will want to meet and charm your friends and family so they can subtlety discredit you ready for the day they make their exit. This allows them to leave you without a support network.

[martinathom]

thank you!! I think a lot of men and women get suckered into flattery and attention.People need this. I am always skeptical of a man who wants to be too serious to fast. Always guard your hear for it is the well spring of life

[gwenrowland]

That’s my warning to my two daughters, ” if you meet a guy and it’s to good to be true!” Walk away... only Jesus is that good! Hallelujah. Let’s wait on God for our godly spouses!

[kailyntownsend]

Going on a date is how you get to know people it doesn’t necessarily mean you like them yet

[Suz]

These 5 qualities of a player in the church are so true. I dated a few of these types in my former church before I knew. This is a great video.

[kattmilk]

Years ago, I attended a large Church in Atlanta that had a HUGE problem with single men taking advantage of the single women in the church. When the head of the single Ministry found out about it, she called a special meeting and blasted the men who were doing it.

A man would have his "secret harem" of women: One woman for cooking, one woman cleaning for him and then one woman for his sexual needs. It's really a crying shame that men in the church would do that. That's why you have to be led by the Holy Spirit when you're dating nowadays. Emotions only will get you in trouble every time.

[jesuslover]

My ex husband was a player but didn’t know it while we were dating. These tips surfaced after we were married. These red flags all applied except for the last one. He loved to pretend in front of others/me that he was a good Christian man all while leading a double life as a sex addict. Completely con’d me and my family. Our poor kids. Pray for us.

[naomejustn]

Just walk away without telling em. Even if its a player hé Will be suprised. Because he expects drama.

[sunset]

This is really informative, practical and Godly approached in knowing someone is playing games. Thanks Mark for sharing this

[missmlb]

I wish I heard this before I got involved with a guy like this. My heart is sad, but thank God I started to see the truth. I really tried to give this guy the benefit of the doubt, but I see that a true man of God will do all that it takes to be godly and go thru the proper steps of accountability with godly and pastoral leadership in his life as well as the woman.
Thank you for this...it teaches me what to look out for. If you can pray that God would bring me His choice.

[sarahs]

My children’s dad, I fell for it all. He said he wanted me to be his gf right away. I felt a lil silly cause I felt too old to just be a gf. I felt we should have takin time to get to know each other first, against my intuition, I agreed cause I had a huge crush on him and thought he was so sweet.

[catb]

I'm a divorced senior Christian woman and met "Christian" men who started out giving me lots of attention. But when they quickly realized I was living my life biblically and there would not be a physically intimate relationship before marriage, they ghosted me. Real mature of them.