What Makes a Person Attractive?

We are collectively obsessed with the idea that an attractive person is, first and foremost, someone who looks terrific. But that's to ignore the widespread phenomenon of the objectively good looking individual who nevertheless fails to hold much appeal - and vice versa. Here is a guide to the psychology of that too seldom earnestly-studied issue: hotness.

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“Understandably enough, our societies pay vast attention to the idea of ‘sexiness’; far more questionably, they tempt us to believe that it might be easy to understand what this quality consists of. The leading suggestion takes its starting point from the biological sciences: we learn that sex aims at successful reproduction and genetic fitness in the coming generation. Therefore ‘sexiness’ must logically comprise a host of semi-conscious signals of fertility and of resistance to disease: bilateral facial symmetry, large bright pupils, full lips, youthful skin and melanin-rich hair…”

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[theschooloflifetv]

What do you think makes someone "attractive"? Let us know in the comments below and make sure you do not miss any of our future films by subscribing to our channel and turning on notifications.

[harshdeusecar]

Be someone that makes people fall in love with who they become in your presence, that is true attraction

[calebsmith]

“Light travels faster than sound. This is why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.”

[MrFlame]

People don’t realize how important emotional intelligence and empathy can be when talking to another human. I think we assume that everyone is very one dimensional, unlike ourselves who are very complex and have various needs.
People are not as shallow as we think.
Btw, thanks for the great content as always! You were a big inspiration for starting my own channel.

[StephJseph]

2:05
"Despite the raw facts of their appearance."
That's the nicest way I've ever heard of being called ugly

[saurabhsomani]

This guy knows all the synonyms in the dictionary for any word.

[katrinapetrova]

Honestly this guy could make an hour long video talking about toilet rolls and I would watch it fully, his voice is so calming 😂

[ossen]

Men and women perceive attraction differently.
The outer may attract people but the inner is what will keep them around.

[Inerize]

Even though hotness is an important aspect of relationships, it's definitely not everything. Intelligence, charisma, emotional maturity, communication skills and healthy values are key for a successful and long term relationship.

[MartyD]

FACT: Objectively attractive people have an advantage in this society.

[mimipaul]

Emotional maturity, intelligence, kindness, compassion, good conversationalist and good soul is what matters the most regardless of the gender, I wish more people would start paying more attention to their emotional growth and building good moral character than spending hours in gym and showing off their physical or monetarily assets.

[khanghuynh]

If I had a dollar for every woman who found me unattractive, I would eventually become attractive.

[ergolibersum]

This channel always succeeds in cleansing my built-up toxicity from the mass culture that we are exposed through media and people who internalized it. Mental qualities matter more than competitive material factors (such as wealth, looks, being fashionable etc.) for each and every one of us.

[jubjub]

The majority of us clicked because we’re self-conscious. Well, one step to becoming bomb-shell sexy is to be confident. So, put a smile on your rad face and have a rockin’ day.

[Eurodollartrader]

I too, expose my internal organs when I love someone.

[candeem.]

The thing is, physical appearance is what will determine if the person wants to do anything with your beautiful soul during the initial encounter. I mean, tinder for instance. It only takes a second or two to either swipe left or right. If the person is attractive, then we scroll down and read the person's profile and see if we can be more interested. If not, we swipe left after one second, not giving a shit about the person's personality.

[crookedroots]

Never take anyone for granted if you are truly loved by that person, never underestimate them or make them feel anyless than a priority in your life!!❤ don't make the mistakes that I did and lose someone so perfect.

[vineetgairola]

Beauty has no obvious use; nor is there any clear cultural necessity for it. Yet civilization could not do without it.
-Sigmund Freud

[Avvura]

Unfortunately, what hurts is finding someone attractive and connecting with them, sharing your vulnerabilities and thoughts, while also hearing theirs, giving them your trust and heart, to only be abandoned and hurt in the end. The complete 180 of the feeling with them and without almost feels like your thoughts are only dreams, like its not real.


Sorry just been oof'd in the heart recently.

[tracesprite]

I think we are attracted to people who have qualities that we lack. So a shy person may like a more confident person. A serious person may be drawn towards a more playful person. If you're feeling overwhelmed by life you may be drawn towards someone who stands up for themselves but if you keep rushing through life you may admire a reflective, studious type. This theory of attraction assumes that we keep wanting to balance and enrich our approach to life.