How To Become Dangerously Competent - Bedros Keuilian (4K)

Bedros Keuilian is an entrepreneur, author, speaker, podcaster, and business coach

Everyone could do with a bit more confidence in their abilities. A bit more certainty about what they can achieve and their power to overcome obstacles. Maybe telling people to man up isn't so bad after all...

Expect to learn what it truly means to improve, why the story you tell yourself about yourself matters, how to overcome the traumas you’re struggling with, tactics to fix the negative voice in your head, the most common problems men are facing, why you should never cheat on your partner, the biggest issue with incels and much more...

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00:00 What Man Up Means To Bedros
07:45 Dissecting the Story We Tell Ourselves
15:17 Why Bedros Despises the Red Pill World
21:53 Advice For Correcting Your Inner Voice
31:56 Getting From 0 to 1
36:24 Traumatic Events Can Become Your Superpower
48:57 Observing the Path You Could’ve Gone Down
53:52 Get Good at Eating Shit
1:02:26 The Realistic Path to Enlightenment
1:17:18 How to Not Give Power to Enemies
1:23:45 The Worst Thing About Being a Victim
1:34:16 Why Discipline is Emotional Maturity
1:46:32 What’s Next for Bedros?
1:50:05 Where to Find Bedros

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[ChrisWillx]

00:00 What Man Up Means To Bedros
07:45 Dissecting the Story We Tell Ourselves
15:17 Why Bedros Despises the Red Pill World
21:53 Advice For Correcting Your Inner Voice
31:56 Getting From 0 to 1
36:24 Traumatic Events Can Become Your Superpower
48:57 Observing the Path You Could’ve Gone Down
53:52 Get Good at Eating Shit
1:02:26 The Realistic Path to Enlightenment
1:17:18 How to Not Give Power to Enemies
1:23:45 The Worst Thing About Being a Victim
1:34:16 Why Discipline is Emotional Maturity
1:46:32 What’s Next for Bedros?
1:50:05 Where to Find Bedros

[BedrosKeuilian]

Chris, thank you for the opportunity my friend 🙏🏼

[eliezercastro]

Action alleviates anxiety.
Anxiety is anticipation of future pain.
Halt when you’re hungry, angry, lonely, tired,
you’re more likely to go back to your old ways.

Edit- I went back to hear this, so in case anyone missed it or forgets.

[mattk.]

Finally becoming the role model I wish I had at 20 thanks to men like Chris and Bedros. Genuinely appreciate this content.

[carsonjwill]

“I went to a new level of crying” anyone who’s had a breakthrough feels that.

[rachaelgrewell]

I'm a woman and I listened to the whole thing. This was a great podcast. I learned a LOT about myself too. Thanks!

[Photik]

Faith, family, fitness, finance, and fulfilment.

[nathanosterhaus]

Nice to hear about another man and his therapy experience. It's been two years for me and unpacking all that trauma from my past and processing it has been super beneficial to my life. I feel like a new man and I'm not even done yet.

[dameanvil]

00:00 🧭 "Man up" means evolving to our highest selves, transcending base instincts to become better humans, serving humanity.
01:18 🧠 Society manipulates through emotional dependency, fueling control, and compliance.
02:51 📰 Media fosters uncertainty, influencing diverse reactions; the purpose or coordinated outcome remains unclear.
03:58 🛡 People respond diversely to distrust in media, some rebel while others comply; circles may influence perspectives.
04:52 💬 Use of strong words about humanity sparks reflection, aiming to provoke an awakening, trigger action, and transcendence.
06:19 🤔 Negative experiences, like resentment, can act as catalysts for change and activation energy.
08:31 💭 Confirmation bias shapes our experiences; the stories we believe determine our realities.
10:45 🔄 Your perspective on the present moment is shaped by the story you tell yourself about it.
11:39 🌟 Personal development encompasses masculinity, emotional openness, dealing with traumas, and being versatile.
13:29 💼 Masculinity includes faith, family, fitness, finances, and fulfillment, going beyond the traditional provider role.
16:44 🔴 Rejects the 'red pill' narrative; warns against ideologies that paint all women negatively, emphasizes the importance of family.
18:22 💔 Lack of purpose leads to seeking meaning elsewhere, causing addiction, anxiety, and depression.
20:36 🎯 Purpose and fulfillment stem from various sources like family, career, and connection to others.
22:13 🧘 Acknowledging the multi-dimensional nature of existence, wisdom from experiences, and the evolving consciousness in aging.
23:10 🧠 Understanding and reconciling with personal growth often involves a battle between inner voices, the body's deterioration, and mastering emotions and thoughts.
24:07 🚪 Negative self-talk is the conscience's way of signaling incongruence between how you live and what you believe. Living congruently alleviates this negativity.
25:30 🤝 Keeping promises to yourself is a potent strategy; failing to do so leads to a sense of unfulfillment and self-betrayal.
26:38 💔 The emotional impact of not aligning actions with personal beliefs creates a profound sense of inadequacy and disappointment in oneself.
28:11 🛠 The absence of positive role models and tools can create resentment, but understanding personal growth is an ongoing process helps overcome this.
30:20 🛑 Blaming past events or circumstances hinders progress; taking responsibility and embracing personal development are essential for moving forward.
32:29 🧩 Achieving financial success doesn't always equate to personal fulfillment; addressing past traumas is crucial for overall well-being.
36:11 💪 Overcoming trauma can transform it into a personal superpower, helping one move past shame, rage, and confusion towards healing.
41:31 🌟 Disassociating from past traumas can lead to understanding, healing, and transforming a significant obstacle into a minor challenge on life's timeline.
44:16 📜 Bedros wrote a letter to his younger self, acknowledging past trauma, paving the way to open up to his wife about it.
45:12 💬 Speaking openly about his trauma at a public event was a turning point, sparking profound connections with others experiencing similar struggles.
46:51 💪 Transforming past pain into his superpower allows Bedros to connect, empathize, and guide others through their healing journeys.
48:29 👀 Childhood struggles became sources of strength—like his ability to observe intensely—shaping valuable skills and perspectives.
49:26 🚪 Unresolved past experiences can haunt and limit growth unless actively processed and utilized positively.
50:10 💡 Adversities—like being labeled in special education—were turned into strengths, crucial in Bedros' entrepreneurial journey.
52:23 💪 Healing through struggles creates a superpower; the gap lies between wanting the outcome and willingness to do the necessary work.
53:06 🛡 "If you're going to eat, get good at it": Handling challenges swiftly and effectively is vital in entrepreneurship and life.
56:33 🔄 Pivoting strategies swiftly during setbacks is crucial; dwelling in dissatisfaction prolongs the pain.
58:07 🏆 Focusing on small victories amid challenges leads to eventual success—a key lesson in Bedros' entrepreneurial journey.
01:00:51 🌟 Finding and stacking small wins is a strategy to navigate through the majority of challenging times.
01:03:39 🧘 Realistic enlightenment isn't perpetual bliss but stringing together moments of peace amid life's challenges.
01:04:47 🎯 Achieving success isn't about constant tranquility but acknowledging and celebrating small victories along the way.
01:05:15 🧠 Embrace moments of success, no matter how small, and allow yourself to bask in them to rewire your brain for positivity.
01:06:26 🌟 Take time after completing tasks or achievements to savor the sensation for at least 30 seconds, reinforcing feelings of accomplishment.
01:07:23 ⚡ High performers often tie self-worth to productivity, struggling to appreciate non-productive moments. It's vital to detach worth from productivity.
01:09:03 🌀 "Productivity Purgatory" and the "Dark Playground" reflect the struggles of always associating activities with productivity, leading to guilt and an inability to enjoy relaxation or fun.
01:11:08 🛑 Attaching self-worth to achievements or productivity is a coping mechanism. Healing from past traumas detaches self-worth from productivity.
01:14:47 💭 Becoming an observer in your own life allows for self-awareness, managing reactive thoughts and choosing responses consciously.
01:17:40 🔥 Use emotions, even negative ones, as tools for self-improvement, transforming toxic feelings into valuable assets for growth.
01:19:55 🎯 Avoid letting external enemies dictate your game or goals. Winning their game doesn't mean you've won yours.
01:21:44 🌟 Recognize and utilize all the elements within your control, understanding that personal growth requires using more than just a fraction of your capabilities.
01:24:05 💡 Awareness of victimhood mindsets and locus of control helps navigate personal struggles and avoid extreme external attributions for life's challenges.
01:25:57 🤔 Understanding and acknowledging grievances is essential, but dwelling in victimhood prevents growth.
01:26:55 🌱 Taking control in the current era allows personal growth; changing influences and actions can lead to progress.
01:27:38 🦀 In toxic communities like incels, hope is discouraged as it challenges the fatalistic mindset; action and hope lead to potential change.
01:29:18 🕹 Incels avoid action because it demands effort and change; this community discourages progress, promoting comfort in inertia.
01:31:53 🐑 Counter-culture beliefs can be as unoriginal as following the mainstream; being a contrarian isn't inherently sophisticated or smart.
01:32:33 🦀 Incel communities offer a toxic sense of belonging but discourage hope, stifling potential progress and personal growth.
01:34:21 💪 Emotional maturity drives discipline; despite adversities, maturity leads to consistent action toward one's purpose.
01:37:22 🤒 Embracing challenges, like performing while recovering from illness, builds resilience and increases one's ability to handle adversity.
01:40:07 🔄 Overcoming challenges increases confidence and expands capabilities; every hurdle cleared amplifies one's potential for growth.
01:46:04 🔄 Reflecting on personal growth over time can motivate change; evolving from complaint to becoming the hero in one's journey is essential.
01:46:32 📚 Bedros Keuilian is working on a second book in the self-development genre, exploring how instant change is achievable with the right approach.
01:47:14 🚀 Change can occur in an instant with the right mindset; Keuilian aims to share a method for quick change and sustaining a new identity.
01:47:55 🌟 Quick change doesn't mean it's effortless; while change can happen rapidly, it still demands effort and dedication.
01:48:08 🏋‍♂ Intensive personal development programs, like a 75-hour course, can drastically improve leadership, teamwork, problem-solving, and communication skills.

[gilbertomaradona]

This was amazing, as a 40 yr old man who had to navigate through life without a father...men like Bedros etc really help me find my way and thrive. Really appreciate your content brother!

[grantl]

Chris, I've always loved your videos and truly appreciate the immense effort you put into each one. However, I've recently noticed a shift in your approach. It seems you're now more focused on showcasing your knowledge and quoting others, rather than engaging with genuine curiosity in your conversations with guests.

I'm a big fan of Bedros and was eagerly anticipating this episode, but it felt like there was a missed opportunity for deeper exploration. It appeared that you dominated the conversation more than he did. While it's your podcast and you have every right to steer it as you wish, as a supportive fan, I must admit I find this change somewhat disappointing.

I hope you take this feedback in the spirit it's intended. I'm always rooting for you, brother, and look forward to more great content. Keep pushing the boundaries!!

[MikeHarmon]

1:06:07 - This part right here! This has been SO powerful for me, and I am so glad you mentioned this, I have never heard anyone else talk about this practice. I call it, Emotional Tethering, which is really focusing on how I feel in that moment and trying to stay there for as long as I can, focus so intensely to the point of goosebumps. I can then later, in moments where I need a dopamine boost, close my eyes and focus on how I felt in whatever moment, and pull those goosebumps right back, and I can't hold back a smile. It's a super power.

[michaelsmith]

Yo Grab a notebook folks. Half way through and turning back. Already downloaded to listen a few more times. This one is Golden

[TheMightyMidget]

First time I’ve heard Chris genuinely explore some of his weaker moments.
Was a great show of healthy masculinity and growth.

[isurfox]

There was not a wasted moment on this podcast.

[gtarptv_]

I'm 31. I've been shown what I can have and I've lost it due to my poor decision making and not valuing what I had. And not working hard to keep what I had. Living with resentment and seeking instant pleasure landed me at ground zero. I'm 31 and have nothing to show for. But I am worthy. The good Lord hasn't gave up on me. I have a purpose.

[ThatWeirdLady]

It's so refreshing to hear common sense, realistic advice for how to be a better human. This message is not just for men, everyone would do well to follow your advice.

[danielpayan]

That stuck in the hallway feeling and not being able to live a moment due to your past is so real! What a description!! On point! Thank you for this 🙏

[charlesrobert]

This was very insightful. Its not a small feat to express a traumatic experience to the World. I genuinely believe that Bedros is the personification of this statement - “One day you will tell your story of how you overcame what you went through and it will be someone else's survival guide“. GodBless you Both.

[JoseSalazar-plmn]

It’s very interesting what Bedros Keuilian described that we are living on three plans
1). The Body
2). Energy…the souls
3). And Conscience

Well, we are made in the likeness of God….The Trinity. So, not just physically like Jesus, but we have a spirit or a soul (like the Holy Spirit) and then we have our conscience…the ability to have self awareness like God the Father. We are made in His image in more ways than one.

We have the three planes that are separate yet we are one at the same time as well.