Dealing with Anxiety | Cherry Wallis

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[cherrywallis]

This is something that's super close to my heart / personal, it was quite difficult to find the right words. Either way I hope I explained it well/helped at least one of you. Likes/Shares are always appreciated - you never know whom it may help. These things should be spoke about, and not hidden - I'm not ashamed of anxiety. Thanks for watching xxx.

[adventuresofaaliyah]

I suffer from really bad anxiety and I can remember having the worst anxiety attack at sitc this year actually. I was actually so anxious when I met you Cherry but you made me feel really at ease, so thank you for that

[TessoftheTales]

I have anxiety, but I also have depression, so it's the worst thing because I'm not motivated at all to do anything, but then my anxiety flares and I get worried about not doing what I should be doing... Yay!
Thank you for this video Cherry, it was really helpful! Music is always helpful for me, and I'll definitely try the breathing exercises when I'm next in the grips of anxiety! Thanks <3

[HabboBZIsTheBest]

social anxiety is the most crippling thing ever & I think you have explained the feeling of anxiety so perfectly, this video has made me so happy & has definatly given me a ton of help (:

[SkylaSugar]

I've been suffering with Anxiety, clinical depression, and Panic disorder since I was 6. It's great to see Youtubers helping people out through videos! I wish I would've had support like this when I was a kid.

[ToshiroLover]

I want to say thank you. I have a little group of friends and I have social anxiety. My triggers are almost always socially. I have a hard time talking to new people and making friends. I'm insecure about how I look and that people will never like me. I don't know how to say hi and how to present myself. I always feel so alone because none of my friends have this, they are just introverts, and it's sad that I feel alone. I can't stand school and I don't feel like someone is my friend until they make a constant effort for a small amount of time. Thank you. Thank you so much. IF ANYONE HAS THIS. Go little by little. Raise your hand in class more, make goal to say hi to someone, make little goals. Thank you cherry <3

[cherrywallis]

So many nice comments, I hope this video did make sense after all xxx

[shauneevampyre]

I suffer from social anxiety and a large part of it is the distorted perception that everyone's judging me and that I'm inferior to everyone, so simply telling myself that I'm not, when I'm in a situation where I feel panicky, helps. I care too much about what people think of me so when I'm conscious I'm thinking like that, I will just tell myself 'yolo!' and that everyone has flaws etc. I also usually feel like everything is caving in on me when I feel anxious so I try to distract my thoughts and zone out, when that happens.

[abigailharris]

I'm not the sort of person who cries but I cried at this because for months and months doctors have been giving me stupid things to do to help my anxiety. I just burst into tears when you said music because that's pretty much the only way I can cope at the moment! Thank you xxx

[staywithkara]

I've been having really odd episodes of feeling more anxious and sick in certain situations than I should and just thought I was overreacting, but everything you've described like travelling alone, new experiences, being excited about something etc all make me feel really worried to the point I don't want to do some things, even though I know I'll be fine. I get the exact same feelings you've described, it feels so good to know I'm not the only one and you have no idea how much this has helped me realise that. so much love Cherry <3

[PencilMasterAngie]

My anxiety started in a middle of highschool, when I was in a really sick relationship, and my whole conscience was crushed.
I remeber, back then, not being able to even go to school. I would go only for one/two days so teachers aren't mad and then I'd fake cold or anything.
Till this day, when I have to go outside, to meet people, I want to hide in a corner and cry. And before anxiety grips me too hard, I breathe heavily, and I just try imagine it's all good.
It's hard as hell, and I had to practice this a lot... But visualization of how it all goes okay. How I have fun. And how everyone is nice and there's nothing to worry about. It helps.
I won't say that anxiety goes away completely - I am still worried, a lot. But at least, I am capable of going out and having fun. For real.

Cherry, thank you for sharing... And for sharing your breathe pattern. I will surely try that, and I wish you, and everyone who has to go through anxiety: I wish you strenght. To fight.

[SuperKitkat]

I have been battling this for about two years now. And everything she says is true. And its not an illness to be taken lightly as it controls everything you do and never goes away. My anxiety also triggered depression as i got so depressed that i couldnt fix myself or do what i wanted. I have issues speaking to people, getting my points across, crowds, confrontation, getting on planes by myself, presenting projects or giving talks and answering questions. Most of these things i have to face everyday. Unfortunately only a few things work. I listen to music all day at school it helps me get out of my head when im feeling anxious so i can drift off and ignore it. Another thing that really really helps though is writing. I write literally everything and how im feeling when it happens. It helps me notice patterns. And when im out and about im logging stuff into my phone. What it helps to do is pull me out of my head and make me see the bigger picture. I make myself quit thinking and just.let the words flow. And when i come back and read it i realise its all okay. Ive literally written "you are okay, its all gonna be okay and you know it, look at all the ways he doesnt hate you so don't even look at that option, its not hard just a few words, everything will be okay and i mean everything" then every time i prove it okay i write it down. And then the next time i feel like throwing up and i start shaking i go and i look at what i wrote and i literally have to take a step back and convince myself that everything was okay so why would this be any different. I mean it doenst seem like a hard thing to do. It seems so simple but i can promise its not. Multiple times i have had to leave class because i felt like throwing up. I couldn't text the guy i like without throwing up for fear of being annoying. I cant ask for simple things i need or want. Another thing i like to do is along with writing set a few goals. Just little achievable goals that will give me a hint of anxiety so i can show myself i can over come it. So like if i cant get up to get something because i just cant walk across the room in front of all those people. I sit there and say "okay in 3 minutes im gonna get up and in gonna do it" and when i do i feel so much better. It is a really good idea because it shows you that you can overcome it and that you have control and it helps put you in control.

[KagomeKitty]

I hate that you think your anxiety is gone because you're having a good day but then you can wake up one morning and be like "OH YAY, IT'S BACK!" :D I would quite literally do anything to just be happy, content and rid of anxiety. It's a very difficult thing to live with because it's not easy to cure and can quite literally ruin your life. 

[ewan]

I get anxiety whenever i'm about to do anything social. I really struggle to make plans to meet up with friends, and when i'm about to do something, I get really anxious when i'm driving to meet some one. Its hard because I've lost friends who say that I don't make enough effort. Luckily my close friends understand it. but it is probably the reason I've been single for so long, because I struggle so much making plans with new people. I wish I had a tip or advice, but its just something that I've had to deal with. I tend to feel like i'm going to be sick, and I get freezing cold and start shivering.
Really pleased to see you doing a video about this, because its something that isn't addressed very often, and it must have been so hard for you to actually make this video, so thank you!

[KatiesKreationschannel]

I really do believe that strong people get anxiety. I have been recently dealing with anxiety as well. Definitely feels like you are  not in control of your body. Thank you for sharing

[itsbeingmejess]

I've suffered from anxiety for 5 years! I'm glad you say you don't have to have panic attacks to have anxiety cause I don't particularly have what i'd class as a panic attack (even though I have had them in the past but it's not a regular thing). I'm so glad to see so many people here who are going through the same thing so I feel like i'm no longer alone x

[CookieMonster-usmc]

This means so much to me, because I have been dealing with anxiety for a long time, and I love it when people understand. <3 you Cherry

[erinlofthouse]

This is the closest description to how it affects me that I've ever found so thank you xx
Also if you are at school there are 2 things that help me: 1. if you can leave the room then do so, you can take a moment outside, breathe and calm down where people aren't looking at you
2. one if my triggers is when I have to do a presentation in class so I make sure I have something in my hand (usually a paperclip) that I can subconsciously focus on to take my mind off things
Hope this helps xx

[thereissandinourtoes]

I started having anxiety when I was bullied in school and now I get it for like the silliest things, like when I have to meet up with someone even though we've been friends for a long time, ... Even watching this video I just started sweating and got very nervous. I know how to control it better when I'm around someone that I trust, like my boyfriend. I think it's true that you'll have to live with it for a long time, but I also think that there are ways to get rid of it, and you have to learn a way out of it. I saw a therapist for a while and he helped me quite a lot with it, I just have to work some more on it until it goes away in the end! 
On the topic of tips, I normally turn off the lights and light some candles and put on music that calms me like Charlie Simpson or Ben Howard. What works really well too is to have a bath with bubbles and stuff and basically to treat yourself as much as you can, like having a beauty session or something like that. And from experience I know that if you feel like crying, it's better to let it all out and after that you'll feel a lot calmer.
I don't think I have any more tips apart from knowing that anxiety is something that comes and goes in certain situations, and when you're feeling very anxious just try to stay calm and think that it'll go away. Stay strong.

[LilySkye]

I have had anxiety disorder my whole life and I used to deal with it just by ignoring it and avoiding the things that made me anxious. As a grew older I realized I would have to face those things that made me anxious and could not live my life avoiding triggers. My biggest anxiety triggers are heights, failure/imperfection, social situations, driving, and being lost (i know, there are a lot). The method that helps me the most is just reasoning with myself in my mind and calming myself down with soothing breathing. I also realize the more I do the thing that makes me anxious, the easier it seems. I also like to exercise and watch stand-up comedy/funny shows when I am really anxious. People have told me to take up yoga and meditate, but that's not my style. My brain is too loud for those types of "relaxing" activities. I also was prescribed anti-anxiety medication but I did not feel any less anxious taking the pills and didn't want to be medicated.