INFJ: 6 Ways to be a Healthier INFJ

Ways to develop into a healthier INFJ.

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[bostonterrier]

I'm gonna practice being spontaneous - tomorrow at 2 pm.

[anhthupham]

1. Be spontaneous, playful, go with the flow
2. Put yourself first, not sacrifice. It is okay to make people unhappy
3. Be more present, be there in the moment, the your body instead of being in the next month, year ... :))
4. Learn from others, gathering different perspectives; take in from others, be open
5. Take care of your body, respect the physical world.
6. Let people see the REAL you. ( we like to move around with others to FIT in, keep every else feel good ) . Be authentic, be comfortable for who you are. Play the social game by your REAL self.
I feel like i am fully being exposed by this guy 😂

[bigchief]

Planning out how to plan less? 🤣

Sounds about right.

[pjolecystokinin]

1. Be more spontaneous 0:28
2. Put yourself first 3:37
3. Be in the moment 6:28
4. Be open minded toward others 8:16
5. Take care of your body 11:18
6. Let others see the real you 13:02


_As I write down on my "to do" list_
Observe the childrens...

[katkatkatkat]

“you get mad at other people because you have the decision you want to make, but you’re trying to get everyone else on board before you feel like you can do it” omg this is me faaaark

[FA-xryn]

I really struggle with being in the present. It’s like I have my own world in my head that’s keeping me from living in the real world. It’s really weird but as soon as i start listening to music for example it’s so hard for me to stop thinking about the unrealistic dreams I made up. I‘m constantly in a battle with my self to stop being in my fantasy.
Hope that wasn’t too weird lol.

[probablyclimbing]

Frank: Thank you for sitting through that, you’re a gem.

Me: Oh my god, he’s such an infj!!

*says an infj herself*

[zoooooom]

And the 7th way to be a healthier INFJ: Chill out about having to be such a prescriptivist about grammar and use some funky fresh prepositions to end your sentences with ;)

[timbirchard]

"I go out of my way to be correct, then I end the sentence with a preposition." Frank, you are my hero!

[JerrTheHooman]

#TeamINFJames

I've been having an identity crisis lately because I'm realizing 3 months post college that I've spent so much time blending in that I have a hard time identifying who I am and what I want. I feel like my personality is a learned behavior and not naturally who I am. The freedom to make my own choices is giving me crippling anxiety because I dont want to make the wrong decision. I feel like someone needs to dictate my every move to me because I'm lost. I just feel like a melting pot of everyone's ideas and values and not my own. I've been neck deep in the Ni-Ti loop for weeks

[iceink]

As an INFJ, I can confirm: you unleash your true potential when you are unhealthy and lose the power when becoming healthy

[manager-nim]

As an infj I think hanging out with different people and knowing them and going through all types of experiences good or bad really helps you develop A LOT, because you have to feed your Ni something and it needs experience to be able help you predict the outcomes of different situations, we need to get out far from out comfort zone to get better at dealing with life and making decisions, we need to go out there and be anxious and uncomfortable to realize that it isn't the end of the world if our plans don't work out. I've become much more flexible and spontaneous after just two years in college because I've been in different situations with different people and gained more experience and it all happened once I put myself in the most uncomfortable situations I can be in, I'm more confrontational than I was two years ago, I can easily go out with a friend out of the blue and it's really fun and I don't take things all that seriously like I did before. We just need to get through our barriers to know that water doesn't burn.

[iAyumi]

This video is so perfect. I do feel that being an INFJ I’ve been mostly misunderstood my whole life. I’ve had people think I’m boring, fake, manipulative and cold. Which is all very hurtful to me because I just want to make sure everyone is happy to the point where I forget myself. I’ve always found it difficult to identify who I actually am because I tend to be a chameleon in interpersonal relationships, thinking it was what others wanted from me. I’m finally at a place in my life where I am conscious of these things. I think all six of these tips are super useful and some I’ve already tried to implement into my life. I definitely have been super unhealthy and underdeveloped to the point where I’d see events unfolding in repetition until I actually realised what was going on. 🤯

[Kwiettizz]

I am really happy that you mentioned body/health, you don't always hear that one in self help guides. I think many intuitive types (not just INFJ) tend to neglect their body more then xSxx types.

Take care of your life-temples guys, whatever pathetic it sounds! When you lose health, it's very hard to get it back ...

[ScarletBirb]

"where am I gonna park?" gives me so much anxiety xD

[PanickedSpaz]

*currently in bed at 3am finally ready to go to bed*
*has gut feeling FJ just posted*
Wow I love finding new ways to avoid sleeping

[SadeMetsavirta]

I spent my college years hanging out with yolo extroverts, I never got to do the stuff that I wanted/needed with people because I always wanted others to be happy over my own needs. Didn't work out so well cause I got depressed and I cut all those people out the final year because I was so deeply EXHAUSTED at being someone I wasn't and no one knew who I really was at all :o Not fully their fault cause I'm good at people pleasing and becoming whatever the group needs me to be, but it was so strange yet again to feel like I "see" and know people and no one did the same for me.

[kealanibeltran]

I’m so terrified of letting people know who I really am. Graduating college and having all those new experiences has made me realize that this fear isn’t something that you can just “get over”, for anyone, not just INFJ’s. Still, that’s one of the primary reasons why I’m on this channel. I want to be understood and yet I’m mortified of the consequences of being my true self. I’ve been told implicitly over and over by people that I’m “too much” and honestly it’s one of the worst feelings I’ve ever had. I just feel like so much of my way of thinking is so BACKWARD from what everyone else feels and thinks. And when I try to explain a lot of what you thankfully put into words for me in this video, to other people in my own life, I’m met with misunderstandings and a weird judge of character. I never want to be taken the wrong way, yet I almost always am. It’s so scary to be stuck in this loop.

[AstronomicEdits]

I don’t really go out with people because I’m so afraid I won’t be myself. I will do stupid, uncharacteristic things to try to fit in with people and I won’t even realize it at the time. Then I’ll get home and I’ll be full of guilt. I’m a super wholesome, innocent person and I’ll act the exact opposite of that if I’m with a group of people if I feel like being my wholesome, innocent self will make me vulnerable or “uncool.” It’s absolutely the worst and I’ve tried being mindful of it and not doing it... but it still happens.

[josipakozul]

Recently I took this MBTI test and I was shocked because I saw how accurate everything is, considering that I am also INFJ. Your videos are really good and very accurate. I always analyse PEOPLE, their behaviour, like I am trying to find the true meaning of everything, I live too much in my past. I feel for example, that other people move on after breakup easily then me, I am very often in some nostalgic mood I can't explain. Sometimes I feel nostalgia for places or people I never saw before...I hope fellow INFJs will know what I mean. And I always admired those people with, ,strong identity'' you know when they enter the room their energy just fill the space and they always can say, ,This is me, this is who I am this is what I love...'' They don't actually say that with words but it just can be felt in the air if you know what I mean. And I never in my life felt that I had some true identity. I was friends with so different people. All my friends in life were so different types of people. For example I can go to the club and listen rock music and be, ,crazy girl who rock the dancefloor'' and the other day I can go to library with other friend and read existential novels. And in both situations I will feel good and enjoy them in different way.


Your videos really help me because before I was thinking I was lost and something's wrong with me but now I see I am just blessed/cursed with being INFJ haha :) And thanks for this advices