5 Reasons People Don’t Take You Seriously

Do your best ideas get ignored? Does your input get the brush-off from co-workers and friends? Here are 5 ways to start getting taken seriously.

Thanks for watching!

[nyeahgarner]

It would be so much easier if people would just choose to be decent understanding human beings rather than all of us playing these silly complex social games.

[deborahmendez]

Summary:
1)Do not abuse fancy words.
2)Do not precede your ideas with apologetic disclaimers such as "not sure if this is the best idea but..." use neutral language such as " what about?"
3) substitute "yes but" for "yes and"
4) Ask if they are open to suggestions or ideas prior to voicing them.
5) Follow up assertively. Apologetic language is out of place.

[syncurmind]

I had this problem but then I realised that lack of confidence and direct eye contact was the reason. Along with this sometime adding smile helps a lot.

[LisaRobbinYoung]

"yes, and" has been a life (and business) saver for me.

I learned that "but" basically means "forget everything I just said, here comes what I REALLY mean..."

by using "yes, and" I validate others and keep them open to hearing my point of view.

[belenaguilar]

the one change that helped me the most in my career is to be assertive and to get to the point. Short, sweet and to the point. People listen to you more if you talk less.

[niveshtater]

Hello Marie, from India. Yes people were not taking me seriously so I started to speak less and spoke to the point. It works !!

[Scarletlilith]

Ugh I have this problem. Since I'm short and look a little young for my age people usually think I'm too young to know what I'm talking about. So I started changing the way I dress, I stopped slouching and I make eye contact when talking. Its helped.

[mamalovesthebeach]

Excellent advice!! I follow these principles with my 19 year-old son and we have a GREAT relationship! Thanks Marie!

[thatswhatisaidCA]

This is awesome; thanks Marie! I have noticed too a very common problem I have is if you laugh too much, people relax in your presence and often take you less seriously and often try to take control. It's a bit of a balance being friendly yet succinct and get and maintain respect in a conversation or presentation. Enjoyed this!

[ItsKells]

These are great tips for written communication! I'd like to add in-person communication to the conversation. How you present yourself and sell your ideas in-person will also help you to be taken more seriously. Eye contact, firm hand shake, sitting at the table, listening with a responsive reiterative approach and leaning in conversations will also help you to be taken more seriously. Confidence is key, even if you have to fake it.

[Newfuturebuilder]

The "but" suggestions is a great one that applies when responding to others and just speaking in general. I mindfully try to watch out for and remove my "but"s.

[annebfprado]

Isn't it amazing how we teach the world how to treat us? I've noticed that the more I trust myself the easier I make for other people to trust me. On point as usual! Btw, I sent you a message today with a question. Hope you got it!

[drdnicebeaugelin]

when I started out as a young doctor 12yrs ago I used to be less definitive with the recommendations I gave to my patients. I learned over time and the hard way that most people want their doctor to speak in very definitive terms

[jacobbecker]

No wonder why she probably makes good money. She makes clear points in most, if not all of her videos. Marie Forleo if you are reading this, know that you have gained another subscriber.

[firedmotion]

You know this video really resonates with me, just the way in my emails of what not to say is almost exactly the way I say it. I am getting to a point where I literally feel like no one really respects me or what I have to say anymore. I can see why, just the way I present what I say. Great video, honestly this really helps. Just left a job, it was not working but in my emails, I would be constantly emailing emails very similar to those ones & barely getting any replies back. It was so frustrating!

[taniamarshallun]

Thank you Marie! This is just the insight I need to see right now. Thanks a bunch for sharing!

[JohnJones-cgxm]

I'm never taken seriously. I have naturally nervous and immature mannerisms. I have had some amazing ideas but most people don't want to hear it.

[priscillacarvalho]

You comments really work. I had to learn to be direct and state what I needed in a few words. People are too busy to deal with too many words

[yoyo]

I have been doing it all wrong. Thank you Maria!
I hope to improve my confidence and my fear of people with your videos.

[thuongphan]

Smart and humor. Always love. The world needs you Marie!