End of Life Visioning and the Death Stare

I hope you find some insight in this story about End of Life visioning and the Death Stare in Hospice Care.
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[tigeygirl]

I was staying with my mom when she was on hospice at home the last couple of months of her life. A few days before she died she was just staring toward the end of her bed. I asked her what’s she looking at, she turned to me and smiled and said “they’re all here waiting for me.” I didn’t even ask her who because I knew who she meant… her family and my Dad were patiently waiting to guide her on her journey. That comforted her and me even more. It was beautiful.

[robinchopra]

When my uncle died, my aunt was devastated to the point of suicide. She said the next night he came to her and basically told her he was fine and that she needed to get her act together. So she did!

[metacity]

My mom passed on last June. While she was bedridden at home, I have seen on so many occassions that she was staring blankly into a corner of her bedroom. She even asked me who was that lady holding a baby in her room when there was no one else besides myself and her. On the day she passed, i saw her opening her eyes despite sleeping all the time and looking into a corner and i knew at that moment that my late dad had come to receive her. I held her hands and then she passed. I miss her so so much.

[LoriDaniels-txpd]

My 106 year old grandmother is seeing angels and hearing hymns. I'm waiting for my departed grandfather to come for her❤🎉

[T.C.C]

I’m on palliative care since 2020 and I have gotten so sick before that I have seen my brother and heard him telling me to keep fighting it’s not time yet”

[lisam]

My father 2 days before he passed and before we put him on a sleep sedation at his request, in hospice he was very agitated but all of the sudden he was staring behind me and his sister and reached up in the air with both arms and said in a small voice "mommy"...he was 73, mother passed when he was 47

[jumpingjacks]

When I flew as a critical care flight nurse. One patient that I fondly remember, was not doing well and was dying in front of us and there was really nothing anyone could have done for her. She opened her eyes on the flight and said to me "Do you see them?" I said what? Do you see them all around us. and I still didn't understand. The patient finally said, do you see the angels around us? I said no but I told her I will look. It seemed to give her great comfort knowing this and I admit everything seemed more quiet, the mood felt light, and I was so grateful to share in a moment like this. We prayed together. Sometimes you do that. There wasn't anything we really could do for her except comfort care. That flight will always remain with me. Whether I have a bad day or a good day I think back to that transport and it always brings some peace to my life.

[MarieMackenzie-wz]

While visiting my father who was in palliative care, he started staring at a chair against the wall at the end of his bed. I was talking to him but he clearly was fixated on the chair. Finally he asked me, without moving his eyes, if that was his mother sitting in the chair. He was very close to his mother. I said maybe it was and it kind of shook me. But because of going through my father’s death, I decided to become a hospice volunteer, which did for 2 years. Lots of people asked how I could do that. My answer was always the same and straight from the heart. “ I consider it an honour to be able to provide company while someone passes from this world to the next.” Unfortunately, these days families are often living far apart and can’t always be there for their loved ones but a volunteer can.❤️

[CameronMcCreary]

Thank you Julie for this information. I am 67 years old and dealing with numerous health issues and when I leave I too will be looking for Jesus and my family.

[robertajeffries]

Sitting here in my living room with my
husband of 33yrs, as he's on hospice
and I pray he has such a wonderful
experience.

[pbcoupons]

My mother in law passed last week. Your videos helped me to understand the process she went through at each stage. She had a 12 hour dead relatives and pets party on the last day she was vocal. It was very enlightening for me as an observer. At one point she was in tears. I asked why. She said I just learned I’m smart. We all have our insecurities. She really was smart. But by her comment I felt she was already going through the end of life movie where she sees herself as others do. It was a tender sweet moment that I will treasure. And oh, my she had several cats over her long lived life and many seemed to visit on that day. Thank you Julie. You are such a good teacher on a topic that most people have little experience.

[tracylong]

This happened with my husband January 5th. It was a very humbling to me. I also asked him what it was. He just smiled, so I said I'm going to touch what your looking at and I did. I miss my hubby. My Texas Twinkie. I sent him off and did everything in honor of him. So sad he made it only to 61. I miss him. I made a shrine for him using the cowboy hat and boots he wore when we were married.

[cynthiamiller]

I was a hospice nurse for 15 years. I renamed the death stare. I called it the celestial gaze….

[leondraw]

My wife of 40 years is in this stage right now. If there were one thing I could tell young people is to enjoy every day because five minutes from now it will all be just a memory. It is almost more than I can bare.

[clarencejacksonjr.]

My grandmother saw her son, and parents. My father asked me who all the people around me were in his room and he was talking to his father. My brother's girlfriend told him to open the door so the angel could leave. A friend told me that she was helping her mother to walk down the hallway and she asked her did she see the beautiful city. She told her no. Her mother described what heaven looked like to her. These experiences and listening to you makes death an exciting adventure and not morbid. Thank you SO much!

[sladyalways]

My 94 yr old mom just passed away. Two days before she kept telling me my brother was right there beside her bed. He had died back in 1960 when he was 6. She told me he was there several times and would get upset that I didn’t see him too. I truly believe she saw him.

[ellenhulslander]

I know that your videos are aimed at families facing the loss of loved ones, but I don't know if you understand the impact you have on us seniors that have discovered your videos.
Being 74, the idea of my life ending occurs to me often. Your videos take a lot of the mystery and fear out of the process.
I can't thank you enough.
Now I have to figure out how to introduce my family to these videos so they, too, can understand. Not that I am planning on leaving anytime soon.😊
God bless you and what you do.
What a lovely couple.

[abbynormal]

We lived with Mom her last few years to provide full time care as her health and mobility declined significantly. Her final year saw a rapid deterioration in lung, heart and kidney function with occasional hallucinations. About 3-4 months before Mom passed, we heard her giggling and telling our cat Nollie, "I know you're not really there but you need to get down off the bed before you do something naughty." I went in and played along, shooing the invisible cat off Mom's bed and telling him to go use the box. Nollie had crossed the 🌈 bridge a year before, but we like to think he came back to visit Mom and distract her from her severe pain. Nollie was Mom's favorite "grandkitty" who always slept with her when she'd come visit, and she spoiled him rotten. 😄 If Mom was going to vision anyone, it would be a cat 😺

[RedRose-ilxj]

WOW - this account brought back memories for me. In Oct 2013, my 92 year old mother was hospitalized with a broken hip. The next day (Saturday), they operated on her. While visiting her Monday morning, I saw this. Despite just having surgery, my mother rose up from a lying position, turned to the right, looking ahead, saying "MOMMY! MOMMY! MOMMY!" and turned to the left. (note that her mother died 80 years before). Her health declined after that and her eyes remained closed until her last moments, when on Saturday morning, her eyes opened wide, and she stared, looking upward to the right, and then both eye lids slowly closed like a curtain being lowered. Jesus, I trust in You! (always pray the Divine Mercy chaplet for the dying)

[deborahhuber]

The morning my dad passed, he kept talking to someone and had a huge smile on his face and when I asked him what he was doing, he just looked at me like he didn’t know what I was talking about. It was just a few hours later that he passed of a silent heart attack. I’m convinced he was talking and laughing with my mom, who had passed 2 years prior.