YIKES! - The 3 Biggest Mistakes That KILL Attraction...

In this video, I'm gonna show you the three biggest mistakes that I see people make that
actually kills attraction. I'm gonna show you how you can revert this energy, actually become more magnetic, and stop doing what actually isn't working.

Now, the interesting thing about this is that some of these things I share, people believe, subconsciously, actually is gonna get them closer to what they want. But in fact, it has the
exact opposite effect.

Now, the first one is one that is probably one of the things that people use and have no idea that it's actually repelling that which they want, and that is that of neediness.

The energy of neediness is something that people do because somehow there's a belief that, if I try to control, if I do these other things that are needy, but that it's going to actually get me what I want.

This happens very often as well with that of what is called an anxious attachment style. So in general, there is anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, and secure attachment. These are the three main attachment styles.

And what people with anxious attachment style believe is if I try to control, if I go and, you know, try to fix this person. If I am this needy type way, then I will get that of the validation, the approval, the feeling of safety, or whatever the desire is.

Now, the thing is is that actually, many times, has the complete opposite effect. Have you ever been or met somebody that really, really wanted your approval? Really wanted you to do something? A lot of times, you can feel this if you're going to a sales store.

Go to a sales store, and you'll notice that the person that is normally the least attached is normally the person you're gonna be most attracted to. If somebody's like, "Can I please help you?

Can I please help you," and they really wanna help you, it's coming from a level of neediness, and then what'll end up happening is you're gonna feel that energy, and you're gonna kind of back off.

It's like, if I was making this video, and I was like, "Please like this video, please." And you were like, "Whoa, bro, just calm down, dude." But there's a different energy when it's like you're unattached from the outcome. Now, you could still have an intention. You could still have an intention.

Like, me working that nine to five job, if I were to go in, and using the sales idea as an example, if I were to go into work and my intention were to connect to other people. my intention were to add value to other people, that's a very present moment energy.

But if I needed to make my paycheck, if I needed other people's validation or approval, then it was a very different thing. Now, with this as well, let's look at this. This is a very simple way of understanding magnetic energy versus needy energy.

Think of magnetic energy as also non-neediness. The degree to which you are not needy is the degree to which you are attractive. The degree to which you have needy energy is the degree to which you actually repel love.

So the key to this is moving and letting go of the needy energy, which, a lot of times, comes from also codependency, codependent energy. And a deeper aspect of this is, as kids, what many times happened is we felt like our needs weren't being met, and we would then attune ourselves to our parents and to our environment in order to get our needs met.

So it's almost like there's a belief, growing up, that there's something wrong with me. I'm not good enough the way I am. It doesn't feel safe inside my own body, so I must tune to my mom or my dad and somehow make them happy.

I must please them, be the way they want me to be. And then what happens is, even after childhood, we're then in relationships, you know, years later, and we feel like, "Oh, I'm still tuning to my parents," even though now that parent might even be your significant other
or someone that you're dating, and you want their approval or validation.

You feel like you need them. And the key to this is realizing that, a lot of times, what happened here with neediness and codependency is, as kids, we may have felt like our needs were not met.

Our inner childhood needs were not met, and therefore, a lot of times, we wire in a belief that there's something wrong with me. There's something wrong with me, and that in order for me to actually get my needs met, I must overcompensate.

I must overcompensate; I must be perfect. I must make other people happy. And then what ends up happening is we get a self-fulfilling belief-prophecy thing, where we attract people that naturally can't meet our needs.

Because it feels normal for our needs not to be met, and then we go through a whole process with that because it refuels the belief, "Oh, there's something wrong with me.

[pyroghost]

1. Neediness
2. People pleasing
3. Attachment to outcome

[ElliottPiano]

I went out on a date, after a really difficult heartbreak and by having spend the last three weeks watching aaron extensively .

Man it was one of the best experiences ever, I had never felt so much of myself, having a strong frame and VALUING AUTHENTICITY AND VULNERABILITY OVER VALIDATION .
Everything aaron says came ouf of my mouth and my energy throughout the date .
Incredible transformation that could only happen "thanks " to a Heartbreak.
If you feel it, you heal it .
Peace

[selfhelpchampion]

When you don't feel loved, you will settle for feeling needed. The source of love is within you. Let it blossom. With every breath, you have everything you need.
Michele Savauanah Zirkle

[grenolf]

after a while all these words and rules become meaningless, when you just want to love someone just love them.. You're going to make mistakes, that's called being human and learning how to love someone the way they need to be loved comes with making mistakes..If they don't receive your love then it'll turn into all these labels and rules.. There's no rulebook to real love..Forgiveness and patience and acceptance is a big part of true love I think... Good luck everyone...❤️

[TakeBackYourMind]

Cultivating an abundance mindset and the self confidence needed to be willing to walk away from someone gives you a lot of power and crushes neediness.

[youdler]

Please keep making more content I have been watching since 2020 and your content has done so much for me.

[alyailithyia]

Your content has saved my life/reality many times over. Plz keep posting more videos like these!

[helenehk]

Thank you for being in my life Aeron ❤️

[oia]

I love that insights on expression vs. impression. Thanks so much :)

[KobyMathews]

My ex was a people pleaser and me the narcissist. I messed up a lot in that relationship and am working to not take people for granted anymore

[YLvidz]

Personal note: You are worthy of being loved. And the right person will not make you confused or make you feel like you’re fighting for their attention. And not everyone is out to cheat on you and destroy your happiness.

[brandon]

Loving the content bro it’s been very helpful for me already 🙌🏻

[ElliottPiano]

Thank you so much for uploading so many videos
I already feel an enormous transformation

[MissSunny]

I've learned more from your videos than decades of therapy. Thank you Aaron.

[Tresjoliecouronne]

I love you so much for this. Thank you for your work.

[KhoiKhoiBoi]

Crazy how you have all the love you want to feel inside of you already. If you look for love you imply that you don’t have any love to begin with. If you love yourself others will want to love you too.

[mynameisj]

About #1 I belive a important thing to activate no neediness is to not make assumptions

[little_red]

I love your channel, it's the only one I watch consistently. You have helped me grow so much! And now, today.... Everything is looking up! Thanks for all your help! You are amazing! Keep em coming

[Asset]

I've always believed if you are not yourself there is no point. People will just like a fake or hate a fake version of yourself and its way more work then its worth.

[jadebenjamin]

Just the way you said it. I felt it. I need to feel. I'm scorpio... I see you're sagittarius.