AuDHD & Empathy😅 #shorts #adhd #autism

[madij]

People always think your just interrupting or trying to one up them when all you want is to bond over a shared experience 😕

[Rose_Bay_Fox]

I can’t stress enough how true this is

[PlatypusandPancakes]

and then they are like stop interrupting me but all we want to do is info dump about that experience so that we are involved and engaged

[johanabi]

I call this “anecdotal communication.” Conversation flows so easily with other AuDHDers :’)

[scurvyelephant]

Like constantly trying to keep a beach ball under water…with my mind.

[jimwilliams]

To be honest, I can’t really comprehend why people don’t prefer to it this way. I not only do it myself, it’s really what I’m looking for from others. That’s what I like about neurodivergent social media. I think when talking about difficulties, sharing similar experiences is also much politer than those who offer unsolicited advice, or offer their opinion as to what is going on with the person they are talking to.

[Touay.]

You really have a knack for boiling these experiences down to their essence!!

[YT]

that's me unfortunately. took me decades to clock that other people perceive me as egotistic when I commiserate by sharing similar experiences. I just want to convey I relate. Never knew that it's a thing and connected with my adhd. Sending those shorts to people to make them understand helped me out tremendously since I discovered them. Thank you!

[elizabethdowney]

I've realized i do this and need to ask follow-up questions to their experience instead of indulging in my own experience. It's like learning how to communicate all over again.

[Demememee]

I’ve just been diagnosed with ADHD thanks to your videos! You helped me notice that there was a reason I was struggling more than others, thank you :)

[BabyFacedCowpoke]

A pet peeve of mine is when people just say "I understand what you're going through." It makes you feel they don't understand at all, and angry that they are even pretending to. Not to mention, it's just cheap and distant sympathy. Though if someone says "I understand, this and this happened to me." I would feel understood and safe. I dont get why the latter is considered apathy when it's literally a practice in empathy.

[anneabelle]

I do this with my bestie all the time. Thank God she understands why!

[alyssaf]

😂😂😂 The audio & her acting lines up perfectly!

[Kat]

I'm so glad I'm aware of this now. I did this all the time. I truly wanted to share and bond. Now I'm learning to just shut up and listen.

[FicklexHeart]

O…m….g you keep shedding light on so many things I’ve had to deal with for so long

[serenity-dggs]

I always feel bad cause I don’t want them to think i like talking about myself. It’s easier for me to communicate by like saying an experience that’s like what they’re talking about

[wendyj.]

Man! I feel both seen and horrible at the same time. My friends and family always tell me about how empathetic and compassionate I am and how I always hold space for them, but I know that I do this and sometimes I just can't help myself.


Sometimes I'll laugh it off and apologize and assign it to a trait of my triple Gemini astrological placements, but it really does make me feel like sh!% because I can't stop it yet.

And FYI for the ladies also. It's TMI but once our bodies start to head towards menopause (I'm in the perimenopause stage now and it really sucks), our hormone levels drop, and our symptoms get cranked up.

I'm literally having to go back to my psychology textbooks and watch/read anything I can find to basically teach myself the how and why of shutting the hell up.

[BrianFilice]

This is not far exaggerated. Even though we may mask how powerful the urge is and how painful it is to suppress it, this is actually exactly how it is inside of us. Wow. You showed the pain on your face really well. It literally hurts to suppress the urge. ❤️❤️❤️

[thedogfamily]

Fr its so hard I just want to share every story that is similar to theirs!

[jesusisking]

sometimes i gotta find stories that are “lesser” so i’m not one-upping people 😭 like i can relate with multiple stories, but which one matches your vibe the best???