When Someone Calls You Sensitive

[jeannievail]

I taught my kids that teasing is only funny if both sides are laughing; otherwise, it's bullying.

[Amergin]

Yep learning to let it be weird and awkward without trying to salvage the situation. No fixing!!😍

[softtacoqueen]

Sometimes the jokes just aren't funny. People are getting offended that you don't laugh at their joke & call you sensitive when they're actually the one that's offended because you didn't like their joke

[athlene]

No emotion in voice, just saying everything factually. This is very empowering.

[tacocat]

When people say "you're too sensitive" I just think to myself "actually I have the perfect amount of sensitivity, you're just a jerk." Or "my level of sensitivity is actually quite normal, you simply lack self awareness". Both mental statements help me to stay more calm and not get upset even when someone is intentionally baiting.

[AliMeetsWorld]

“You’re too sensitive” says the guy who needs to go grab a beer to soothe himself since I won’t laugh at his stupid jokes lol

[clairesweeney]

Exactly. Jokes are fine. Disrespect disguised as jokes are not!!

[tacocat]

I so get this! It's like they want you to join them in making fun of you and join in making you feel bad about yourself.

[dbr]

Being called sensitive is so triggering to me, because I’ve been called that so many times in different situations.
I just want to say—the world needs “sensitive” people, because it can actually be a strength to pick up on the more nuanced emotional aspects of our social interactions that not everybody picks up on.
If someone calls me this now, I try to tell myself ‘Yep, I may be sensitive, but that’s not a bad thing, I notice things this person doesn’t, and I can use that to my advantage.’

[susieqbrown]

I've had "friends" say that to me when I express my feelings about something they did ~ turning a situation/ issue around and blaming me (too sensitive) doesn't work anymore. I don't accept labeling me because of their behaviour.

[erinvonderahe]

Man, I have been hearing I am too sensitive my entire life! Yep, I am and that sensitivity has lead me to become, what many people tell me, an awesome veterinarian. Who knew ? 😉 Do these same people who have told me I’m too sensitive ever consider that they may be too insensitive?

[CraftHarlot]

If someone belittles you, or makes veiled insults about you or others disguised as jokes, then gets offended when you call them on it, RUN. Do not get involved with that person. You arent being "sensitive, " you arent in the wrong, as they would like you to believe. Your instinct shouldn't be to let them off the hook because theyre "just joking" it should be to get as far away from them as you can. Before they gaslight you into a miserable wreck full of self-doubt.

[nataliesteiner]

“I’m just teasing” is such an infuriating line to me :’)

[laurenj]

I feel like instead of saying anything, it’s best to just not laugh and let the silence speak for itself. Silence can give people a chance to reflect on what they said without getting defensive. Though it obviously won’t work on everybody, it’ll work on someone with empathy

[ravenraven]

Nicole, so true... they make a vailed insult and then call you too sensitive... your always so on target....❤

[vtoupin]

My dad told me my entire childhood that I was to sensitive 🤦🏼‍♀️

[fluididi]

I love this. And just to add on, even if someone is offended by a joke, this applies. The “you’re so easy to offend” is the same shit as “you’re so sensitive” and I feel like a lot of people don’t realize it. And just because one person, or multiple, DONT find it offensive doesn’t mean that they’re right in denying your feelings.

[cynthiamelander]

Till this day (I’m 57) my mother says I’m too sensitive, over-react (when she yelled/hit). I struggle with trusting my emotions and knowing if what I feel is appropriate. She really f’d me up. I keep most my communication with her via texts & rarely visit and when I do, never alone. I go thru periods of guilt about that. And how am I going to feel when she passes. It’s all very hard

[sarahdoanpeace]

Yep. I get this A LOT and I just stay calm, centered and non-defensive.

[bingobango]

Sticks n Stones… but words are neurological stimuli, (not always the exact interpretations of one’s true intentions.) We can’t always talk to others, the same way that we would talk to ourselves. It’s helpful to know.