the ultimate guide to situationships...

if you're in a situationship, watch this immediately.

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[vampvrs]

“That’s why you probably clicked on this video” me who clicked just because it’s Tam’s new upload-

[journeytoyou.podcast]

Situationships are such a weird concept, we’ve all been there but once you work on learning your value and figuring out what you want in a relationship (or don’t want) you’ll no longer settle for someone you don’t want to be serious with or someone who doesn’t want to be serious with you.

[bestever]

I asked multiple married men, "how/ when did you know she was the one?", They all said the first moment they touched hands, or kissed or even the first time he saw her. He knows she's the one almost immediately. Situationships are placeholders. Situationships is so he can stay single while having some comfort. (I'm my opinion)

[Diana-tmnt]

I left the situationship this year after 5 months of thinking, energy draining and being attached. And I’m so glad I did, that was the biggest act of self love and self respect. To all the girlies out there, I know you love them, but they don’t or maybe they don’t the same you do. Someone who truly loves you won’t waste a second to be with you, you should realize that you deserve the truest form of love.

[shambhaviisiinhaa]

the yellow subtitle, that moon thing near each chapter name and you giving dark feminine vibes are so oddly pleasing

[slflwer]

Someone literally tried to pull me into a situationship. I was already thinking that we were dating, but suddenly that person said that they think of our connection as a situationship. I then immediately told that person that I do not want to have that if they’re not fully committed I want to stay friends. after a while blocked them. So glad that I made this decision

[shalurai]

today i am promising myself that from now the word "situationship " doesn't exist in my life and i am not going to neglect my feeling my desire and my happiness for any random person that just came into my life

[encismith]

I'm 24 now. I had been in situationships for almost one year, the last one ended in summer. Though I had always wanted to be in a relationship instead. So after ending things with my last situationship, I sat down and wrote down all the red flags of him, it was a long list. 😄Around that time, I found your YouTube channel and started binge-watching your dating advice videos. I recognized that "okay, I've never been in a relationship before, so if I want to be in one, I should do something that I've never done before". So I sat much stricter boundaries and higher standards in dating, basically changed my whole dating strategy. I met a guy almost 1 month ago on Hinge, and now we're officially a couple. ☺

[elisatigade]

The film location and your outfit is INSANE

[shivangiyadav]

Walked away from a situationship last year and I am so proud of myself for doing that :))

[imrung]

After be in situationship for 1.5 years, he kept saying things that giving me hope it would work…I decided to end this, I don’t know why I was with him for this long, he gave me bare minimum and one day the last thing that totally broke me into tears was I asked him to buy me a flower bouquet (since he has never pay for anything or gift anything when we were together) he just keep quiet and no response….
I asked and pray to the universe that please gave me a sign, give
me strength that I can do this... Suddenly I found your vdo Tam, I watched the whole things with tears and I want you to know that your vdo encourage me to walk away from this situationship and I know this time I can do it.
By the way I am going to purchase your book… love the cover, thank you Tam❤

[zaibelli]

Thank God i started my self love era this year. Situationships are THE WORST NEVER EVER AGAIN BABY BOY

[MaryamYaasir]

Never dated AND IMMA never be in a situationship... im just here for the vibes. Congrats Tam, you've built a community.
Also i needed some damn exposure from someone not my family.

[missaxsi]

I was in a situationship exactly one year ago. I had a fling before that, but at least with that, things were clear—we weren’t even holding hands, so I knew what it was. I knew what I was doing and why. But with that situationship? It had me start going to therapy, actually working on my self-image and self-worth. It was one of the most emotionally draining things I’ve ever experienced. No surprise, it went up in flames.

I realized I was just as much to blame as him, waiting for a narcissistic mf to say the right thing at the right time, but it was never going to happen. Months and months passed working on myself, and Tam’s videos were literally the biggest help ever (thanks ❤️)! Now, I’m with the absolute love of my life. And you know what? He knew my value from the start and has acted accordingly, never changing from day one. Because your worth isn’t something you can leave to the mercy of an immature man to decide or make into a toy on the playground. Get rid of those situationships.

[fuzz]

I'm in situationship rn and my best friends wakes me up from it and I watch ur videos to heal from it . Honestly, the situationship is more hurtful than the breakup relationship . Emotional drained

[YoursAnisa]

1:06 girlie, I clicked because it’s your video and I was just here to see what confidence boost you give 😅.

[fatemaabdelrahman]

Tam I love ur content . I am a 19 years old former (people pleaser, doormat, who let people play with her feelings and walk over her ) and now I wanna focus all my love and energy back into myself.

[Shubhangiee]

Girl!!! you are healing something you didn't break

[lindsey]

Honestly I wish I had a big sister like tam kaur that could literally tell me to get out of the situationship I had 3 years ago. And trust me based on my own experience, it’s not great and I wished I knew sooner than later. I swear to god please if you are in a situationship please leave trust me once u don’t leave it will be harder to leave and it will get bad over time

[devil_in_the_cqmu]

I liked a guy/my friend and I proposed him. He rejected me because he said he can’t find any future with me and to be a friend with him. I was being a friend with him after that and also I was a new friend of his friend. I found my friend being so jealous whenever I talk and being grateful to be with his friend. Then after a month, I found him being jealous of every boy with whom I talk to / being a normal friend. I clarified him that I only have feelings for him and not on his friend. He said he acknowledge that and told the same reason. This time we had a serious talk like why I need a relationship? What I expect ? How our values, morals and beliefs aligns ? After that also, he said he doesn’t find any future with me. He rejected again. Then he kept on sitting with me in the class, during night time we watched series together, newly we started to hug each other and he complimented on my looks a lot than before. I found that he developed feelings for me. I put all my energy and effort for him. I was with him along a hope that somehow he will accept me. But he didn’t confess it. One day he came and told me that he developed feelings on another girl with whom he can see future so he is going to spend all the time with her. I told him to go, it’s fine ( my heart was tearing apart for the first time ).

1) Was I in situationship ?
2) Whatever I did was correct ? If no, then where I did the mistake ?
3) How can I identify that I’m doing to hurt myself next time ?