Daddy Issues: Psychology Behind Father Wound

The relationship you have with your father can shape your adult life significantly, affecting how you handle relationships, self-esteem, trust, and more. The term 'daddy issues' likely stems from Sigmund Freud's 'Father Complex,' which is loosely connected to his Oedipus Complex theory.

In this video, we will uncover everything about daddy issues and psychology behind the father wound.

Remember, these issues can impact anyone, regardless of gender.

#trauma #childhood

Researcher/Writer Stela Košić
Script Editor Rida Batool
Script Manager Kelly Soong
Voice Over Amanda Silvera
Animator Jam Johnson
YouTube Manager Cindy Cheong

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[NeverToMuch]

If you have a mother issue, like this comment RAWR! thank you.

[lcveaxo]

I wish some parents knew that being emotionally present in your kid's life is equally important as being physically present

[littleninnie]

And anytime a man is friendly/kind towards her, a woman with daddy issues, will see that kindness as a declaration of love and will develop "feelings " for that man. I was once that woman.

[lcveaxo]

Im so jealous of people who have a good relationship with their fathers lol

[alisoncashner]

I really like how this video didn’t villainize the dad, since not all daddy issues were caused by abuse or intentional abandonment. My father was in the army so he was co strangely deployed. When he was able to retire, he had a military mindset of “I shouldn’t need to validate you because you’re doing what’s required and expected”, which ended up causing me to strive for any kind of praise or validation from my dad. I ended up being diagnosed with borderline in 2017 and when my dad was informed that he (UNINTENTIONALLY) was a large contributor, he immediately took responsibility and tried to help me to improve. He learned DBT with me, he tried helping me through rough moments, he gave me more validation, and all in all, did everything to make up for the past.

I’ve since moved out of my parent’s house and my dad and I have a stronger relationship than most parents and kids I’ve met.

[JoelDJohnson]

I had an absent father. He would make so many promises, and then he would not come through. That's why I don't speak to him anymore.
Edit: I called this man the first 4 months of the year straight because I needed help with apartment renovations. Never picked up the phone nor answered my texts. I'm totally done with him.

[Dakota_is_silly]

I have daddy issues but sometimes I still love him. He makes me insecure, feel like my feelings aren’t important/are invalid and he just gets angry at me a lot for no reason, and he makes me feel like I shouldn’t talk about my feelings, but sometimes I still want to hug him.

[nadillasakinah]

I don’t understand why movies or shows like to portray daddy issues as a joke or even romanticise it

[starrider]

The worst part about this is that you subconciously search for a father figure in someone else. A male teacher for example. And the sad thing is that (at least I) feel more connected to him than to my dad. And I don't even know him that good

[maureenleah]

My father had 6 kids with my mom, none of whom he wanted. I was the first born, used as a hostage by my mom to force my dad to marry her, or never see me again. He hated us and expressed it all the time, not directly in words but in his behaviors, how he spoke with us, and his readiness to beat us for even the smallest transgressions. I tried to connect with him anyway, both in childhood and adulthood, but once I came out to the family he cut me off completely. Honestly I believe I’m better for it, though the damage is long since done

[LiteralmenteJogos]

My father was emotional unavailable. My memories of the past are always him saying, "Man don't talk or show emotions!", "Swallow those tears at this instant!", screaming like he was about to hit me at any time. In time I learned to keep my emotion to myself and even hidden them from my mother. At school, I was constantly bullied and told to "shut up and stay quiet, nobody cares what you think", so I had to suppress my fellings at school too. When I turned 20 I was diagnostic with depression (shocking right?), I had to learn how to deal with my emotion for the first time in life. I always had fear of relationships, I was terrified with the constant thought of them leaving with or without a reason; eventually I learned that it had something to do with daddy issues. But I never knew that my preference for having female friends had something to do with it. Everytime I asked myself "why only women?", the answer I got was, "Because I can talk about my fellings without being judged". It seems so obviously now.
But anyways, nowadays I consider my emotional intelligence my greatest strength; for someone that was always a sensitive person that had no emotional support from home, and live in a place where a man with emotion is considered weak; I don't feel ashamed to show them, and now I can reflect on my own fellings and constantly learn from them, I consider all a victory.
If I haven't looked for professional help in my lowest point, I would never had found out that I was suppressing one of the best parts of me. I would probably be dead by my own hands now. Don't let your fear take hold of you; there are people who can help you go through this phase. We are not alone, no matter how much that feeling feels real.

[onewingedangel]

I really struggle with these issues, makes life harder. It's an anguish to look out for a father figure in someone, knowing no one will ever fill that role

[justalpha]

My father was in the Army for over 22 years, and it basically destroyed his brain. I haven't seen him in person in years, and to be truthful, it's hard at times knowing that I essentially grew up without him, but I live with it.

[Antioxidantz_]

My father may be present but he never really gave me the affection and attention I needed as I grew up. One of my teachers took care of me at school and acted as my father figure. He, himself, also had issues with his father. Hence why we bonded deeply because he wanted to be a father his own dad could never be while I wanted a father who supports and cares about me and my well-being. I'll forever be grateful to him.

[kenrickbautista]

My father may be well-intentioned, and he never once abused me, but he is just as toxic as my mother. No denying that.

[ThomasSmith-zq]

Just finished reading ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’ and it really opened my eyes to some new ways of guiding my kids in their faith. Highly recommend it if you’re looking to strenghten your family’s spiritual life

[miks]

I have friend with daddy issues and she always cry because of lack of support from her father. She always said that her father traumatized her. As her friend, Idk what to do and say to her but I always listen to her rants whenever she choose to open up.

[lauragadille]

I had a narcissistic father, his rage was horrible. I never had a father.

[lonewanderer_vault]

Hey, you might have daddy issues but you still can be confident, radient and self sufficient. You might have daddy issues but can still have healthy outlook about yourself, avoid red flags and find a great partner. You might have daddy issues but can still be in a beautiful, stable relationship. Remember, having issues don't make you prone to attract the negatives. They, can also make you aware of errors and take you to an amazing end. We'll get through this!

[Aan]

Timestamps
1). What are "daddy issues" 0:50
2). Modern theories: attachment, absence, and abuse 2:09
3). A troubled father's legacy 3:57
4). Multi-faceted arena of relationships 4:35
5). Marrying 'daddy' 4:46
6). Avoiding engaging emotions 4:53
7). Negative impact on sexual behaviour 5:03
8). Father complex 5:31

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