Daddy Issues

We’re used to being rather mean about people who have ‘daddy issues’. We should be more careful and more kind. Daddy issues can lead to the worst kind of political situations – and need to be understood as psychological phenomena.

FURTHER READING

“To say that someone has ‘daddy issues’ is a somewhat rude and humiliating way of alluding to a very understandable longing: for a father who is strong and wise, who is judicious, kind, perhaps at points tough, but always fair – and ultimately, always on our side. It would be so understandable if we were to feel we wanted someone like this in our lives, especially at moments of confusion and chaos…”


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[sdsumiguel]

This video has spent more time with me than my dad.

[professionalfangirl]

my dad went to a store to get milk once...
Oh dont worry he came back, he's just emotionally abusive now

[persephone.rincon]

im so jealous of people that have good dads.

[breezy]

I learned that having an absent/emotionally distant father can psychologically force you to seek that fatherly love in your romantic relationships. Because where you lack that guidance, you will be in desperation to find it in other places. Finding them in the wrong places and by the wrong people will mess you up. It’s something most people have to go through in order to heal.

[jazmynbell]

This video was more emotionally supportive than my dad.

[BD]

My lack of parental love has resulted in me becoming more loving and wanting to give people a kind of love I never had.

[SimplyyLovelyy]

I don’t have daddy issues. My dad has issues that he wanted to make babies and then abandon them

[ReincarnatedStargazer]

My Dad has an enlarged heart.
Don't worry guys he's okay. He went out and created two more families to fill it.

[liam]

I love how men use daddy issues as an insult to women when it's the fathers that completely failed

Edit: it's hilarious to see how people still try to blame women for a man's wrongdoings, yes there are mommy issues too but find me where I was denying that? If you actually cared you wouldn't only bring it up to counter and discredit the point I made.

[falloutman]

Never had a relationship with my father. He was around the whole time growing up but he had no interest in a relationship with me. I’ve never had conversations with him ever. I was terrified of him.

[annaess]

Daddy issues doesn’t always mean your father was a terrible one growing up. My dad spent so much time working, he was never there for even the simplistic moments like to pick me up from school, or play with me outside, or help me with homework, teach me how to ride a bike or swim. It breaks my heart because I don’t want to blame him trying to keep our family from being homeless on my emotionally neglected child/teenage years. Maybe that’s why I always get so excited when my boyfriend picks me up to take me to simple places like running an errand, or pays extra attention to me and takes me to eat. Especially whenever he holds me, even the slightest touch of affection satisfies me. I think it’s because growing up I never got it from my dad and I can’t blame him for his bad parenting cause my grandpa was an alcoholic and he didn’t set a very good example.
Now my life is completely terrible because I am emotionally exhausted and can’t keep healthy relationships with ANYONE, including my family. I feel like im completely misunderstood. And now my dad isn’t proud of me because he found out I smoke weed. If anyone is still reading sorry I had to vent.. **edit** Wow I didn’t think so many people would read my comment and relate to me...it is very comforting to know<3 **edit #2!! Over 2 years later I figured I’d let everyone know my father and I have improved our relationship he told me he’s proud of me! We all should never give up hope<3**
*5 year update*
I can’t believe it’s been 5 years!!! I want to be the age I was when I wrote this comment again so bad lol..
Guess what y’all? I have a relationship with our Heavenly FATHER, Jesus Christ now!!!! Highly recommend anyone who resonates with my comment to get to know Jesus, he’s my savior!

[kewtea]

i just wanna be hugged and be told everything is gonna be okay man. i want someone kind to hold me in his arms and tell me it'll be alright. :/

[laurynmccloud]

Me: is born
My dad: ight imma head out

[julienparis]

"We're so fragile, we could be killed by a moderately sized dog"
-School of Life 2017

[boxfish]

Never say "A hunger for a daddy" again

[zuckiswatching]

My highest wish is for a father figure to tell me that he is proud of me

[Jess-zmxt]

He just proved the whole world has daddy issues im shook

[opal_skies]

“The adult longing for a father is not the result of having had a good father in childhood; it’s a consequence of abandonment.”

Wow, you don’t say.

[ianbutler]

God, how lucky I was. A high-level businessman who made it to my soccer games, was kind to everyone, and supplied a comfortable home full of laughter and love, while somehow conveying to us that not everyone was so fortunate.

[kea]

Imagine if at the end of the video the narrator just said,


“Now, does anybody want to be my daddy?”