'Why did i end up with a narcissist?' | The Narcissists' Code Ep 890

How did i end up with a narcissist? Why did I end up with a narcissist or toxic person? how did you end up in a toxic relationship?

@mattphifercoaching

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[HyngirlExplorations]

I ended up with a severe Narcissistic man, because my father is a severe Narcissistic person. But I now realize my worth, and I'm cutting all ties with this man I'm with and never looking back!!!! I'm even moving to another state, God has blessed me with a very large amount of money to disappear. Thank you my friend for your help and educating us on all aspects of a Narcissistic people! God bless you 🙏🏽. You are loved my friend🥰

[Joeit-wyth]

The same way all predators select their prey amongst the herd. They look for a weakness that make you easy prey. They stalk until the opportunity presents itself to separate you from the others. Once alone, they pounce and smother you until you stop struggling.

[BeautifulSoul]

I was fortunate enough to realize he had a lot of the same traits as my father and get out before it really started. I always said I never wanted to be with a man like my father.

[Trisof]

In brief, you end up with a narcissist because as an empath, you are their prime target to reap supply for attention, adoration, validation, control, power, pleasure, image or status. To gain this they must fabricate a personality that embodies your perfect love interest since their real selves are monsters anyone would run from. And so you fall for it with their mesmerizing charm or charisma or good looks, the love bombing they use as a ploy to inspire wonderful feelings about them being such a great catch. Realize every single thing they do is never with genuine intentions. Manipulation is their way of life to get everything they want. God said you know them by their fruits so you have to test their character. "Be as wise as a serpent, but as harmless as a dove.

[kitkatherine]

It's okay, Lee! My therapist actually told me that to heal our inner child, what might help is to do something that we enjoyed at the age of the trauma started! I have done this. Stuffed animals, games, barbies, coloring books. It feels healing because our childhood was disrupted. We need to go through the ages appropriately.

[helenlesleysmith]

No this is not why why I fell in love with my Narc. I did not know he was a horrible person. It was in shock when the abuse & put downs started😢

[tammyparker]

My parents were awesome, I’m an empath I know, I key into people and their emotions. I’m 2 narcissists in now and I’m too old for this stuff.

[kadlacdixon-thedrawmylifep]

I am finally ready to tell my story of my narcissistic family members, not caring about their feelings any more...

[ginawillis]

Yep, it's almost easier to stay because you at least know what to expect, rather than going into the unknown.

[lisaayala]

All my exes r narcs. I'm healing my inner child now that I'm not with any1. I'm 56 not gonna date till I figure my butt out. I have childhood sex abuse, that all the exes used against me. But I didn't know there r people who do this. So I'm healing thxs dude keep up the awesome work.

[candyc]

Very tru...my ex was just like my father as they are both covert narcissists ..when I was in hs I use to try so hard to have a relationship with my father not realizing what my mom was trying to inform me of about him. But, she said "you're going to find out for myself"& it was after my mom passing from covid & I started therapy that I really saw how toxic not only my ex but my father & members in my family were narcissistic.
I had to cut ties with my father, ex and people coming down learning how to create boundaries for myself for my Peace and happiness.

[ggmazin]

You are right on. I have been in narc relationships for the last 50 years. It's time to heal. Thank you ❤

[Zeepjeliefs]

I think it has to do with not learning to feel and communicate boundaries. And not seeing you deserve to be treated the best. And you feel compelled to help others regulate. Because it is what you were used to do.

[kittyblue]

My daughter has done a lot of inner child work, and was able to transform her inner child as her adult self…. I thought this is amazing accomplishment….

[chinwenduchinwe]

I did not know my dad was a covert narcissist. Though I did not, nor desired to treat people bad and purposely. I still ended up with the monster I ran from to that point. It's became evident unconscious seeds were planted plus all mentioned in this video. Thanks

[SloppyJoeLee]

Painting stops me from wanting to burn things or wanting to smell smoke, I realized I usually stay heavy on orange red yellows blacks grays and any color you see in fire 🔥

[DangerousKaos]

I appreciate the inclusivity over here ❤also yes I agree, that has been my experience being around toxic people both partners and friend la because of my parents. Thanks for this

[stark.edwards]

This is Absolutely Absolutely Absolutely The Truth!!! 💯

[MissPrettyNPink]

This is so true because my mom is very very narcissistic and I was always trying to heal her. While she was tearing me down. She is even doing this now. We live in the same city and I have not seen her in over a year. Always playing games. Then I met a guy who the same thing I am trying to heal him or I was and I allowed him back in my life over and over. Same thing with one of my closet friends. Just drama

[havalonsjourney]

In my case I think I ended up with the emotional experiences I long for not what I got, MY dad wasn’t around and therefore I wanted someone who will be there, my ex pretend to be that and more until he couldn’t pretend any longer and now he is as absent to his own kids as my dad was to me