PSYCHOLOGICAL TRICKS To Boost Your Influence, Income, and Impact TODAY! | The Mel Robbins Podcast

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Buckle up and get ready to take notes because this episode is a masterclass.

The tools you’re about to learn will help you become more #confident, #influential, and even make more #money.

Today, we’re talking about The “It” Factor.

Some people just seem to have IT, right?

When I think of The It Factor, people like Oprah, The Rock, Taylor Swift, the Dalai Lama, and Martin Luther King, Jr. come to mind.

These people make you want to lean in, join in, and learn more.

So today we’re asking…

What is “It” that some people have that makes us automatically trust and like them?

And, more importantly, how can you get it?

Here to answer that question is Vanessa Van Edwards, a best-selling author, researcher, and founder of the behavior lab The @ScienceOfPeople.

I cannot wait for you to dig into what she has researched.

Turns out The It Factor has another name: #charisma.

And the good news?

YOU can learn how to have charisma, starting today.

You’re going to want to. Research finds that charismatic people are more influential, earn a higher income, and have a bigger impact at work, in their communities, and in their relationships.

The secret to hacking it? Social cues, like body language and the way you speak.

That’s why today’s episode is a masterclass. It's jam-packed with simple, tactical research and tools that will help you and anyone you care about develop the skill of charisma.

And you deserve that.

Xo Mel

In this episode, you'll learn:
- Exactly what charisma is and why it matters.
- The qualities of a charismatic person
- Why high achievers can’t just rely on their intelligence
- Why you don’t have to be an extrovert to be charismatic
- What highly competent people are missing.
- What highly warm people are missing.
- The reason why you keep getting passed over for that promotion
- Why a second impression is as important as the first
- Shocking research from Princeton about how people size you up
- A simple test that will help you figure out how charismatic you are
- How upspeak diminishes other people’s confidence in you
- And a simple way to start training yourself to stop
- Why you never want to fake smile
- Multiple tools you can start using today to build your charisma

Timecodes:
00:00 Intro
00:40 Introducing Vanessa Van Edwards
03:26 Definition: What is charisma and why it matters
26:34 Tool: How to figure how charismatic you are
31:35 Key Concept: Competence cues you need to know to be more charismatic
50:47 Mistakes that introverts make when it comes to body language (and warmth and competence cues you can do instead)
1:08:22 Top 5 signs someone is nervous
1:11:54 How to display charisma and being more influential on zoom calls
1:14:09 Key Concept: Verbal cues introverts can do to be more influential
1:21:30 How to be more charismatic via email
1:32:50 Key Concept: 5 silent cues to command respect

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[melrobbins]

I hope you enjoyed today’s masterclass with our awesome guest Vanessa Van Edwards and got some valuable nuggets from it. If so, drop a like 👍 and subscribe to get notified when I drop more amazing content like this!

[sejalmalik]

Please make a podcast on making mistakes and how not to regret and move on ..

[AshleyMathieu]

That quote is gold! “Your need to be liked is getting in the way of being respected”

[mariastark]

Hi Robbins thank you so much for sharing this great podcast info. Glad I started my path to reinventing myself a year ago, I’m now living healthier, confident, stronger, making 6 figures, having leisure to enjoy family &friends. I feel happier and living my life for myself . This is to encourage someone “you can start anytime to have a reset it’s worth it!
I’m striving to continue growing cus it’s a journey 💗

[tomeagar]

This is perhaps one of “the most” informative presentations on bettering our human communication strategies. 🙌✨❤️

[snowowlcrystals]

Vanessa drew me in (instantly) after the girl-crush subsided I realized she did have that aura of warmth and competence. I re-watched and saw how she moved her hands and her body language and how it reflects these emotions. I've been reading up on this kind of stuff and it's a trait ANYONE can learn if you study and practice. I feel that most of us grew up with bad communication skills and examples thus we may not have had the opportunity to thrive like others, but as an adult you can take control of your life and learn these skills and with determination, humor and an open mind you can become charismatic and more influential. Thanks this episode was amazing and so informative!

[dragonfly]

Omg please have her back!!! She is a freakn super star!
Wait but what did she said about showing competence?
Mel I just discovered your podcast this week - YOURE I’m amazed how you often summarize your guests’ points for your audience in a very easy clean way that we could all reflect n register. You’re a superstar!
Thank you for your podcast - discovering so many good info n new guests out there from you!

[felixoporte]

These two women together is insane. Couldn't love this episode more.

[diegomunoz]

What surprises me most is how incredibly amazed Mel appears to be about these techniques and skills, such as body language, warmth, and competence, that she effortlessly applies every day. Mel, you are truly charismatic!

[nadinedelmonte]

Another fabulous, educational and insightful podcast. Thank you!!

[sabrahwillard]

This is so informative and worth listening again! Thank you so much!🙏🏽💕

[educatorsatthecafe]

So much great information in this video! Thank you for bringing on fantastic guests who provide clear, practical advice. ❤

[Cherelle]

*Leans in* this was *hand gesture* By far, one of the most interesting and informative podcasts I've ever heard! Mel you're a rockstar for bringing Vanessa. Vanessa, thank you, thank you, thank you!

[EricPardo]

I’ve been in DESPERATE need of every piece of advice in this interview!

Thank you so much!

[AlexaCBrown]

🥰 Charisma!! "That's sexy" had me laughing wonderfully, however you truly always do, Mel 🌅 Much love for you and yours💌☀️

[geramienemahinay]

This is sooo good. I am learning about myself so much and it's very refreshing.

[Mallika]

Mel, you’re amazing at getting out the best of each guest and highlighting the key takeaways. Thank you, thank you, thank you. An amazing choice of guest. Loved every second of it. Everything was so actionable and logical. Can’t wait to incorporate these into my life as a ‘recovering awkward person’ myself. So grateful ❤

Vanessa, this was brilliant. Your research is brilliant. The way you share it with us is brilliant. Thank you for blessing us with your warmth and competence. I’ll be checking more of your stuff out for sure. Your findings are genius and beyond helpful.

[claudiabTV]

This chat is THE BOMB! 💥💥💥 So many gems! Thank you thank you thanks to BOTH of you! I've sat thru this twice with months apart and soaked it up each time! Brilliant work Mel + Vanessa! ❤❤❤🎉❤❤❤

[lissitoj]

Yes, Mel. Charisma lets you express yourself authentically without the worry of other peoples' judgements and/or opinions.💯💓

[lissitoj]

I think charisma also equals inner authenticity and the willingness to share your authentic self and some experiences with others to help others understand that they can overcome any obstacle they may see in front of them by taking what works for them from a personal experience you share with them.💯💓