6 Genius Dating Hacks Every Introvert Should Know

Writer: Brandi Ortiz
Editor: Brie Villanueva
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animation: Yen
Youtube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[YumiTsui]

What was your experience like dating a introvert?

[danimacfarlan]

I love how Komi Can’t Communicate characters were featured in the beginning of the video 😭❤️

[frothylube]

Hello introverts let me tell you a story of one of my happiest relationships. (Me being a major extrovert) About 3 years ago, me and a very introverted girl met at a library. We were in a class and were put into a small discussion group. I offered to initiate the first meet up, which no one arrived, except for this girl. She was incredibly shy and quiet. Having a very soft tone and felt a bit embarrassed whenever I would catch everyone’s attention with my more “lively” voice. I noticed this and after the first few meet ups, I suggested maybe going to a local coffee shop I saw her frequent a lot. (At this point I wasn’t into her but I could tell she was very overwhelmed but forcing herself to go.) I’d say after 2-3 study sessions at the coffee shop, I noticed she opened up a bit more. She was still shy and quiet, but not as much. I noticed she would sit closer and closer to me in both class and when studying. And I must admit I started to find her soft nature very cute. So I asked her out on a coffee date.

On our first date I could tell she was nervous so I just made sure to keep things to us, lower my tone, and just have a very light hearted conversation. It went well and after several more dates we got together. Our first few months together were great, but I felt a little bit bored when we didn’t go out to do much, again being the massive extrovert I was, so I suggested going out for a friends birthday. She was shy about it at first but eventually forced herself to go. (I’ll get to that part in a minute.) It was a great night out, until I saw my gf visibly shaking. I tried asking her what was wrong but she didn’t want to talk about it. Which led to her sneaking away and crying in the bathroom, where one of my good girl friends found her. She told me my gf was having a sensory overload, which I didn’t know much about, and after explaining everything to me, I told my friend that I wanted to take my gf home and let her relax. He understood.

After taking her home and laying down with her she began to cry again. Apologizing for her behavior. Rather than going into the “what happened” talk I just held her and calmed her down. Comforting her and bringing her back into a safe place. Only asking her to tell me what happened the next day and asking her more about her social boundaries and worries. During that conversation, she said “I’m sorry I’m so introverted……I just have so much social anxiety…if you don’t want to deal with me I understand. You’re an outgoing guy and I don’t wanna hold you down from a matching girlfriend.” I held her and simply told her something my grandpa once told me, “What makes a happy couple is not them being the same person. But that they understand their differences.”

We happily dated for about 2.5 years, until she graduated and moved away for work. We talked about doing distance but she needed me and I needed to stay and further my education. We both understood each others needs and mutually parted. It hurt letting go of someone I loved that much. But I stay in touch with her and she’s doing amazing! She’s not a social butterfly but she’s much more open about expressing who she is. So to all my introverts, don’t be afraid of loving an extrovert. You deserve love, as yourself. Don’t try to hide behind a mask. You’ll find someone, and there are plenty of other extroverts like me who need an introvert in their life to slow down and take a breathe. My gf showed me that all those years ago. Thank you Breann for what you taught me and all the memories❤️

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0:29 negative connotation
1:19 slow and steady
2:44 ad
2:36 ad ends
3:36 quiet and familiar
4:39 don't ghost
5:34 self check
6:51 be your 💯

[ct]

Using Komi-San works so well.

And the thumbnail of Yang and Blake was cute asf also.

[mariobrothersfan]

I love how Blake and Yang are in the “slow and steady” and “overcoming ghosting anxiety” sections. It’s such a nice subtle character study on them and how their relationship forms💕

[BraxtonKovary]

As an Introvert myself, these really help, especially dating another introvert!

[raebutler]

My husband and I are both introverts, but when we're together we become extroverted. Our first date was at a park. 18 years later we still talk nonstop like that wonderful first date. It took me 30 years to find him, but it was well worth the wait.❤️

[christscrackers]

Funny how they used Bumblebee from RWBY as visuals for this dating app video and they literally just started dating officially as of the last volume.

[NaviNeku]

I’m a simple person.
I see Bumbleby on the thumbnail.
I click.

And they come in at “slow and steady” and “no ghosting”. Genius. 💜💛

[matrixin]

Such a cute and insightful video! The voice behind this video really suits Blake and I never thought I'd see RWBY characters in a video like this let alone my 2 absolute favorite ones.
So good to see best girl Blake in it 💜

[Auramations-mlkv]

Is anyone gonna talk about that the thumbnail is literally BLAKE AND YANG?!?!?! BUMBLEBY FOREVER!!💛🖤

[mirceazaharia]

Not that I'll ever date anyone in my life, but it's nice to know that such tips exist.

[fredrick-jrqi]

I’ve never dated anyone but as an observer I am trying to learn as much as I can before dating

[midwintersymph]

I'm a simple woman, I see Bumblebee, I click.

[Shtinkyps]

Just gonna drop this here because I used to be extremely introverted, Never change yourself for someone else but strive to overcome the problems that block you from enjoying life. It is true as said in the video that changing yourself and acting extraverted wont get you anywhere but it is also true that you need to show confidence. Extraverts aren't more or less attractive, they just are more outward with their confidence. To build confidence work on yourself and slowly stepping out of your comfort zone, it will be hard but its crucial in building confidence. Also something I struggled with because of my attachment style, someone isn't going to stop liking you/not be attracted to you because of some little feature you hyperfocus on (for example a jawline) those things are bonuses but people don't focus on them as much as at least I thought they did, if someone truly has feelings for you they will 99% of the time not even notice those things or just not care. (take everything i said with a grain of salt these are just things I learned over my life)

[SaurianStudios]

This video and other videos on dating, understanding the truth between introverted and extroverted people, and the psychological aspects of it all have been very helpful. For me, talking to girls has never been a problem because I do like talking to people, no matter their gender, but asking them out has always been a problem since I’m not 100% sure on what they will say, do, or react to what I’ve said. I have a specific memory from middle school 8 yrs ago that lingers in the back of my mind, reminding me of my insecurities and insufficiency.

[tigerx]

Love the use of Komi and Najimi! Even without Tadano. And it's nice to see I relate to Komi just a bit.

[miniblackcat]

for an introvert i actually didnt think getting a relationship would be that hard. i first met my partner over a year ago and we actually shared many things in common. and she even had the same feeling as me, however she confessed first, and i didnt expect it coming. we've been together a lot since. ❤

[LauchMitSixpack]

something i learned on online dating apps, as a male you don't get to choose, you get chosen.
and noone chose me, except old men.