The #Narcissists' Code 80: Is my friend a #narcissist? All about #narcissistic friends.

Is my friend a #narcissist? All about #narcissistic friends. We go into detail of the possible red flags of a friend that could be a narcissist.

Welcome to The #Narcissists' Code. If this is your first video, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the #narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The abuse victims get validation and the #Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

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[DelphineTheWorstBladeEver]

I love this one. People talk a lot about relationships with narcs, but not enough videos about friendships with narcs. I've had both, but it would be nice to hear more about friendships with narcs.

[antoinetteb.]

I finally realized that my soon to be former friend is a covert narcissist. She was idealizing me at first and she was going through a divorce at the time and had a young child so I supported her emotionally and also provided free babysitting numerous times. . I confided things about myself that she later used against me when I was in a crisis. I had been there for her for three years during her divorce, post-divorce, her ex-husband getting a terminal illness, her work issues, her family issues, etc. When I was going through a family crisis she criticized me and judged me based on what I had confided her about my past family of origin issues and she also distanced herself from me when I asked for her to do a weekly telephone check-in for me. In other words our "friendship" was really a "situationship" whereby she took and I gave. I also realized she was in competition with me.

[AFFTFOMSICHTS]

My ex was a great friend but horrible partner. He treated his friends like he was dating them and the women he dated like shit. He would move mountains for his friends who barely did anything for him but throw crumbs to the women he was dating who financially supported him. It was bizarre.

[margaretmba]

Just ended a relationship with a friend with this kinda personality disorder. I never knew she was very envious of me..

[hanklin]

I've not had a narcissistic friend, but a co-worker. Such a difficult four years for me. It took me a long time to heal from her abuse. She knew what she was doing and loved making me feel bad.

[sharhughes]

I had a frenemie like this she was jealous and envious of me! She blew hot and cold, vengeful and mean! She broke up a circle of friends! I got rid of her she's very dangerous!

[AbsoluteMdot]

So glad you are speaking on Narcisisst friends. It has happened to me on more than one occasion

[peachesmcgee]

I've come to the point where I need to end a friendship of 30 years.She has always competed with me, messed me around and made little subtle put downs.It makes me sad but I know it's run its course.

[AM-..]

I know someone that is supposed to be a friend, but it is one-sided. Whatever she needs help with; I’m there. All I need is for her to be a friend and listen to me when I need to talk about some things in my life. When I point it out to her about the one- sidedness she projected. When I tell her what I think about her behavior She tells me I used to be so calm & quiet and now I act miserable. She gives me the silent treatment for weeks or a month at a time. then calls me to do something for her/help her. She will call and refuse to leave voice msg or txt expecting me to call to find out what she wants. I have since stoped. Last time I told her: her recent behavior was rude when I once again helped her. She asked me if I was ok and walked off. It’s been about a month of silent treatment until last week a missed call appeared In Which I ignored. Next time I speak to her I will be telling her if she doesn’t want hear me and all she wants me to do is do for her; there’s no sense in us speaking about anything any more. I was in a narc marriage that looked like a discard. I just can’t tolerate bad treatment or one- sided relationship with anyone. They are every where; neighbors, landlord, supervisors, family….

[bangelic]

I definitely commend you for going to therapy for such a long time to work on self. Gives me hope for my sons father because he will never have access to my son without counseling. If not that’s on him.

[Richard-vqud]

After 30 years my "bff" pulled her last stunt and tried silent treatment w me. I went no contact. Been nc 6 months now.

[jessem]

One of the hardest parts of going no contact with my narc ex was having to leave behind a mutual friend who the narc really puts through hell with her jealousy and competitiveness. I still talk to this friend every now and then and it seems like things have only gotten worse since I left the social circle. I'm hoping she takes my example and decides to cut the narc off and move on, but I don't feel like it's really my place to make that choice for her. All I can do right now is just be a person she can vent to.

[jessicalee]

Ain't that the truth! Whisper your successes and then turn around and shout to the rooftop about your failures

[acertree]

OMG!!! 😲 This one is soooo true but I didn't see it for too long. The light bulbs are popping all over the place now💡💡💡 and they always ghost you over the least little thing 👻👻

Thanks for this golden nugget 👍🏾💯

[yesseniacancholavasquez]

Than you for this video. For some reason, I have had in my life many narcissistic women in my life. I’m a woman too and it hurst to the bones. My sister, my birth mom, and who I thought it was my bf:(

[frugalfitness]

They help you out so you'll feel like you owe them something and tolerate what you otherwise wouldn't from them

[jpscali]

Hi . Thanks for the great videos. One thing I’ve read and I think is widely accepted is that narcissists doesn’t change, because of their lack of awareness or just don’t care about how they affect ppl so they rarely go to therapy. This is something I believe because of my experiencewith a narcissistic parent. What made you go to therapy? TIA

[erowry]

I think my friend is one. She does not apologize. She will say something like "I'm sorry you feel that way" or "I apologize " not "I am sorry" I tried talking to her about her ways before, and she would hop on her phone while I am talking. She was dating a guy and I tried to hop in one day to calm a fight down and she told me to leave her room. But she will jump in my ex face like she want to fight him when she didn't like something. She yelled at him etc. I never spoke to her man like that even when he treated her like shit. I don't know. I love her and we been friends since 9th grade but I feel like she is a narc.

[theAN]

Some narcissists will only bring your old mistakes up to you as a threatening way to maintain control if you try to correct them for the better. They get offended and will shield themselves with your prior wrongdoings.

[ssaliormoon]

They also get mad if you don't do things their way