3 Things A Woman Needs From Her Man

Today, I'm gonna break down the top 3 things a woman needs from her man to have a happy, healthy, long-lasting relationship.

Timeline
Intro - 00:00
Security 00:21
Communication 01:40
Affection 03:09
Outro - 04:24

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[gregcarlson]

3 things women need from men:
1) Security
2) Communication
3) Affection

[remfj]

Communication starts with the woman. Tell the man you want to vent and he will listen. Dump on a man and he will try and fix. Men need to know what role you want us to play when it comes to communication. By default men fix things, don't want him to fix it... Let him know up front you need a sounding board. Once the burden of not providing a solution, he can become empathic and just listen. The reverse can be said for a man who just wants to blow off steam and to ensure it is not directed as the partner. Just an opinion of a married man for 30 years

[jayrza]

Back when I was interested in relationships I used to say that women need the three As: attention, affection and appreciation.

[alberich]

I taught my wife to tell me she needs to vent before doing so, so that I wouldn't go into 'fix it' mode. This helped both of us greatly, since I then knew what was expected of me and she received the support she needed.

Also, some examples of what is considered affection would be helpful. As you hinted, men view affection as more physical. What would be some examples how to display affection form a woman's perspective?

[ernestayo]

I’ve been married almost 50 years (been husband school almost 50 years). Rebecca is amazingly accurate. How, for so one so young is beyond me. Maybe she had a wise mother or grandmother.

[MrMensa]

You make a lot of good points from the man perspective and the woman perspective. My wife and I (both second marriages) are going on 40 years now. We are getting to be old buggers but still love each other very much.

[johndough]

It’s hard to lead when your wife micromanaged and criticizes you choices and the way you do things... or you don’t do them fast enough. I like to do the dishes, but my wife often takes over because she thinks I’m too slow. Then she wonders why she feels like she has to do everything herself.

[hibouowll]

Before this video, I watched: 3 things a man needs from his woman... and for both videos, she is on point.
If you wonder if she is saying things just like that, she isn't
Rebecca, you are a shining jewel in our society, please continue this great work and incredible dedication you have to want a great marriage and wishing the same for others.

[PB_]

Yup! Security, affection and an open ear are imperative. I'm blessed to have a husband who understands this. ❤

[chemtrooper]

I must’ve been lucky or the 4 years of therapy prior to meeting my wife helped me set proper boundaries this time. However, I ended a 19 year marriage over many of the issues she brings up here. I provided all of these things for the ex, and SHE was happy. Once I started standing up for myself and setting boundaries the ex was no longer happy…she’d lost control. Now I’m married to a woman with a similar mindset as me. We have separate bank accounts but we split all expenses evenly at her insistence because she wants to contribute too. From the onset we were both very clear with what we wanted out of a relationship and life; we respect each other’s boundaries. We mutually support one another and joke that we have a commonwealth system rather than a traditional marriage. So far so good…

[alienoverlordsnow]

Excellent explaination! I agree 100%. Youre husband is obviously a very lucky man, and I hope and pray that he is giving you the affection, the security and the loving communication that you deserve! I would like to add here another Nine Things that everyone wants: Everyone wants to be loved, praised and honored, comforted, protected and rewarded, and also admired, respected and consulted. If a man has not made the great effort to obtain financial, physical and spiritual security, then, ladies, please dont even consider him as a potential mate! He is undisciplined, ucommited, unmotivated, aimless, immature and useless and probably even dangerous.

[lordofgingers]

Commanding her respect is more important than all 3 of these combined. To not have her respect is to sentence your relationship to death. Doesn't matter how much security, communication, and affection you throw at the problem. But if I am completely honest with myself, the reason I never commanded respect is clear. And I think a lot of men share my experience.

[kevinhinson]

Communication— This reminds me of the TikTok video going around now about how you know you have found the women to spend the rest of your life with. You are willing to come home and listen to her stories and offer no advice just listen and be quite, nod and move on. She will add lots of characters along the way that have no relevance but these people pop in her head so she adds them to the story. It is so true to life. Now days my wife even adds commentary and says their not relevant to the story keeps on going with them anyway.

[OscarCastilloDelacruz]

Thank you for the advice. After 16 years together my wife and i are working on reigniting our relationship and this video is very helpful for me

[MessageInABottle]

To summarize: women want reassurance.

The communication part should be really easy and I often usually just listen to her and confirming that i listen and paying attention.
But sometimes it’s hard because as you said we men want to fix things and you have to remind yourself that you don’t have to say anything.
So sometimes you just have to bite your tongue and be quiet.

[jdeuraud]

Communications; where she wakes you up in the middle of the night with a problem. You then spend the rest of the night thinking (stewing) on the problem, and then you go to talk with her about the problem with a solution, and she says “Oh I don’t need to fix the problem, I just needed to talk about it.”.

Us guys are solution driven and if you do the middle of the night thing enough, you get a guy who no longer “hears” you. If you don’t want the guy to find a solution to an issue then you need to be upfront about that, or your guy is no longer going to be concerned, but angry.

[makatkplt]

I read The Five Languages and Jack Canfield’s The Success Principles at the same time morphing them into a relationship/business book and vice versa.
Communication goes both ways with sender/receiver.
Totally agree
Loving your channel

[floydblack]

Well said rebecca.important priorities for a healthy relationship

[rickgarza]

Your talk about what a woman needs is great, I've tried those techniques - flowers, date for breakfast, her favorite meal with conversation, with little success. It's gotten to the point that I feel my whole purpose here is to listen, run errands and pay the bills. Financially we are very stable, to the point that my paychecks are now mostly going into savings accounts which we had agreed on. Still the relationship is nothing more than a companionship - any type of physical contact is minimal and I usually get a suspicious look from her. Will keep trying - so thank you.

[mrm.]

…but if your man starts to talk like you in a communicative way like you, you lose interest. I have tried it, many times. We are there to listen, not to talk. So its a one way communication.