The Curse Of ADHD

If you're living with ADHD, it's likely that feelings of being overwhelmed are a familiar experience. In today's video, we're going to tackle this challenge head-on. We'll explore effective strategies and practical tips for managing ADHD, helping you to break free from its overwhelming aspects.

Join us as we delve into understanding ADHD more deeply and learn how to harness its unique strengths. We'll cover techniques for improving focus, organization, and time management, all tailored to the specific needs of those with ADHD. Whether you're seeking to enhance your productivity, reduce stress, or find more balance in your daily life, this video is designed to empower you on your journey. Let's transform the 'curse' of ADHD into a pathway for growth and success.

▼ Timestamps ▼
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00:00 - Introduction
03:04 - Creating a chaotic environment
04:26 - Habit circuitry
07:14 - Cognitive reframing
09:45 - Delaying failure
12:34 - Conclusion

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[RagnarokAdvent]

I got diagnosed with ADHD as a child. I'm 32 now, and I've come to the conclusion that it's like being spread thin, every day for your entire life. I have so many interests and hobbies, that I can't put enough time into, that I get bored with, or switch to and from, so I never really get good at any of them.

It's really rough sometimes

[smorgasborgas]

I love how this is finally being recognized as more than “kids being hyper and can’t pay attention”. People see it now as a valid condition, rather than an excuse

[NadDew]

i noticed that I'm calm when people panicking and panicking when people are calm 😅

[kawaiicake]

3:05 “good at damage control, not damage prevention” couldn’t have said it any better. It’s so genuinely accurate

[taefithendo]

life is hard with adhd and i see so many people using as a personality trait like it’s cool. i’m like you have no idea

[plat]

Having ADHD is like being good at a game with the bad set up.
You know you're capable and smart but you can't tap into your potential.

[sacrilegiousboi]

Lots of people I know with ADHD get super stressed or upset by small inconveniences that most NT’s wouldn’t think twice about… but in a high pressure or emergency situation, they suddenly become cool as a cucumber and totally in control when many NT’s would become frozen with fear

There are A&E doctors who calmly deal with life or death situations everyday or who love performing in front of thousands of people regularly who have meltdowns over forgetting where they put their car keys or panic when they forgot to buy one ingredient for a meal

[lewisburton]

My wife always tells me you only act when you need too, when your back is against the wall. For a long time I thought it was just plain laziness but this video made me understand what’s really happening. Great video!

[treescott]

That feeling of “I know I’m just as well as my peers yet I perform much worse than them” hits hard. It was a big reason I dropped out of college (more than once).

[scott]

I got diagnosed nearly two years ago. And since then I've been promoted at my job twice and turned my life around. Suicidal thoughts and hopelessness... GONE. It's amazing what happens when you're diagnosed and treated properly for it as opposed to living a life thinking you're just a burden on everyone including yourself.

[dkg_gdk]

What bothers me is that in most ADHD videos people talk like this is some sort of psychological issue and not a neurodevelopmental disability.

[JacobFaubion]

Here are my notes for this video; I tried to make the information more actionable.

->To take advantage of the automation of your brain's habit circuitry, you need to delay failure.

->This means that you keep trying for as long as possible even if failure seems certain & inevitable. This has two dimensions:
->If at first you don't succeed, try try again(repetition, long-term)
->Don't give up until the bitter end, even if you predict failure(completion, short-term)

->By continuing to give tasks/challenges your all, even if you fail 90% of the time initially, you will have already taken the first steps towards habit formation.

->With each attempt/repetition, improvements are made, behaviors/strategies that work are reinforced(automated further), success chance goes up, and engaging the challenge becomes easier.

->BE PATIENT; the attitude to have is:
->Celebrate small improvements, not wholesale success.
->The final success is the result of the sum of all of the little improvements.

Don't you hate it when grammarly gives you 🤓for tone?

[jaylonotjlo]

Shed a tear watching this. "Yeah, there’s a decent chance I'm gonna fail. But I’m going to do as good a job as I can… For as long as possible” Why is this so emotionally triggering for me? It's like this beautiful process of accepting myself and having hope

[lizl]

The reframe for me was, "if I'm going to go down, why don't I go down in flames?" And once I decided that it was ok to fail spectacularly, I could try my best without preemptively quitting. Actually in that particular situation I succeeded quite well and had the time of my life - I was shocked 😂. Thanks Dr K I can start using this advice right away! ❤

[Broomscroom]

I have adhd (no medication) and I find that I need to tell myself to do things that are automatic for others. I used to think I was just bad at everything and that there was nothing I could do to get better because I wasn't making noticeable progress fast enough for my satisfaction and when I practiced I would get bored or frustrated but the in last few years I have started to think of practice as it's definition instead of as a term for test or warmup; I now think of practice as doing the action becuase practice means do and that has helped me with self-esteem and confidence a lot.

[DatGuyWithDaGlasses]

I have never seen a video resonate with before until watching this. This is such EFFECTIVE advice to approach ADHD that if you’re a person that is journaling your daily life, you’re bound to have note a day you took this advice subconsciously without even knowing that, and each and every time you did this you had a great fulfilling day.

I had a day this week where I actually did follow this advice without trying and I knew that I had made great progress with what I was doing. Realizing now how powerful a mindset shift that is incredibly powerful.

[ytarchist]

Something I can't explain to anyone in a way that makes them understand: The amount of sheer rage and anger I have built up inside from all the disappointments, all the frustration, and the years of depression since I was a kid. All because I couldn't pay attention, and everyone around me, including myself, believed it was me

EDIT: Yes. I'm in therapy, and although I'm only human, I do my best to own up to my own BS. Now do me a favor and mind your own fucking business...

EDIT 2: I feel the need to update this since it's getting a lot of attention. I was in a very frustrating mindset when I wrote this, and as many of us are probably aware, anger can be a very irrational emotion. Basically, I watched the video, and this comment came outta me. I'm gonna leave it as is for those who can relate, but just know it is not meant to be read as anything other than what it is: a rant.

[XXDevinReevesXX]

I'm a therapist who has ADHD and I work primarily with people who have ADHD. I also feel memory and trauma play a huge role in how hard ADHD is to manage. I feel like habits are super helpful but it's incredibly hard to form new habits when you can't remember.

[Avienity]

I have ADHD and when I watched this video I skipped the Introduction part and only watched for about 2 minutes and then started reading the comments. Now I'm here commenting what happened instead of watching the video.

[CM-cknl]

It just hit me.
When I hit a streak of failures I would often wonder if I was actually cursed. This is the perfect video to share my feelings on ADHD with.