Why You Feel Numb To Love

Do you ever feel like love is just out of reach? In this video, we’ll explore some of the key emotional and psychological blocks that might be keeping you from experiencing the love you desire. Whether it’s past trauma, low self-esteem, or fear of vulnerability, understanding these obstacles can help you unlock a more fulfilling, open heart. By identifying the common reasons why we sometimes can’t feel love, you’ll learn practical ways to overcome these barriers and invite healthier relationships into your life.

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Writer: Dylan Swanepoel
Feedback Contributor: Kevin Jonguitud García
Script Editor & Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: VYEMN (new animator)
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

[Psychgo]

What time is it right now and what's on your mind? Comment below. We will reply to everyone, because we want to hear your thoughts.

[Yami_benya]

Thanks a lot I've been dealing with a lot, suicidal depression, anxiety, emotional wounds and many more

[moreliatapoc]

1:06 Practicing love doesn't work
1:42 It's not a good time
2:28 Difficulty relating rather than loving
3:15 Getting in your own way
3:59 Dysfunctions in primary relationships

[Tom-jv]

Speaking as an aromantic man who didn't understand that was a THING until a few years ago, you may also just not have a typical amount of romantic love to give out. There's a MASSIVE difference between being a heartless person and just not having MUCH romantic love in your heart. For people like me, trying to give that love out to anyone who wants your attention, or wants you sexually, or whatever, can be crippling. You should show love to someone when it FEELS right, because as the video says, you can't practice love- it's not a skill. Love is organic. Hearts aren't machines running on a schedule- you're a reactive being, and if you're aromantic like me, demiromantic, or any of the other categories of romantic orientation that experience less frequent romantic bonds, or take longer to form them, that doesn't mean that you're broken. I used to think I was, even once I'd accepted I was aromantic, but before I had words for it. Then I actually DID fall in love, and I thought that love was fixing me. But that person I fell in love with was tricking me, using the fact I didn't understand romance well (media portrayals of love do a lot of damage to aromantic people, lemme tell ya) to reel me in and control me.

I don't say all that to try and scare people away from love- I'm actually just falling in love again now, and this time with someone who's right for me. Even those of us who aren't pulled to other people can still end up with someone good for us, someone who'll care for us and let us care for them. If you're able to have healthy friendships, familial relationships, and even working relationships, but you don't really FEEL romantic love- maybe that's just not a form of love you need to chase. Maybe, in time, it'll come to you.

[tatithetrippihippi]

The timing of this video is crazy. I’m 22 and I come from a lot of childhood trauma and as a result; it’s affected most of my relationships. it’s allowed me to feel like I’m incapable of love because I’ve chosen wrong people to be with or simply just wasn’t compatible with them. Most of these experiences have allowed me to look inward and love on myself a little bit extra because not only do I deserve it but I wanna show up as my best self for my future partner.

[khrisbreezy]

Oh man I feel this. 32 years of wondering, trying to find a special someone, imagining, watching sappy romcoms and watching real relationship moments and getting none of them leaves me with a sense of giving up on occasion. Living life without that particular form of love just becomes common and normal, but I'm not giving up and keeping my mind on the fact that change is constant and things will eventually work out in that respect!

I hope the rest of you looking for love will remember this too <3

[Messier]

I'm eighteen and I have never ever been in love, attracted to someone or even have a close friend. It's not that I feel empty, depressed or scared. I grew up happy with all of my siblings around.And because of that, every person I've met feels like a sibling to me.

[lindaalvarez]

After being with my husband for close to 40 years & being married to him & only him for close to 36 years before he unfortunately passed away on April 22nd, '24. He was my EVERYTHING to me. I NO longer have anyone in my life. Now, I'm feeling numb to finding a new mate because I don't want to have to bury another spouse 😢. I finally accepted that I'll be alone until I die.

[AnimeVerse-zu]

This came at the right time, I'm currently suffering from emotional numbness i can't feel hate nor do i feel love I'm just there like an emotion less robot 😢

[jameslegault]

I grew up with a strict dad and stepmom, it always felt to me like major restriction, like I couldn’t do what I liked doing to be happy at all, paired with a sociopath cousin who had a strange focus on sexual activities despite not actually knowing anything about them. It got to the point where I actually wrote “the note”. Now four or five years later, I notice that I can’t actually feel love for people and that my negative feelings are stronger to those around me.

[ShiningStar-wq]

I really dont like me for the fact that i always become tired of people after spending enough time with them... .

[Keithisnd]

It's worse after heartbreak and many don't care and many are in...ugh open or fwb type of relationship to prevent drama or connections.
Sometimes it is the majority that seems wrong.

[unnamedweeper]

The timing is so, so painful.

Just when I thought I had finally fallen in love for the first time EVER, I hadn't.
I'd only develloped feelings for the image of the person and the fantasy of being with them and not them as a person.

Reflecting on this helped me realize that I haven't.. been treating them like a friend, but rather a means to an end.
A potential partner, that might never be..

And it hurts. It hurts like hell, and that’s ok !

For which, I intent to work on allowing my perceived romantic feelings to fade over time (given that they have shown unclear signals about whether or not they feel the same way), not romanticising them (said feelings) and again - treating my friend - like a friend.

At the end of the day, I feel guilty for being manipulative, even while I had no bad intentions in mind.

Doing this will be beneficial for both our sakes and hey - maybe someone else will roll around, once I've learned more about healthy love or expressing my feelings in a healthy way (like i wasn't), so until then ! :]

[HistóriascomSentido]

1. (00:00) Ever wonder why you can't feel love? Here’s why you feel "empty." 💔
2. (01:01) Love can’t be forced – real feelings come naturally. 🌱
3. (01:56) Going through a rough time? Don’t worry, timing matters. ⏳
4. (02:23) Struggling to connect? Maybe it’s a deeper compatibility issue. 🔗
5. (03:19) Sometimes, we block ourselves from love out of fear. 💪
6. (04:17) Start with non-romantic love – friends and family count too! 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

Don’t miss this insight on finding love! ⏰💖

[depersonalise]

Damn, getting this type of notif at 7pm after feeling nothing on a date with my gf hits hard

[ashleythecommenter]

I'm glad I saw this pop up in my notifications and watched it because it feels validating to know others go through this too.
I know for sure I haven't felt true love for anyone in that way so I stay clear of relationships. I feel like it just is a matter of timing, if you're going through this as well, you are not alone and you don't have to rush!

[nathanjgtaylor]

I felt a lot from this video, I lost multiple family members through the past few years and it's absolutely destroyed me inside.

I'll be 40 next year and I really don't know what to do anymore, I've got good friends but they're all either married or in long term relationships and then there is me as the third wheel.

I've never been that lucky in love so it's been a really difficult time for me the last few years and I'm so tired and weary.

I sometimes feel like giving love the slip and just let it go then try and keep myself together somehow.

Thank you for this video, it really gave me some perspective.

[Abyssdrone-]

20 years of never seeing "the one" anywhere in life does a lot to a person.

I've watched nearly all of my friends find partners, while I never even held someone's hand. This video at least reassured me that I'm not alone in this.

Thank you ;) ❤

[arithegalaxycat]

I'm an Asexual, so I barely feel love. I found it odd that during Highschool I was the only one that didn't fell in love. Thought I was a late bloomer or something. But that's when I discovered that I was Aro/Ace.

[samikshatripathi]

I've been avoiding this video, these thoughts.. thinking that maybe if I neglect them, if I don't think about them they won't bother me, I won't feel so worse but I guess, it just made the situation even worse, so today I'll be sitting down watching this video..nd be kind to myself..thank you ❤