The truth about men’s mental health…#shorts

[Fundaddy]

“I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone. “- Robin Williams

[robertrobinson]

This is so accurate! My ex kept asking me to open up and be vulnerable with her. The only thing it did was turn her off, and give her ammunition for fights. And she had the audacity to tell me that she was the only one putting in any emotional labor. When I was vulnerable she told me "I'm not your Mother". This is why most men love their Mothers so much, because we will never get that level of compassion from anyone else in our lives.

[umbreonix]

“The women in my life are harder on me than anyone else” I felt that shit!

[compystompy]

100% every woman ive ever dated wanted me to be vulnerable and tell them about the things that bother me. EVERY SINGLE ONE THREW THAT SHIT IN MY FACE THE SECOND THEY GOT UPSET

[WereMike]

In five decades of life, on the few times I've reached out and been vulnerable, I got kicked in the teeth, stabbed in the back, and my heart broken. Right or wrong, I've learned the hard way that someone asking me to be vulnerable is on recon for weakness and opportunity.

[buxombrowncoat]

I've read most of her work. That man genuinely changed the way she functioned as a researcher. It was amazing.

[JohnDoe-skwy]

As a man, every time I’ve had a woman ask me to be more open and vulnerable, they ended up judging me for it. I learned my lesson.

[PeytonLaird-ypfl]

I’d rather get yelled at by a coach or my friend because most of the time if you take the tone out they’re trying to make you better but when a girl yells at you they’re trying to tear you apart

[devilsadvocacy]

A well-known Tick Tock personality once said, “When my girl isn’t happy that’s my problem, when I’m not happy that’s also my problem.” That one stuck with me 🏹 🎯

[Snipergoat]

"They would rather see me die on my white horse than fall off of it." Brutal but undeniably true.

[DefinitelyNotAnOsprey]

There's something to be said about the fact that she realized her fault and told a story about how she was humbled and corrected. It takes a big person to do that.

[sagmeister]

Most women on channels like this that act like they have some insight into what men go through, miss it by a mile. But this story captures it perfectly. Kudos to this gentleman that stated it so perfectly.

[SandwichDoctorZ]

It's ironic that they suggest guys are the ones pushing that macho "men don't show emotions" thing and assume "women are the compassionate gender", but in my experience, men have shown me more empathy when i talk about my problems than women.

When my ex cheated on me, her female friends thought i wasnt doing enough, insecure, not man enough, so she was 'justified' etc.

When one of my best friends asked me about my now ex gf and i told him what happened, he would say "shiiiit bro, really? I thought yall were in love.. I'm sorry. That's rough" etc. I had cried around my male cousins about it, and they patted my back, bear hugged me, etc. There have been a few women who said 'sorry to hear that' but often afterwards say 'well maybe she was feeling lonely' etc, as if they had more of a desire to be 'understanding' of her feelings more. It's weird how the rhetoric and seeming reality are noticeably in reverse, huh

[JenWren]

100% true. I have four sons age 25 to 20. When they hit about 10 years old they stopped talking to me. I asked how their day was and if I could get a grunt or shrug I was lucky. One night my oldest was feeling really down about something but he wouldn't talk so told him to get in the car. And it ended up being the beginning of a game that I played with all four of my boys. Each night of the week I would take one boy, we would go to the gas station and get a drink and a snack, I'd let them have control of the radio and when we got to an intersection I would say do you want to go left right or straight? And then we just get lost for an hour. Within about 10 to 15 minutes of the ride they would start talking. They would talk about bullies at school, problems with teachers and making friends. I would ask him how they felt about it and we would work through whatever emotions those issues brought up and I taught them how to deal with it in a healthy way. But a lot of times it was overwhelming and they would cry and they would get upset. And I told him that it's okay to cry. Sometimes it's cathartic you just kind of cry it out and you feel better about it afterwards. Those rides went on from 5th grade through high school. We talked about everything from school to sex to societal norms and why they're messed up, to religion, to their hopes and their dreams. Now that they're in their twenties I feel sorry for them because they're emotionally Well balanced and productive members of society But they can't win. Society wants them to be stereotypical men but then when they behave and stereotypical ways they're vilified as toxic. When they don't behave as stereotypical men and are respectful and kind then people say they're too soft. It's a catch 22. And now they're angry about it because they know they can't win. They're so over it.

[storeymark]

This is so true. The day after my father's death (I was 19) I cried in front of my girlfriend. Her behaviour changed after that and seemed to avoid me. A month later she dumped me. It never dawned on me for many years that it her witnessing of my vulnerability was the turning point in her feelings toward me.

[harrytsamas]

So true. I try to communicate my needs to my wife and I get mocking, deflection, scorn, anything but empathy. Just easier to stop trying...

[danbutcher]

"Most men lead lives of quiet desperation." ~Henry David Thoreau

[carpediem]

I have tried to allow myself to be vulnerable. That same vulnerability was then used as AMMUNITION later when my partner needed something to drag me down as a man. So, that vulnerability was never to be seen again. I tell my dogs about my issues. They still respect me afterwards…….

[javiercantu]

It’s always the men that understand the pain of other men that’s why when one of the homies cries in front of you, you know that shit is real

[donotneed]

I'm an introvert and therefore a private person. At tech school in the mid 1980's one teacher wanted us to stand up tell something about ourselves. Due to the spot I was seated I was the last one to go and I refused. She got upset, went and got a counsilor to come talk to me.🤦🏽‍♂️

Keep in mind that I'd been off active duty 3 years at this time and you could probably guess my attitude about the councilor coming to get me from class and what was said. I told the councilor I was there to learn not socialize and if I wanted to tell anyone anything about me I'd do so in a one-on-one conversation. Councilor agreed with me and I went back to class and councilor informed teacher about what I said.