the art of being alone, not lonely.

Being alone doesn't have to mean being lonely. A solo trip & analysis on loneliness.

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0:00 Intro
0:53 Why loneliness matters
3:31 Alone vs Lonely
6:13 Why we are afraid to be alone
8:01 A chance to be vulnerable
8:55 Building connections with the self
10:11 The practice

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[zoeunlimited]

Do you enjoy spending time alone? What do you love doing by yourself?✨🤍

[myiesha]

Sometimes I want to be alone not lonely, it’s so similar yet so different.

[Lina-kuiy]

As an introvert, I never knew what real loneliness felt like until I, at age 19, moved to another country to study and had a hard time keeping up with Uni, because of the language barrier and first semester problems. All the authorities told me to find a study group, and it would make things easier. It sounds so easy, but is soo hard for me to do. I was so stressed because of studying, so I couldn't make free time for my hobbies, which kept me happy all the other years. (I do have friends, but I always try to stay emotional independent, so my happiness doesn't depend on others' presence). My only way through these lonely times was my two kittens, who gave me a reason to stay up early every day and to just keep going. I try to catch up on my earlier hobbies and always have some kind of spot going on.

[nothanks]

It's hard to be alone sometimes, but it's a million times harder to be with someone that you can't get rid of or who is making you miserable.

[hstm]

I remember clearly a day back in middle school when a girl told me I was strange. That simple phrase has been stuck inside my brain for years. I used to think that there was something wrong with wanting to be alone, because everybody around me told me that being alone sucks, but I couldn't disagree more. I love being by myself, I enjoy the time spend alone and years later, I finally don't care if people think I'm "strange", I've embraced myself and I have discovered who I am. Thank you for bringing out this topic Zoe. Love your videos ❤️

[tentitoo]

I love spending time alone. As a huge introvert spending lots of time with family and friends drains me so I need time to myself a lot. My family doesn't understand though and they keep asking me if I don't feel lonely seeing that I'm alone all the time and I always say no cause I truly don't feel lonely when I'm by myself

[businessisboomin]

You can be surrounded by your whole family and friends, yet feel lonely. Loneliness Vs Being alone is like Carnage Vs Venom.... It's comes from the same root yet it's the dark side it. It's being alone but from the inside, as if you experience the feeling of emptiness inside you :/

[catbus]

As humans, most of us need human connection, but we shouldn't need it ALL the time in order to not fall apart. It is important to know who you are as an individual and feel comfortable being with yourself, even if you are someone who likes to spend most of their time with others. It is absolutely okay to want to be around people a lot, as long as you aren't doing it as a way to avoid yourself. Thank you for the video Zoe, it was beautiful!

[EmilyTrinhHo]

this is, by far, my favorite video from you, zoe. i’ve never felt so connected, safe, and accepted watching a video. thank you for helping me live a life that brings me nothing but euphoria and precious moments. one day, i’m certain i will be able to reach a similar point in my life like you <3

[lesi_shami]

Being alone is not lonely because being alone is like at peace and happiness with yourself

[cyberpunkgirl]

As a huge introvert, I really love (and need) to spend time alone. It is so much more peaceful and freeing. The times where I was the most lonely were when I was surrounded by people, but when I am alone, I feel good. I don't wait for friends to have a schedule that lines up with mine, or to find new friends to do the things I want to do in life. That new coffee shop I've been meaning to try? I went alone. That concert from my favorite band that none of my friends listen to? I am going to see them alone. Weather you're lonely or not, there is comfort and freedom in being alone. You are good company to yourself <3

[prettyprincess]

I’m alone most of the time, physically & mentally

I don’t hate my life, I enjoy it very much !! I have a diary where I write my emotions, my interests, my favourite part of the day, printing out pictures I took on that day, and I don’t feel lonely at all !!

You are drama-free, stress-free (friendships & relationships), and you can focus on yourself more than anyone else. You can watch anime, listen to k-pop, read a magazine and you care about nothing.

It’s just as simple!

[blackkoneko]

Thank you, Zoe.
I agree with you on this 100% I myself think this way too and I came to realize that I need to find peace within myself and find myself before I can move on to be with someone. I noticed that I have a lot to learn and that I can be a difficult person sometimes and I don't want that to go into my new relationship.

[TheAmbrosia]

I'm comfortable being alone at home or at a place where there aren't people around. But loneliness comes in whenever I go out and they're a crowd of strangers.. like shopping malls or eating in a restaurant. I wonder is there something wrong with me that I feel uncomfortable being alone in public? Would going out alone often help me be more comfortable in public?

[froggrance]

This is a topic very close to me. I’ve been struggling with social anxiety for years because I was always judged for being an introvert. I felt so useless and awful when I saw my acquaintances hanging out with their friends because this pressure from my surroundings made me think that this is true happiness, if you don’t have this, you’re a complete loser. Thankfully, I feel much better now. I like spending time with myself and I don’t make myself do all these things just to fit into some “standards”. Now I don’t really fear being alone because I don’t fear myself. Thank you for speaking about this!💞

[deann]

Even when I went to public school and was around my friends, I still didn't feel whole. There were times where I just went somewhere by myself and I realized that people had been making me feel like I had to be around people all the time. I think that's why I didn't even know what I liked or disliked because I tried to be with people and talk about things they wanted to talk about and I forgot about myself most of the time. I'm kinda glad I was homeschooled, because I discovered so many things about myself and I could do more things and not be judged. I love watching your videos because I feel empowered and calm someway and mostly understood by someone who doesn't even know me.💜

[Crystalbomb]

This is exactly what I needed. Had a tough few months and have very recently broken up with my boyfriend. I'm now focusing on myself, bettering myself and my career.

[jisoo]

the way this came right after I finished crying about how lonely I feel and how stressed I am about being lonely the entire of 2022 <\3

[ana-rs]

Thank you Zoe!
these days i was doubting myself, i grew up in a family of extroverts who pretty much turned me into believing that without people i am not love worthy nor i can be happy. My dad, who always understood me, passed away a year ago and because of the holidays its healing for me to have time with myself instead of attending lots of parties. people around me think im lonely when i am just alone, trying to connect with myself. I think we as a society really need to stop pushing relationships as being the most important goal of your life. We all find contentment in very different ways and i definitely know i enjoy more my friends and family going outs when they are not based on avoiding the being alone feeling.

[juliengaspillo]

I had much more fun alone than being with a group of people. As an introvert, being with other people is not bad, however, it greatly decreases my own energy at the end of the day. Being alone gives me so much imagination as to what I'd like to do to have fun with my self. It can get lonely sometimes but it's better than hanging out with people who don't accept me that much. I mean not all of them LMAO, when I go out once in a while and to talk to other people. I can talk for hours and socialize, the downside is that it drains me so much LMAO