Polyamory's NRE Survival Guide

We discuss what "New Relationship Energy" (NRE) is and how it can be the most amazing thing, and yet very dangerous period for older existing relationships.

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[angelmonstera]

I had my first moment of NRE while in a pre-existing relationship and I've got to say watching this video made me feel so much better about the fact that I had also let a few things slide for the first few months of my new relationship. I've started picking things back up to get in a more stable way of life as of late, but I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who has had this issue.

[themetalgardener]

I don't trust NRE, especially for myself. I end up holding back on it until I feel safe with that person and that either doesn't happen or generally results in bad situations. The more NRE they have the less I trust them. I just seem to be too much for others and really even for myself when I'm all NREd out. I do have an anxiety disorder and have been working on my relationship dynamic being interrelational instead of co-dependency and I've gotten much better over the years and weeding out the last bits of the co-dependency. I communicate this issue with partners and potential partners. It just gets so mixed up. I don't feel like I can be myself when I have strong feelings for someone. Holding back my emotions is hard and I don't think it's good but the way I am and feel with NRE is supposedly not healthy. NRE is the opposite of healthy and logical dating. I use my logical side to try to temper and ride the wave and make the best choices but finding people that can do that with or I think they can do that with me is really hard. The anxiety really is the hard part about all this. It really messes up that riding the wave thing. High emotional energy equals a higher likelihood of an anxiety attack.