COMMUNICATING YOUR NEEDS IN A RELATIONSHIP: How to Maintain Healthy Communication | Lanz MacDonald

It's important that you receive love in the way that you individually need, so here are some ways to effectively communicate that to your partner. :)

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Hello hello - today’s video is all about communicating your needs in an effective way to your partner. As we've talked about many times on this channel, communication is the make or break for any type of relationship (romantic, platonic, etc.) so it's crucial that we learn how to do this! We all have different love languages and ideas of feeling cherished by our partner, so I'm here to help you figure out what your individual needs are and articulate it to the person you love. Also, remember that your needs are always valid, and you may just be with someone who is incapable of meeting them at this point in their life. A wise person once said: you can be the full package but be at the wrong address!

#relationships #communication #needs #lovelanguage #lanzmacdonald #2021

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[lanzmacdonald]

Thank you so much to everyone for your DMs, kind comments, and video ideas for future content! I'm excited to make more videos - this has been such a fun & rewarding experience so far :)

[paoloantonio]

As a Therapist, this phrase was gold for my patients: "Is not you against your partner, it is you both against the problem". Thank you so much

[JimmieABES]

I just got out of a relationship with a girl who didn’t communicate her needs (apart from the bedroom stuff). She wanted me to text her more and come up with adventurous date ideas but expected me to just know. She broke up with me and told me this only after the fact. Had she told be before, we’d still be together.

[lianmalynn]

This helped a lot. I didn’t think to tell my previous partner that I needed to be loved in my love languages. I felt so dissatisfied in the relationship cause I like to receive small gifts from time to time. I would literally shower him in gifts all the time until I felt depleted cause I wasn’t receiving anything back from him. He just had this excuse that it was difficult to get gifts for me because there was so much stuff I wanted. Not that I’m materialistic or anything but I was like “at least it’s better than not knowing what I want at all.” I broke up with him not too long ago and said we need some self work to do. We were so good at communicating in the beginning of our relationship but it faded over time. I started to bottle things up from feeling unsatisfied. It’s so weird cause he was an amazing guy overall. Maybe that’s why my love for him started to fade??? 🤔

[AyaNichelle-gicd]

3:45 "introducing problems instead of solutions." Wow okay so this is why it annoys me lol... perfect way to articulate. It does make someone feel like they need to defend themselves.

[mn]

Yeah, love it. Simple and sweet. The problem is that only people who have matured enough can accept this. The majority does exactly the opposite, and they cannot receive this.

[elbj]

Definitely agree with you! ❤️ avoiding “you always” “you never” phrases are what I’d do too, every confrontation, fight or discussion because it feels like an attack. I need to be clearer with my communication because I struggle to communicate my emotions clearly and asserting my own boundaries, I’m still trying to figure out what I need in both friendships and relationships to balance it out with their love language and way of being and seeing if we’re compatible. I’m very young so I’m also figuring myself out haha

[JazzyHADA]

wow, it's very impressive: People can only meet you as far as they've met themselves.

[rkoriginaldesign]

The apple does not fall too far from the tree. Looks like you've thought through this issue quite well and have all the right answers. Even old fogies like me can appreciate your words of wisdom. Well done!

[Ebspired]

I love how clearly you communicated this! Thank you for the helpful tips!

[davidduke]

I can see parts of this video applying to me and other parts applying to my gf.
3:26 - I let things foster in my head too much. It seems to lead to a distance that grows where there’s a disconnection. We’re not intimate that much and I think it’s a direct reflection of our communication too.

[nahlakor]

I loved this video Alanna! It is full of wisdom and practical advice that everyone should really reflect on. Whether they are single, in a relationship or considering whether they should keep investing their time and energy into, there is something in this for everyone! Well said :)

[tsoichau]

I’m going through a really tough time with my partner, just found your channel and your videos are so inspiring! You’ve gave a lot of ideas, directions and courage for me which I need so badly right now😭 I can’t help to watch your videos on a loop over and over again😂hope you’re doing well and looking forward to your new videos update in the near future!!!!

[MsNica]

Great video! Coming from a household that doesn’t communicate well I am learning at the age of 41 to use these skills to effectively communicate to my husband, kids, and family that love and feel safe with. Thank you for giving me the language that I desperately need ❤

[ncdiva]

This is what I need right here. I've been going to therapy and can't articulate what I need from her to help me. But this is it. Very practical. Thank you

[heyyyitshewan]

Such a great video! I’ve made the mistake of not communicating with a partner and I know that this is so key to having a happy relationship

[genecisrodriguez]

You have helped me so much. So grateful for all of the videos you’ve posted and I’m hoping you decide to make more in the future! You’ve changed my mindset completely

[Snakepit_Media]

I'm trying to get my partner to communicate their needs with me and watching this helped a little
Thank you

[Girlwiththecurls]

This was the first video that actually gave examples and was very detailed in a short amount of time. Very efficient. I’m not the best at communicating in a relationship and was looking for videos to help me. I got some very helpful tips in this video. Thanks!!

[barakah]

Wow wow wow. Thank you so much this was so helpful. I feel like i need help being able to communicate my needs. I often feel too shy, but im pretty sure thats a trauma response to when i was never able to/blamed for expressing my needs as a child. Ive been healing lately. Youve definitely helped me. Thamk you and God bless you Lanz! Im subscribing ❤