Top 3 MYTHS about DATING again after being WIDOWED

Widowed? Sevilla shares the top 3 MYTHS about dating again after the death of a spouse - dispelling the narratives that hold us back from our happiest lives after being widowed. Don't miss this one if you're wondering if you're ready to date again or if you even want to. Even if you're dating already you might have some guilt, check this out and free yourself!

Sevilla I. Love, LCSW Grief and Loss Expert, a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 years of experience who brings her lifetime of metaphysical studies and intuitive abilities to the service of others through social media and on line private guidance and discovery sessions. She is a widow who experienced a massive amount of loss and life transition by an early age.

Sevilla specializes in utilizing profound spiritual insight and knowledge and her clinical expertise, leading others to their own personal enlightenment by finding the higher soul-purpose in grief and loss after major life altering events. She's guided hundreds of clients to a renewed sense of peace, passion and purpose again.

**** You can find her channel on YouTube sevillailove

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[tiffanyc]

This is one of the most uplifting videos I’ve seen. Thank you for posting it. I lost my husband to COVID unexpectedly. I am under 40, and I know I want to love again. Right now I’m focusing on healing and grieving, but there is someone that I like romantically. Your video gave me the courage to give myself permission to like and love again.

[jrwheeler]

Thank you so much for this video. It was very reassuring. My husband passed away very suddenly and unexpectedly 6-1/2 months ago at much too young of an age. We had been together for a total of 22 years (married for 20). I had been with him since I was only 18 years old, so my entire adult life and over half of my life. We met and started dating the week after I graduated from high school. He was 11 years older than me, but we had an almost instantaneous connection and fell in love very quickly. Never in a million years did I ever think I'd become a widow at just 40 years old. My husband had just turned 52 only about 3 weeks before his untimely passing. I feel so robbed and cheated. We should have had another 25-30+ years together. My husband was my best friend, my rock, and my soulmate. He was the air in my lungs and he meant EVERYTHING to me. We were rarely ever apart in the entire 22 years we had together. Now, here I am, having recently turned 41 and having to basically start my life over. I always thought that my husband would be my "forever." I bought a new house after he passed away (we had already gone under contract on it just a few days before he passed) and it sucks to high heaven that he is not here to share this beautiful new home with. I miss him so much it physically hurts. I'm nowhere near ready to start dating yet as I am still very heavy in my grief for my husband, but just even the thought of dating terrifies me. I don't even know HOW I'll ever meet someone. I don't go to bars or clubs, and I've heard so many horror stories about these dating apps and websites. I'm still so young and I don't want to be alone forever. I have been constantly worrying about how I'll ever find someone who is right for me again.

[brianh.]

I can definitely tell
you are someone that knows where we’re coming from in our physique. Missing this relationship. Wanting to some how duplicate it. Just having that companion to talk to about our day and to hear about their day. Missing that relationship. You Nailed it.

[biondna]

"You have the right to love your life again." Oh yes. Thank you for saying it out loud. I was sole caregiver to my spouse with Alzheimer's. For five years our love affair had been over; he was lost in himself. I was isolated by taking care of him and then by the pandemic. So a month after he died, members of my support group were shocked when I told them I had signed up on four dating websites. "He's only been gone a month. Aren't you moving a little fast?" I said, "I've been alone five years. I'm more than ready."

[lalaz.]

Thanks for your video. I became a widow at 31 when my husband died of glioblastoma brain cancer at 33. It was a tragedy... He was my best friend and the best boyfriend and husband anyone could ask for. I remember when we had a conversation about how he would want me to be happy again and he would do his best to find me someone who could help him take care and love me when he's gone. He said he would be my angel. We are both not religious but I always think that he's looking out for me. Fast forward a year later, and I'm in a new relationship... And I still find that my heart is big enough to love them both. As you mentioned in your comment, they are different kind of love but they all make me feel so blessed to be alive and feel loved.

[barbarabeharrywatley]

Thank you for sharing
I lost my hubby almost six years ago..
Thank you for this video 🙏

[BarbaraBristol-hjxs]

Thank you for this video. It was exactly what I needed to hear right now. I am 28 months out and have just met a wonderful man. Struggling with lots of mixed emotions.

[johnkatkus]

You are saying what I am feeling. My wife died unexpectedly 7 months ago and I miss her, but I would like to find a person that can help me love again. Am i going to do this tomorrow, not just yet but I can see this in the future. Thank you for saying what you have said. That will help me and I will keep you posted on what happens. l Thanks again - John

[scottjackson]

You are such a beautiful soul Sevilla. Thank you.

[hernanalvarado]

I feel your comments are very appropiate for young people. I am 74 years old, recently lost my wife and see no future at all like the one you describe. I see my end in a very near future by the time I get to know someone else I will be dead. No, at my age there was only one true love and I am grateful for the life we shared together.

[susanwale]

Dear Sevilla, I have had two amazing loving husbands, they both passed away, one after 24 years of marriage and the other one after 25 years of marriage, I am now 74 and after a year and 4 months I am going out with a friend that I have known for years but not close and he became a widower the same month and year I was. We are friends right now going out and enjoying wonderful conversation. We are both open to whatever life brings. Thank you so much for sharing ❤

[bevshafer]

Thank you. I lost mine March 30th 2022 . 57 years for us. I'm glad I found this. Just strolling.

[darrenbuttery]

Funny thing was, I wasn't looking for a date when a date found me. After my wife passed suddenly (she was 49 and I was 52 for an age reference), I moved in with my sister. I couldn't face living alone in the house we shared together. After a few months I gathered the courage to go home again. A few months after that I found myself eating out one Saturday night. After dinner I started heading home for another night of watching TV alone. I was almost home when I suddenly stopped and turned the car around. I had just passed a wine bar and suddenly had an urge to stop for a drink. I'm not one who cares for bars much but this was different because they only serve wine and do karaoke every Saturday night. I enjoy watching others sing because it's very much like america's got talent. People tend to be really really good or really really bad. Either way it's fun to watch. I was sitting alone at a table with a glass of Riesling when a voice in ear said "are you going to sing something". I looked over and there was a woman in her mid fifties sitting at the very next table. She had leaned over to whisper that question in my ear and it was a miracle she didn't fall out of her chair. I said I was thinking about it, which was true. Then she suddenly joined me, uninvited mind you, and began telling me her life story. She told me about her 16 siblings (yes she is the youngest of 17). She told me about her job as a para professional working with disabled kids. She told me about her medical history, including a visual impairment where she can see but is still considered legally blind and thus unable to get a drivers license. She tells me all these things but never tells me her name, LOL. I finally asked and low and behold her name is Mary. I sang nothing else matters by Metallica and sang it very well. She was there with one of her sisters so when it was time to go she gave me her number and spent five minutes asking me if I'll call her. I kid you not it was like five minutes of "you're really going to call me? You're not just saying that? I'll be waiting to hear from you." I actually didn't plan to call her but she left one hell of an impression. Long story short, I called her two days later and we have been together ever since. She is a widow too and we found we have a lot in common. Sometimes you don't even have to look for love. Sometimes it just finds you.

[forestsprite]

Amazing and deeply insightful. Thank you.

[johnkatkus]

I have not even considered what you have said in this video. For me that hit home. I really miss my departed wife but i realize that she is not here with me and I am a person who would like to love again. I am not trying to rush anything, but your video hit home with me. I had not considered being attracted to another woman but and now considering it . From my research I have done so far, and watching many of your videos, I think I will start thinking of looking for another woman that I can love. It will not be the same as it was with Lina, but it will be love in a different way. Each person will be loved in a different manner, but they will both be loved. Thank you for this video as I was starting to think about how I can do this and I will start looking for another woman to love. Will it be a different kind of love, I would say yes. But it will be love for another woman and when I find this I will let you know. THANKS AGAIN FOR THE VIDEO. I REALLKY NEEDED TO HEAR THIS FROM YOU. - John

[melindafrench]

How do u deal with family or friends that try and make u feel bad about dating again?

[nancyschaefer]

My dear husband Bill died last August and I feel as if I am walking through a fog sometimes. But I miss having a friend a companion to share my life with now. One step at a time

[johnkeith]

The love you have for a spouse is different than love for sibling, or child....And you cannot be in an equal love relationship with two spouses at the same time. It will never work.The spouse you are with now, the one in the today, deserves everything you have. Your sole focus.

[jonaichs]

I lost my beautiful wife January 15, 2020.she was only 36. All of the pain and crazy shit I've been through, the loss of her has absolutely been the most devastating experience i have been through. I can not put into words the utter despair the blackness and whole that was created is absolute, I can not begin to describe how I feel.. she is the love of my life...always will be. Im definitely not marrying again. Its only because I married who I wanted marry. I honestly reserve that for her. Im definitely willing to date "fall in love" etc. But marriage i can not do.

[humbleDAD]

I'm more aware of what I didn't give my wife. Although she told me she was a lucky woman to have me.