'Dying is not as bad as you think' | BBC Ideas

It's time to break the taboo that exists around death, argues palliative care doctor and author Kathryn Mannix.

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[littleegret]

This description about dying is so accurate, I evidenced the same when my mum was dying last year. Its a peaceful process, but we wondered if she could still hear, so we said thank you to her for all her teachings and told her that we will be in reunion in heaven later, even after her last breath. The same phenomenon was also observed on a 12 year girl with severe disabilities whom I helped for many years. A very sad but peaceful process. I've learned a lot about dying through witnessing their death. Hope when that happen on me, I have no fear to slip into it. Thanks for presenting this video, very comforting.

[aDowningStreet]

Death was not what I expected at all, I was an atheist, now agnostic due to several recent experiences... I was with my mum and dad as they died, both deaths were the most intensely intimate, deeply spiritual, the most human experience I've ever had by orders of magnitude. There was a certain beauty weaved in amongst the sensation of loss, pain and a lot of other emotions, I feel a little guilty and affirmed to admit I saw that beauty because of how society told me I should deal with death. We lay with my mum holding her hands, upon her final breath she smiled and I sensed peace.

[gary]

This is exactly what happened today with my mum and I'm so happy I was holding her hand X I feel blessed x

[geraldinekew]

My lovely Dad passed away on 12 October it was totally horrific. He was in hospital for 5 weeks of torture, they were trying to keep him alive when really he should have died earlier. Instead he suffered more pain, needles put in his arms, blood transfusions, scans on his chest. Pure torture to my poor Dad who was terrified and in absolute agony. He knew he wasnt going to make it and he was fully aware of everything to the end.

[Szchandler]

We should all see death as our last adventure, an immersion into something we have an idea but we clearly don't know, just like when we go on a trip.

[paulperrin]

When I thought I was going to die I just felt I was going to pass out, like a faint. That was it. I had very blood pressure and a very low heart rate. I kept myself calm as I couldn’t see the point of getting upset as I wouldn’t help me or the resuscitation staff at the emergency department. This lady, in my humble opinion, has a point worth saying..

[twinspirationaj]

The topic of death is something that has haunted my entire life so far, I'm 32 years old right now, sometimes I get angry at the fact, I'm going to have to experience family members dying and I get infuriated at the fact I am have no choice but to experience death myself sometimes I just wish I wasn't born in the first place

[lyndadiamond]

I love this video about think most people live their lives in total fear of death ...that in fact our whole society is built around the fear of fear of death and dying inhibits people from being free to really society is built on the notion of working your whole life to attain security ....when in-fact there is no real security because we all die ...wether we work that 9-5 job or not.

[edgregory]

Death is the blessed calm which life interupts with it's woeful tasks.

[hubtubby]

For some it can be something to look forward to

[myra]

It's different when u got an accident and death just happened to be there so quick we don't notice about our dying moment

[chicobicalho]

You described a peaceful death in a comfortable situation. But I have lost several people in violent situations, such as my mother in a car accident when I was nine, or my cousin whom I loved from suicide at eithteen, or my best friend in a motorcycle accident months later. There is a lot of profound suffering when the sudden death of a very close person happens, and when it occurs in bunches, as it happened to me (I omitted a few in between), it leaves a mark.

[darlenewilliams]

Having just witnessed the death of my beloved spouse, I can say, it is not peaceful and gentle. I was told it would be like going to sleep. It was not, it was hprrific and very traumatizing. To see someone in so much fear and pain, and suddenly struggling for each and every breath and not being able to do anything is something I will never forget. So no, dying is not pleasant, not like going to sleep.

[marywitter]

This video was so comforting ....words of wisdom

[thelegacyrecorder]

Thank you for this video! So important to be talking about death and dying.

[samanthagreen]

I'm here because I am dying alone. I just wanted to read or hear something gentle and supportive about the experience. I fast forwarded past the family witness stuff. I just hope and pray that I can die alone, peacefully in my home, in my bed or maybe on the couch. I fear dying at work or while walking down the street. Sometimes I feel so weak and in pain. I wear a DNR bracelet whenever I go out. I don't have to wear it at home. If someone finds me at home, it will definitely be days later after I have already passed. That's my reality. PEACE to all.

[sebrofc]

Great explanation, clearly death is one of the few guarantees we are born with but yet one of the least talked about inevitable events we will all come to experience. I have family that when brought up will say "I don't want to talk about it" or "Why would you bring that up" and even cry when attempting to discuss the topic of final wishes etc... I'm afraid its getting worse in younger generations and the sheer rejection of the inevitability that time is limited is almost problematic and arrogant. I have found that it seems more accepted in latin cultures but none the less great video.

[VerbalShotgun]

Brilliant video and excellent explanation which I think will help a lot of people. Thank you for sharing

[djangosouthwest]

This video is so calm and beautiful for my grandpa he had throat cancer so as he was coming closer to his day of passing my bad dying he literally just choked to death it was hard to watch I couldn't watch him 😔

[waveart]

Beautiful person and wonderful words. Thank you so much for this video.