Do This To Get The Most Important Things DONE Now

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Almost everyone struggles with procrastination sometimes. But people who were traumatized as children, the most important work of your life may never get done because your instinctive reactions to stress, criticism and potential rejection can feel paralyzing. There is a way forward and in this video I break it down, step by step so you can become productive, focused and full of energy to live your life.
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[DH]

I'm deeply appreciating your work Anna. I've been watching A LOT of your videos over the past week, and you've given me language for my lived experiences. Because of that, I've noticed a lot of positive movement because I now can name what's happening (or has been happening) vs just swirling in all of the emotions from my childhood PTSD. This video in particular is so helpful because I've been moving very slowly through my divorce paperwork (I'm the petitioner) as well as around the things I need to do continue growing my business / serving more clients. Your presence and your work is a gift, and I'm incredibly grateful to have come across your page.

[chrysart]

I think one of the issues that causes procrastination in people who suffer from PTSD is a lack of self-trust in handling things and situations. Making a mistake can be devastating, followed by self blame, or even fear of losing one's temper or afraid to collaborate with others. It might take deeper work to learn how to trust oneself than just learning to not procrastinate.

[ewolffe]

A 'have-done' list rather than a 'to-do' list can be helpful. Write down what you have done, however small, each evening, and read what you did the day before. To-do lists can be daunting but have-done lists remind you that you can do things and that you are moving forwards.

[RondaBC]

I believe this truth is why people enjoy watching decor and cooking shows, where a difficult project is finished. We feel satisfied to vicariously see a finished project, while our own lives are in an unfinished heap. Thanks for the encouraging words to help people put effort into their own lives and goals.

[whimsylore]

I think the emotional weight behind the paralysis also comes from the (sometimes extreme) negative consequences of the action suffered in the past.

For example, being mocked, scorned, or abused for exerting yourself in the past, or expressing yourself, or being creative. Or picking up on others' feelings that they don't want you there and alive, so you have troubles feeding and taking care of yourself. Or difficulties buying groceries because people complained every time you ate something out of the fridge and they saw you as a burden on their grocery bill. Or doing something unpredictable or out of your status quo because anything outside a limited sort of existence got punished.

Exerting ourself to do what we love is hard, not because it is in ITSELF hard, but because the emotional weight attached to the action requires moving boulders, first.

We procrastinate because we are afraid of what will happen when we do the action. Even if that fear has nothing to do with current circumstances and only has to do with the past. Our emotions stay with us until we see, process, and release them.

Lifting weights to "just do it" is good to do, but it doesn't need to be required for a lifetime of living. Hopefully we can see what's pinning us in place, face our fears and release them. Paralysis is a good word for it.

[juliamcclaysy]

thought about it and had the idea that, human beings with childhood trauma are so used to give all their life energy away to their parents (or caretakers) that they dont have any left for themselves. and when we grow older we continue to give our energy away to unhealthy attachments. we never learned to use this energy for ourselves. and then when the time comes to serve ourselves we freezer in fear because we either got punished by our parents for it but also because we step into unknown land

[warrenbradford]

To keep myself from procrastinating, I must take action now instead of waiting for the right feeling to come to me. I must take more risks to do so. I must avoid being afraid to crash and burn.

[raiontheone]

Limerence and Procrastinating, my best friends. Thanks mom and dad.

[bindicat]

My soul is sick …this is what I’ve been feeling for days

[wholeheartedlyjaninarene]

I NEEDED the “tough love” in this video SO much today!! Anna, THANK YOU for continuing to press through in your work, its transforming my life! I also got the dishes that have been sitting for weeks DONE while listening to this video 🥰 I appreciate you so very much!!

[poetryjones]

“We cannot simply sit and stare at our wounds forever.” I think Thich Nhat Hanh said that. ❤️☮️

[sylviahoffman]

I've always considered the procrastination as a way to be invisible (my coping mechanism during my abuse). The less activity I do, the less people see me. So when I have things I absolutely must do (taxes, annual insurance enrollment, annual testing from work, planning an event) if there are a lot at the same time, I will make a to do list. And it frees my soul a little to not have to remember everything. Then I try and do one thing on the list a day (even if I can't finish it, I will work on it for 1 hr). This helps me to feel like I am getting something accomplished and inspires me the next day to do 1 thing on my list again. I may have to prioritize by the dates due, but this really helped me this last quarter. And I don't beat myself up if 1 day I just can't face it. But make myself do 1 thing the next day. Small pieces of the job work wonders and give the reward of completion.

[beverleymacca]

I thank God for you every day, Anna. Whe I first watched this video, it inspired me to just do a little every day to keep my home tidy, as I really struggled with that and it was always a total mess. Watching this video again made me reflect on how far I've come now. It's not perfect, but pretty much every cupboard and drawer is organised, there's no clutter and it feels so, so good. Thank you so much 🙏

[annemurphy]

I think procrastination is a part of the freeze response. Growing up in a toxic household teaches a person that they are NOT allowed to feel good about themselves, not allowed to exist, take up space or have the audacity to even breathe. Doing anything on our own behalf is like breaking some huge law, betraying some unknown source where a monstrous punishment is incoming. It's a very difficult thing to stand up to, challenge and overcome this programming. It's an ongoing process, small increments add up to change.

[haileyhogan]

You know, this isn't the first time I have received and benefited from this message, but I just want to thank you for the reminder! I've been struggling with stress/anxiety procrastination over the last month or so after hitting some difficult speed bumps, and being weighed down a bit by the holiday blues hasn't helped either. I really appreciate the encouragement to get back on the horse. Thank you, CCF! 💚

[bernadettebockis]

Yes, I scrubbed my filthy tub really well yesterday - instead of doing the work that I need to get done.

[balancedplans]

“Focus on your commitment to not letting yourself down”! 💪

[DivergenceDom]

The ability you have to connect and humanize trauma responses is truly a genuine gift. Happy new years I wish you success.

[zofiajaneczek]

Life IS HARD! Doesn't matter if you're an abuse survivor or not, it's simply hard. Narcissist abuse is a form of soul murder, so soul sickness is quite appropriate. My issues are just a lot of anger, I have days where I could just go off on everything and everyone! Especially, if I know I'm being taken advantage of by someone or something. I procrastinate when I hate something or have to do something I dislike. Like the craptastic job, where they're underpaying me and I found this out recently. I want out and I just have to start somewhere....it might take 3 or 6 months or more. I know there are people doing what they love and making enough money to thrive and live! I'd like to see that happiness for myself and others who are struggling in this way.

[jackieann]

Yup.
I've got a
deep- seated
"Why bother" parasite eating me alive .
Anna, THANK YOU for bothering ....it MATTERS !