'How do i stop going back to a #narcissist?' | The Narcissists' Code Ep 896

how do i stop going back to a narcissist or toxic person. How to stop going back into a toxic relationship with a #narcissistic person. #leehammock

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[abigailrasmussen]

My ex and I broke up and got back together 13 times. Every time I left it was because the abuse was just so bad I couldn’t bear to stay anymore. I missed him so much though and I felt so empty without him. That trauma bond will put you in a death grip. I’ve finally been out of it for almost a year with no contact and recently got into a new healthy relationship. I’m so proud of my I could cry. The further I get away from the relationship the more and more I see how disgusting and toxic it was and how awful he treated me and how much danger he constantly put me in.

[meganpearson]

I can’t even count how many times I’ve gone back, either he’s at my door or I’m at his…it’s horrible. Wish there was detox programs for this.

[naysilverspirit]

I think people go back because the feeling of being devalued hurts so much that we think if we get back with them we can try harder to make them value us.. all we want is that person who we cared about to value us.. idk.. maybe 🤔🤷🏻‍♀️

[stevensgirl]

Just know they won't ever change.

[emmajackson]

You did your best.

People who love you wont lie, cheat, manipulate or put their hands on you.

You deserve the love you give.

Happy healing everybody ❤

[deniserandall]

Eventually you will value yourself more than your obsessive need for them. At that point, walking away and never looking back is your only option. I speak from experience and have survived two narcissists. I have a brilliant future ahead of me and neither of them have a place in my life.

[swatiahuja]

What I've gotten from my 'this person'- nothing but sadness, anger and emptiness.

[lizdiaz]

I’ve gotten pain, tears, loss/grief, my peace has gone, uncertainty, unsure, confused. Lost family and friends. Feel alone. Unworthy, unloved, angry, depressed. Among other things.

[lizdiaz]

I’ve left so many times and gone back. 🤦‍♀️. It’s been 6 months since I left and still trying/fighting not to go back. Thank you for this video Lee. I appreciate you and this community. Thank you!

[ginawillis]

I'm still getting breadcrumbed. It's kinda fun ignoring him and/or not jumping to respond. I know that he matters less and less every day and he will soon know as well. He once told me I won't find anyone better (I think he is referring to sexually), but little does he know, I am actively seeking out new friends as of last week. the days of waiting on him to take his "favorite toy off the shelf to play with" are over! He'll realize it someday. 😏

[tracikauffman]

I just lost my job after 3.5 years and I got a text from him two weeks ago when I found out my job was ending. I did respond to his text but shut it down and did not go back to his house.. I'm struggling some because of the stress of job loss and stressful homelife due to alot of crimes against me where I live. I've got alot on my plate but am staying strong in my faith. I wont go back!! I quit drinking and him 5 months ago. Getting rejection and a familiar trauma bond soul tie. Not a healthy loving nurturing person. I have to know I'm valuable and keep taking care of myself in a healthy way. That's alot to say.

[stonermcluvin]

Unfortunately for them, the Narcissist is a very Negative person, that will not Change

[baysea]

That was powerful, “Tell the truth” “Tell yourself the truth on how you got here right now”
I just hit Day 35 of no contact with my narcissistic ex. The truth is the driving force behind my will to keep going no contact. I remind myself of the abuse, devaluation, disrespect, & manipulation that I would be coming back to. Awesome video Lee, Thank you!!

[savi]

Today I had a difficult day because my husband breached his probation and I had to call the police . I just want to move on and heal but he is trying to pull me back. Yes there’s sometimes I still feel for him but I know he’s not good for me and I’m still hurting and in pain but I choose myself and my children. Lee I wasn’t getting what I needed as his wife . I gave him all of me but I had to accept that he didn’t care for me and our marriage. I wanted him to love me like I loved him but we have different values and morals and we want different things from life. I need to heal and. I know it’s a process I’m seeing a therapist and doing all the things I have to. Thank you 🙏

[kitkatherine]

Curry!!! He's my favorite!! Sorry Lee!

Every trauma bond is connected by a victim's need for love, approval, security, survival. For me, it was security.
He promised me a family. I was given the fantasy of a secure family.

442 days of no contact! Almost broken the trauma bond!

"If you want to figure out who has the most power over you, look at who you blame."

[stevensgirl]

I know its way easier said than done to leave a narcissist. I praying for you all out here .

[mommyshreya]

I kept telling myself, you are doing yourself a favor.... do not make excuses for him now. Stop it....

[augustineschaefer]

Ignoring red flags can be deadly dangerous, ask anyone who’s lived or worked in a battered women’s shelter.

[mizzy]

When you start seeing your health decreasing within the years and comparing your current self with the healthy version you once had in the past you simply realize there’s no way to keep yourself in narcissistic/toxic dynamics… I’m glad I made my way out in time.

[genesewatson]

I finally took that big step day one of no contact and forever to go he will never get that second chance to do this again