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Calling rewarding chores "commissions" is a curious way to put it

AndresGomez-ctqb
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Bro is in his mid 30's and paid off his house I need to get that guys job.

mahiyatsafiyullah
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- give allowance without chores
- they help anyway, without pay
- only give them as much money as you were going to spend on them anyway.

Now they just get the added bonus of learning financial literacy.

This is what I believe is ideal, after studying other parents' stories about allowance.

I may stop once they're old enough to make money themselves.

CuriouslyCute
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Giving an allowance is fine. But never correlate it to chores. It encourages transactional attitudes to basic responsibilities of adult relationships. Then when they move out on their own, they live like slobs because no one is paying them to do that stuff anymore. Teach your kids to do chores because they need to be done, not because they're getting paid.

Revelwoodie
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So I know kids raised with this commission mindset and they don’t understand the concept of helping others. They always expect a reward but shouldn’t the reward be “I’m part of a community, I helped someone”.

MattbyNature
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nah idk about the allowance for chores thing? like if you live in the house you should take care of it too and not just for money

watertribeskye
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My parents didn’t give me an allowance when I would do basic chores because they thought I shouldn’t only be motivated to do things for money, but for the sake of doing something good.

bakubuchi
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I was just expected to contribute to the household chores, never really needed an allowance to motivate me. I’m glad my parents didn’t treat me like an employee, tbh. I could just ask for stuff. They raised my brother and I to be humble and think about our spending, so we never really went overboard. I remember my parents explaining how much each of them made per hour, so I could think about how many hours a toy cost them, which helped put it in perspective.

Now my parents and I have a mutually beneficial financial relationship. We talk about finances as a family unit, even though everyone’s an adult now and I live in another state. When they have an unexpected expense, I hop in to fix the problem and they pay me back when they can, even when I tell them they don’t need to pay me back. And, they’re my safety net that I’ve needed because life happens. No expectations for anything other than to support each other.

I’m a frugal adult and don’t think I’m any worse off for not having to “work” as a kid. I just did the dishes and took out the trash because I made dishes dirty and made trash. And, they didn’t make a big deal about handing me a few dollars to get ice cream if I asked politely. Lol.

rightwrightwriter
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I don't do chores to get paid, i do them cause those are my responsibility!!!!this is tge Pacific way of raising children 😊

dennybuka
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This man is sensible! Do you know, I think financial sense is a rare and very attractive trait in any individual. ❤❤

esm
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my parents had the same idea when it came to allowance. now we only did this for about a year but my two siblings and I would take turns each week and do whatever chores my parents asked of us without complaint. at the end of the week our parents would give whoever’s week it was $15. it didn’t keep up due to family financial issues but all of us learned early on that you need to put in work to earn something (or at least I did). and trust me we did all still do plenty of chores before and after this system, we just complained about it a little more before haha

statesofgracie
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I wouldn't correlate money to chores. that just creates an unhealthy attitude towards things that need to be done, as well as making them feel like they're never allowed to ask for things unless they do something FOR YOU, because let's face it, kids do not realize that chores are for the good of everyone in the house including them, they see it as doing YOU a favor because it's something YOU want them to do. they do not see the direct benefit of chores. the consequences of not doing chores are not the same as reward and benefit from them, since chores being done is the default.

kids should be taught that chores need to be done because they are things that have to get done. age appropriate chores like cleaning up after yourself and putting things away when you're done with them should be set as the standard. there shouldn't be any money incentive for things they'd be expected to do anyway. I firmly believe children should be given an allowance anyway, nothing too much of course, just to teach them some early financial literacy and show them that they deserve nice things just for being good kids. HOWEVER if they would like to earn extra money, then they can do some extra chores that would not normally be expected of them but are normally done by the parent, like helping to wash the dishes or do laundry, or any other age appropriate tasks that they aren't normally expected to do.

SamiR
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My parents had chores that we rotated that were just part of life (dishes, taking it the trash, sweeping/mopping, vacuuming, cleaning bathrooms), we got paid for mowing the lawn, and had a couple neighbors who would pay us much more to mow their lawns, and we got a very small allowance (6 bucks a month in the early 2000s). We had to put half of it into the savings accounts our parents set up for us and we got to keep the other half. It taught me how to clean without an incentive aside from responsibility and necessity, taught me the value of working for pay and manual labor, and also taught me how to save money wisely and never spend more than I had. Allowance is good but it has to be done right. It's not just free money, it's a lesson that will serve your kids well for the rest of their lives.

rachelppython
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Rewarding little missions should be dealt with carefully.
- Use it especially for "missions" that are not the normal chores that they should be doing anyway. Kid cleaned their own bedroom, don't reward that, it's a normal behaviour.
- It must remain reasonable for their age. Don't use it to make them do things they shouldn't be doing. Giving you a 2hrs long back massage is not the job of a child.
- If you announce the reward beforehand, give what you promised. Kids are strongly unionised. Just kidding, but it ruins the trust they have in you if you change your mind.
- If you got them used to get a certain reward for a certain job, don't get mad if they come ask for it because "it's not polite to ask for things". Either you want to teach them the value of labour, or you don't, but don't play in between.

corsair
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My parents never gave me an allowance. But when I started going out with friends, they gave me money and I learned to save it myself.
I bought what I wanted and as time went on, I learned to think about if I needed it and if not, if I wanted it and if I would use it.
At this point, they've started letting me go out without a parent. Mainly because I go to the same place with friends over and over. But they give me money, drop me off, and I've learned to keep track of the money they give me from past trips too.

astrawboory
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Lmfao clearly some people don't have kids. Acting like giving them money for doing chores will ruin their mindset.

Gervaj
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shocked at all the people disagreeing with rewarding kids for doing chores. if you think that's the only thing stopping them from turning into cold, capitalistic money hungry slobs who don't do anything unless they're paid for it, you might have bigger issues with the way you're raising your kids

haroldgarrett
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An allowance is absolutely necessary into early teens, don’t correlate it to chores.

coleisforrobot
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I don’t agree with the second one. Kids need to learn to budget and to save money, that’s a job all on its own. And they should not learn that they’re rewarded for doing chores otherwise that’s a rude awakening when they’re grown ups and have to do their chores anyway. Rationally they’re of course aware of that much earlier but rational isn’t always how humans work.

glockenrein
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Wow the empathy to say $1000 is a good place to start for emergency fund… he is a generous yet financially responsible person.

MovewithJenna