Why So Many Men Are Lonely

Is this one of the reasons why so many men are lonely?

1 in 5 males say they don't have any close friends. 32% say they don't have anyone they can call a best friend. Studies have also shown that men are often unwilling to admit to isolation because of the stigma attached. Male suicide rates are on the rise. Why is it that this problem appears to affect men more than women?

In the latest episode of the FBLM podcast I’m joined by Dhru Purohit to talk about friendships and why having deep connections with others is critical to our wellbeing.

This is an honest and frank conversation about how hard it can be to open up and connect to others. We need to stop using toxic language that can negatively impact our behaviour and our beliefs, and make it easier for all of us, but especially men, to open up about our feelings.

I passionately believe that we need to talk about these topics in order to see change. I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic below.

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[josht]

Listen, I really am not enjoying life. I don’t know why I feel like putting it on here more than anything else but seriously not a lot of people see it. Men are told to “man up” and no girl wants to talk to an emotional guy. It just seems like I’m not allowed to show emotions anymore. I hate seeing girls putting stuff about men being horrible and trash and not know what them as a girl are going through. We are perceived as being either too rude or too emotional there is no equilibrium.

[concretesandals]

For most guys, you have a few options, live a lonely life, a life in a decaying or failed marriage, or checking out entirely. Once you realize that, it's difficult to be hopeful

[samuelcastora]

I've come to a place where I've accepted, and embrace being single until death.

[Snoodingo]

I feel like sometimes I have no place in this world as a man. Women would not listen if I’m trying to explain my feelings because I’m too “emotional”. I also come out as a loser. Society also expects us men to be resilient because crying is feminine. That being said, men have no options but to bottle up their emotions. What’s worst is that we are perceived as “dangerous”. I feel like we as men are alienated.

[paulcooper]

We are more lonely because these women of today have unrealistic standards in men and dont realise they are not perfect themselves.

[Walkingadversity]

I’m just being honest, the main reason why I’m lonely is simply because I can’t find a partner or even hookups because I’m not desirable to women even though I’ve tried in the past. Making friends was not easy for me either. I can make small talk with people and they might enjoy the small talk temporarily but they would never give me the time of the day. I realized some people are just meant to be alone. I stopped trying and just doing the best I can to enjoy my time by myself.

[rentedguccimink]

Nobody wants to listen, and I don't feel like being a burden on other people with my problems.

[pastichegraham]

As a woman myself watching this, I feel bad for men. And to Any men that’s watching this, I hope you get the healing you deserve because too many people (and women) shame men. I definitely believe and think your feelings are valid.❤️❤️❤️❤️ please remember that.

[laurentiumanolescu]

Not quite, the male isolation its much more profound than the general ideas about it. Its more of a spiritual mindset

[nwobhm]

30 years old going on a ten year dry spell. I’ve had social anxiety all my life, and was always mr nice guy around women. Nowadays I can’t get any attractive women to even talk to me, it’s like they close themselves off because they’re not interested. They can tell I’m an anxious guy and they want nothing to do with me.

[renzopeterson]

It's to the point now where after 33 years on earth, I'm probably destined to be lonely (not alone). There's guy's out there way worse off than me, and I actually had decent success with women from 2011, by mid 2014 it was all virtually down hill and over with. I just chalk it up to being born in the wrong time and not having: tattoos, kids, height, 60k+ salary, and not edgy enough I suppose. What is the point of even bothering to talk to women at all when they only find at BEST 20% of men attractive??

[ThunderBuddy]

Can't talk about how I feel and it's destroying my mind. I used to do a lot of exercise which helped physically and mentally, but I damaged a nerve or muscle and now I can't even workout. I'm sat about feeling sad, I message people and they ignore me. I know not to be pushy and so I don't send more than one message. It hurts not getting a reply. I want to tell the world how I feel, but I'll just be seen as desperate, so I'm left to my own thoughts.

[sylvanathornton]

Very good video. I absolutely agree. Men are their own worst enemies when it comes to this. The constant fear of not appearing masculine enough to other men is driving too many men to extreme loneliness, isolation, even suicide.

[bradbrad]

Most of my friends realize that it's not worth it to date american women anymore. We are looking for what our parents had and we were raised that way. Unfortunately the tv reality shows have programmed most not all the women no matter how much you give them they want more. Stay away from american females. The lawyers are also to blame for the divorces. I do not know more than 1 or 2 males that are not divorced. I will never marry american. We have a huge problem here in the U. S. Even if you raise someone else's child you will still end up getting divorced due to the selfishness of that female. She decides after all the time you spent taking care of her and her kid. Once the kid hits 18 she wants a new man. Unfortunately most women want to be the man. That is the real issue. Even the Alpha Males are having a lot of problems.

[b-six-twelve]

As a gay person, it really does a number on your self esteem to watch straight men go to such extremes just to avoid being perceived as similar to you.

[koiforeveryone]

I’m so lucky to have found my one and only. Married 31 years. No games. Duty. Family. Love. Respect.

[johng]

Im lonely because Im a closeted gay masculine man, unable to out myself because im afraid of judgement from society...

[jamesmooney]

I accept living alone but I have no intention of being miserable about it because I see the type of men women date and I know iam better than them women only date dogs they're welcome to them

[itsHappening-ryef]

Thank you for telling the truth 😒🌍🌍 it’s real out here men are lonely and are dying no kids to visit no wife 🌍 it’s sad these videos spue so many lies to make people feel good 😌 coming from a nurse 👩🏽‍⚕️

[Youaremysunshine]

my dad told me to "Dont cry, be a man" when i was three and i havent cried since, but it hurts