Am I bisexual? How to be 100% sure.

Have you ever wondered how to know for sure whether you’re bisexual or not? How do you define bisexual? How do we know if we can call ourselves bisexual or not?

This video gives a definitive guide to help you know for sure if you are bisexual or not. It goes through 4 considerations that you can use to see if you are bi attracted.

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[NutmegFox]

Unlike a lot of people who watched the video who realized they are bi, I have realized that for quite some time I thought I was bi, when really I was just bi curious, I’ve now come to realize that I am straight.
Shows the different outcomes of watching the video.

[gabrocking]

Holy shit dude. Thank you so much for this video. I'm 17 and for a few years now I've been thinking about this and going in circles. I now am able to realize that I am Bisexual, I just couldn't really explain it. When you mentioned attraction to a relationship I almost cried, being able to give it a name is just so comforting to me. Thank you so much and I hope you have a great life, this has helped me so much.

[emilianotechs]

Well I'm like a minute in and you have given me the explanation and reasoning I needed to call myself bisexual! Thank you

[glassflower_]

I’m not bisexual but aromantic-asexual and I have to say you’ve explained romantic and physical attraction so so well! I never really understood what it is that people feel and this was super helpful!

[Jamie]

Yeah, for me the stress is about losing my attraction to women. I’ve had really strong feelings in the past for girls and I’m afraid of losing that part of myself

[shinepolly]

I'm REALLY happy to be bisexual. Maybe somebody in my circle can't understand it, but it doesn't matter.
This is who I am. I wanna be free. And when we talk about feelings, there shouldn't any limits.
This is my identity.

Thank you for this amazing video and especially for your warm energy💕
And remember guys, you can love anybody. Everyone need freedom and happiness.

[PhantomBlue]

I'm nearing 30 and I just realized that I am in a spectrum of bisexuality. As far as I know, heavily leaning heterosexual, but it still counts. I already went through the five stages of grief, and I'm fine, but it's still really insane that it took me this long to find out. What an ironic month to find this out also. Right before Father's Day too, and my dad is significantly homophobic lmao.

[danischi]

I‘ve identified as bisexual for the last 5 years, but recently I have been questioning my sexuality again. After getting out of a hetero relationship last year, I realised that I never actually loved him in a romantic way and really longed for a relationship with a woman. I then also learned about comp het and it began a train of thought that I might be a lesbian after all.

A part of me doesn’t want to accept that because I don’t want me identifying as bisexual first to be the stereotypical „phase“ before coming out as gay, that (biphobic) people always talk about. I kind of want to proof them wrong, but that’s a silly reason to not identify as a lesbian.

Another part of me also just doesn’t know. Your video was really helpful because of the way you described romantic and physical attraction, I am now more sure that I haven’t really had either for my male exes and crushes. But then there’s the desire to be in a relationship… I don’t know if it’s just the heteronormative society that’s telling me to be with a man or if I actually want to be.

For now, I will just say I‘m queer lol

(Even if I will eventually identify as a lesbian, I‘m still attracted to non-binary people, and I don’t see lesbian as an exclusionary identity to attraction to people outside of the binary genders.)

[vanlifeembracingdiversity]

Well done. As a worker for young people who more often question their sexuality, I will definitely sign post them to your videos. Black and white thinking is so 80s 😂

[emmahuntsinger]

Thank you for this video. I have been struggling with OCD for a long time. I’m pretty comfortable knowing that I’m Bi, however my brain is set on I need to be 50/50. This makes me more comfortable to just let myself breathe ❤

[AstroMoonGoddess]

I appreciate your channel. I’m nearly 40 years old and I’m still learning about my bisexuality. I am sexually attracted to women but not romantically attracted to women. I discovered this in high school when I was dating my ex girlfriend. I am not always instantly sexually attracted to men, though it has happened in the past. I have to develop a mental and emotional connection with a man and that’s when the sexual attraction is ignited. I’ve always felt I was alone in this and have yet to find anyone who is like me. It has made me feel so odd to the point where I feel like I have to mould myself into something different - but I can’t. So it’s a lonely journey for me but I’m not giving up hope. 💚

[kristgeo]

I'm female and have always been attracted to men, but have recently come to realize I'm developing a strong attraction to another woman I've become friends with. I feel a desire for a romantic relationship with this person. This is the first time this has happened so I've been struggling a bit trying to figure myself out. Thank you for this video. It was a great help to me.

[Klondike_the_goat]

Thank you a lot for this. I haven’t found a better video explaining all of bisexuality. I always feel like I am faking my sexuality, though I’m not, and just simple videos stating the facts really help me.

[ishagilbert]

I love you Mark, you make me feel seen and safe in my identity and I wish people could be more like you 💖💜💙 thank you for just being you 🌈✨

[BennyBoyOwO]

This finally destroyed my doubt, thank you so much for making this video! I wish I had this earlier during my questioning, but better late than never! And I hope this vid gets shown to others who need it!

[dejairalexandrekeunecke]

Awesome video Mark, thanks!! I'm sure, I'm a 100% bi and I'm very proud 💖💜💙 Love being part of this wonderful community.

[anthonyd]

The most useful skill I've developed since realizing I'm bi is not taking everything personally. You'll find when you open up to people and share that you're bi everyone has an opinion but very rarely does anyone actually have first hand experience to share about being bi. Some feedback will be positive, some will be negative or patronizing/ passive aggressive. In the end, don't let comments from random people impact you, it says more about their outlook on life and morals than it does about you. Focus on being happy and meeting new people, eventually it'll pay off :)

[detoth]

I’ve lived closeted because of hate heard from family, friends, etc… all I’ve ever needed was someone to tell me that being bisexual is ok. That I’m not subhuman. That my drive isn’t evil. I’ve been filled with regret lately. Regret that I could have had more loving relationships and more amazing sexual experiences. Had it not been for terror that I’d lose family, friends, and be shredded as deviant. I’m coming to terms with this. These videos help. I’ve wasted so much time hiding in fear.

[leosasmr_]

thank you! I feel like this is the first information in form of a video that has finally helped me feel more relieved and feel less pressure on putting a label on it. Also bisexuality means so much more than I knew before!