ADHD & Friendships #adhd #friends #shorts

[kasf]

I find I struggle a lot with maintaining friendships as an adult. Unless I see someone every day, it's extremely difficult for me to remember to take time out just to say hi and ask how they're doing. I can go for months without remembering to keep in touch with an out of town friend unless something in my immediate attention reminds me of them.

[Bpdbryan]

I have trouble maintaining friendships. Especially when a lot is going on. I literally forget about people then feel too awkward to reach out. It’s nothing malicious and just feel such a bad friend.

[imogenoliver]

I struggle so much so that ‘barely’ understanding why you need friends in the first place is an understatement.

[ThePixelSchubse]

I also have a hard time maintaining friendships, but a long time ago I began to understand that most of my friendships existed because of convenience. Like the neighbors kids, school friends, colleagues... a lot of times you are friends because of the circumstances. But once these circumstances change, there is no actual deeper base for maintaining the friendship. I don't have the energy to "force" a friendship just for the history we have. Maybe thats cold, I don't know...

The few longlasting friendships I have are mostly the ones where both parts sometimes fall off the earth, but everythings fine again when we reappear. Also we always had at least one common interest in the beginning and the friendship was build on character, interests and understanding each other. It may have helped that we all struggle(d) with different mental health problems and/or neurodivergencies.

[athenafromgreece]

Omg, so relatable...usually what happens to me is that I get so excited about what's going on in my life that I forget to ask other people about their days and then come off as self-centered. Then either people distance themselves from me and I blame myself. Or they say nothing and then I feel so guilty and clam up lol.

[longtailgt]

The real problem for me isn't making friends but rather maintaining the friendship and conversation. I'm always so overwhelmed that I sometimes forget or don't have any energy left for other people.

[tudormiller]

Yes! Yes! Yes! Finally this is the real reason I've always found friendship and relationships a struggle throughout my childhood and now as an adult. Thanks. Watching from London UK 🇬🇧

[spacewolfcub]

Every video you make is a punch in the feels. Sigh, if only someone had at least mentioned these things when I was a child.

[slmzwn]

I've been in college for 2 years and haven't really made "real" friends. Every relation I have with my peers are like superficial. The pandemic plays a very big role and now that they slowly ending, I feel the struggle even more because many of them have already in circles.

[nura]

I've long practiced explaining to friends very early on that I find it difficult to maintain frequent contact, but that it doesn't mean I'm not thinking of distant friends or that I don't love them. It's helped a lot to set expectations so they don't get offended or have to wonder later on.

[Opaynemusic]

My dad helps me make friends and maintain them. It's because he has OCD, and those guys care a lot about the people they are close to. It also means he's the exact opposite of me at some stuff

[Holdontoyerbutz]

The title of that book is actually heart wrenching

[Tuvaale]

Love your channel. I am 48, was diagnosis started about 10 years ago, ADHD was finally arrived at about 8 years ago and I finally got onto the right meds about 4 years ago and now at 48 I have not only accepted my ADHD but have embraced it. Years and years of shame, regret yadda yadda yadda… went away thanks to people like you I am feeling the best I ever have. So a BIG BIG thank you.

[jessicadoan]

I can make friends but I have a hard time maintaining those friendships

[nikosfilipino]

The more I watch this channel the more I've come to learn how much undiagnosed ADHD played a part in my most cringey or traumatic moments in my teen years

[Lexi-vvyl]

Its always hardest when i start to feel comfortable and open up and subsequently become "annoying". My joy and enthusiasm just becomes problematic and I have a tendency to just not really go out of my way to make friends anymore as an adult. Makes me wonder if Im actually as introverted as I am or if i was just forced into a corner since childhood because of how I act when I feel happy around people I like.

[SDS-eejs]

I’ve always struggled with making and maintaining friendships since I was a kid. I’m just extremely socially awkward and inept, and at times have wondered if I have ASD but the more I research about it the less I think I have it as a lot of things don’t apply to me even though I have some autistic traits. I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD and a visual spatial learning disability plus anxiety and no one’s ever mentioned to me that ADHD can cause social difficulties, but I’m glad to know it’s a thing and that other people experience similar challenges because I feel so much less alone now.

[winxclubstellamusa]

I have never, and most probably will never, be able to make a real friend who genuinely respects me and cares about me like I feel for them in my 24 years on this earth.

[data]

As I kid I decided that dogs are better than people and I have not changed my mind. Still, everyone need to make allies and learning skills to do that is worthwhile.

[camille]

I've always struggled with making friends around my age. Growing up I always found it easier to make friends with kids who were younger than me. In hindsight this makes sense to me now because my capacity to build friendships was way different from my peers.