Should You Be Friends With Your Ex?

[anonymousssn]

They offer friendship because they do not want to make a commitment to you. They want the sex, the closeness & everything that couples share but NOT the commitment. They want to be able to come and go as they like and see whoever they like without the responsibility of a relationship. In other words they want a friend with benefits! My ex offered me this an I turned him down flat. I am worth more than that. I am not his play thing,

[candacemarie]

I never say no I don't want to be friends. I just walk away and don't contact them. It sends a message.

[georgehathaway]

Silence speaks 1000 words to your ex!!

[Annamelese]

I don't understand being friends with an ex they left u becuse u are not good enough for them right? Then no excepting friendship either!!

[marianosouto]

No. In my case she dumped me for other guy. Whats my place as a friend? I have to see her with her new boyfriend? Of course not

[gc]

You only want to be friends if that boyfriend or gf has told you the truth or open up to you about their feelings that they want to end d relationship. But NOT to be friends with someone who cheated you at your back.

[BlackgirlJane]

So after a month of no contact my ex called me saying that he missed me, he cares about me and will do anything for me. We started talking every day and Ive spent a couple weekends with him. We're talking and he says he sleeps with other women and that we are friends. I told him that I wont be contacting him again and that I'm not his friend. I'm moving on.

[jimbrausky]

This man is ten thousand percent right

[glenndower]

I agree with the no "low ball offer" of friendship (amongst the other reasons Coach Lee states).
Women love to see strength in a man.
And walking away from a "let's be friends"/low ball offer shows real strength and a real sense of self-worth.
Spot on Coach Lee.

[diptipatel]

true love means you love in a way that it makes him feel free and its a learning curve where he needs to work with you all the way through...

[annajamjam]

Even if we were to just be “friends “ I don’t want a friendship from a phone. If he’s never going to make an effort to see me or if we’re only hanging out every couple months it’s not worth it I’ll let him go so I can heal and move on

[candacemarie]

For other guys who say they just want friendship, nope....it is like he said it's a low ball offer. I'm not going to wait on the sidelines and be someone's option.

[Fred-ztky]

Guys trust me, you WILL get over her. Just trust the process. I know it hurts like madness right now, but as the weeks pass, you will get better, inevitably.

I’ve been in a loving relationship with this girl for almost 6 years. She broke up with me one month ago. I was absolutely devastated for the first couple days, but was already feeling a lot better after the first week went by. It’s now been one month and I’m pretty much completely healed. I still want to stay single for at least a few more months, out of respect for my next partner.

Good luck to y’all! Stay trying bothers.

[wutang]

They also soften the blow with you when they say I need space.

[Abby-qtsg]

Very true. I can't be his friend and I dont want sit and hear that my ex taling me about his new girl Friend hell no. Thats big no no no no .

[vincentdimitri]

After watching 20 of Coach Lee's videos, I realised how badly I fucked up and did everything wrong. Everything. It's been 3.5 years since I've had her, and we only stopped seeing each other as friends 2 weeks ago. I hate my life.

[israelperez]

Thanks for the clarity coach. I see now that it was going downhill for a long time. How could I ever be friends with someone who's so deceitful, I can't. The betrayal is the hardest to swallow. I will succeed

[francescoalessandrini]

Made the huge mistake to accept friendship out of fear and vulnerability for 2 whole months after she broke up a 2 year relationship with me! I took the courage to say that I don't see her as just a friend. She said that our relationship had a lack of intimacy that it made her feel that we were not more than friends. I, and her during the relationship, didn't feel that way.
Went straight into NC since than and it has been 2 weeks. Let's hope for the best!

[gamegirl]

Coach lee is definitely right on this! Don’t accept friendship as I have already felt the sting of this and it has prolonged my healing.
For the last three months he did say initially he wanted to be friends but I was passive and didn’t really respond to that answer but I wished him well.
He then continued to contact me whilst I was in no contact and I did break it a few times which were silly as then It appears like I am chasing even if it’s casual. We met up a few times and I thought we could try to rebuild our relationship and thought maybe that’s what he would have liked to have done but I feel like I was being strung along and last time we met I let my emotions get the better of me and didn’t handle it well. I feel like I screwed up as I have now said I’m not interested in being friends but didn’t handle it as well as I should have so now he has To face the consequences of the breakup but I feel after the way I acted that he will never reconsider, he told me when I seen him last week that he was still firm on his decision with the breakup and it made me feel worse 😞

[jannlewandowski]

I dated a guy In High School, and it lasted for nearly 2 years. I lost feelings for him, (I was young), and I told him I don't want to date anymore, etc. Well, he initiated FRIENDSHIP. I said "sure, we can be friends." I figured I don't love him, but I did like him. BIG MISTAKE! He followed me, wrote me letters and it got to a point where my Mother called the Police bcse he was starting to threaten me, and smeared my name all over High School. He pulled a knife on me, and it was awful. After graduation, I never saw him again. You have to be careful. I know my case was EXTREME, but it can happen. It is awkward to be, "friends" after loving relationships, but we were just kids. Imagine if we were in love? Fatal Attraction! You can't be friends with anyone you've been involved with. Don't let them talk you into it. I was too young to realize the mistake I made.