How to be an Unforgettable First Date to Him

Want to be an UNFORGETTABLE first date to a guy so he wants to see you again and build a relationship with you? In this video I share 8 "do's and don'ts" that will make him rise!

How do I have great dates with men? What can I date men better? How do I make him want a relationship with me? I get asked questions like these ALL THE TIME by clients, students and women in my life... so here is a video explaining what to do and what to AVOID to be a woman he wants to get to know better.

If you want more support in creating the life and love of your dreams, this is how I can help you ❤️ 👇

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[LisaGemini]

Thank you, Mat! I like how you go back over all the do's and don'ts at the end. Perfect.

[marthabunting]

Two things stand out. I can see how well meaning people could lapse into interview mode. I appreciate the follow up question tip to their stories. Very perceptive of you Matt.

[crystaldance]

Mat you always show up at the right time thanks for sharing the good advise ❤️😊👍🏻

[karent]

Hi Matt, I truly appreciate your videos. I would love to see a video on the topic of "women dating older men".

[kellb]

I need to video my dates and have Mat analyze them

[jillg.]

You're very encouraging and positive. Thank you for your videos. In my youthful 60 yr old eyes I find men my age to be huge disappointments. They talk all about themselves and never ask questions. I'm an outgoing fitness professional looking for a man that respects their health, who doesn't want a nurse or a purse. What I find are broken down men that don't have a clue what an interesting independent woman wants. Obviously they need coaching but their egos are too big. So, I've decided younger men are much better for my youthful soul.

[tanhue]

Love your videos, so real and relatable. Also can't help but love your adorably charming giggle.

[Mushroom-]

What a great topic that i've seen no ther relationship coach discuss!
Thank you! Matt!

[Musicismylove]

That is such a wonderful affirmation to hear everytime I hear your videos that we are worthy of love. Active listening is key to getting more attention. You get what you give. There is a fine line between too little and too much. Thank you for another great video. ❤

[aaryalouise]

I can see how following your tips can lead to a RomCom-like date (awesome as usual, thank you!). However, I haven't been on a date for ages since I can't seem to find someone I truly connect with. Either I am interested or they are, nothing mutual :/

[Mat_Shaffer]

QUESTION OF THE DAY - what have been your biggest keys to making a great first impression on a date?

[tanyaklawitter]

I love this but as said before what brought me and my new guy together was our kids mainy his daughter and her messing around with my step daughter and then his school boy act and passing notes to me now been together ever since, its mainly help from you and some of your videos and lives that helped to as i took your advice and left ex hubby and opened my front door to new things and found him. Now hes brought a plane ticket and moving us to florida like i told you. Just need the weaknesss he has to calm me down and snap me out of a bad mood or whatever to stop he knows me to well now and i he even embrasses the momma trauma stuff as he is a mommas boy so it doesnt work.

[careyh]

Thank you for your advice. Love the examples. I tease my best guy friend. He teases, smiles, and stands close to me. I think he is interested in me. What should I look for in his mannerisms?

[hoiliswu]

Love and deeper conaction all the time join us

[bonitacadavez]

thank you Mat, for sharing this vedio

[supermama]

I never try or even think to impress, the other person is who will get his on concept about Me, and will know if I'm acting if I don't be genuine, that don't mean the I don't take cares may self in a physically way . don't complicate things. You can't know everything from one person in one day. If is for love be yourself.

[alid.]

This video was so insightful!


I knew a genuinely sweet guy a month ago that clearly had some shallow encounters confuse my decline to go to bed on the third date (in 2 months mind you with hella attraction; I recently ended a 5y toxic) for my being "aloof and calculated." He's a nice guy with an assuming mentality that nice guys finish last.


He expressed mother/father dynamic vulnerability after drinking quite a bit more than I did and I left after he told me I was being "a seven date girl, " wouldn't hear me out, and never heard from him again. I wanted an apology for his overreacting, so I didn't pursue validating our discussion. There was obviously a lot more to the conversation, am I making excuses for him?


Any advise on whether or not rekindle that connection?

[themystical]

What if the first date is in the woods for a hike? I cannot help but go dressed up sporty. I cannot overdo it.

[karenwicks]

MATT LUV ALL YOUR VIDEOS IM IM MY YOUNG 60's recently widowed almost 2yrs.On a first.date man is 70 is it ok to touch pat arm.So out of touch with online dating! Thx.

[janicehumble]

How do you start dating when youve divorced after a 36 yrs marriage