Stop changing FOR them / Relationship Advice

Should we change for our partner? Short answer, no. Long answer, absolutely. There's always something we need to change in order to work towards a better connection, a deeper bond, a more mutually respectful, fulfilling relationship with our partner. The question is, are you willing to change for the benefit of yourself and this relationship?

How to get HER in the MOOD (funny)
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[SARA-jbuo]

let's lead with self reflection instead of blame.

[intranquiltiming]

Honestly, I’m not even in a relationship but these videos help me with my relationship with myself in a cool, abstract way. It also helps me interpersonally. It helps me both intrapersonally and interpersonally. Intra (self) and Inter(others).

[sallyhu]

I have tears, thank you Jimmy..
Yes showing up as myself and not being afraid to end up alone, i ended the toxic dynamic that my ex narcissist fiance and i had, going no contact and it is peaceful.
I hope one day i can share this video with a future partner that is willing to put in the work.

[imana]

I need a series on how to help our husband get out of his shell. Talk about their feelings and wants without a fight.

[SandraCruise-ec]

Ugh, if they were telling a joke about you at a party it was on purpose. I mean you don’t put down your partner by accident.

[kohalmifamily]

I've address my boundaries etc to my spouse only to be gaslight, deflected and manipulated. To make matters worse they reach out to their family and friends tell them lies about what's actually going on and then their friends give them very poor advice based on the lies or tell them they are a victim. They'll never even want to change for themselves if their family and friends are telling them what they want to hear and that they are the real victim and not the problem based on lies.. it's a no win situation..

[DrJimWagnerAnnapolis]

Thank you Jimmy, for helping me understand where i went wrong. It’s a couple years too late but I can at least possibly heal some of my relationship with my ex-wife and also have a better chance of not repeating who I was, what i did and did NOT do to keep my marriage strong.

[mirchellepinpindg]

Taking accountability means being bold and brave to reflect on my inner wounds due to trauma. I reflect on what it is in me that needs to change to help the relationship work and it’s allowing myself to see what can make the relationship grow and be nurtured through mutual trust. However, unless the partner is also willing to face their own wounds, and also take accountability, respect will dissolve, resentment builds up and contempt takes over. This is where teamwork as a couple must happen. No gaslighting and projections, no detachment and dismissiveness, otherwise, I would rather be alone. And it feels very peaceful to love myself today and practice self care. ❤ Thanks again Jimmy!

[noormashriki]

You are amazing! This happens with people who lack self awareness and are hesitant to even learn about being emotionally intelligent and build safety with their partner. I wish they had the willingness to learn the content in this video. We need more mindset like you

[anneliesewright]

I am more than willing to change for my partner because I care about him. If there's something I do that hurts his feelings or triggers painful memories, I want to validate his feelings and change my behavior. It's usually something that I need to change for myself anyway. If both partners have a mentality of care & concern for each other's feelings and they're willing to change where needed, what a difference that would make in being emotionally & intimately connected, which then leads to sexually connected.

[LadyElina]

My husband says what fills his love tank is being alone doing his projects and things he enjoys… problem is that can look like 20-60 hours a week of personal time beyond work hours and I wind up with the family responsibilities alone.

The kids never see him. If I express we need better balance he shuts down or yells and says I’m trying to control him.

[eun]

😮 we change FOR better. dont change FOR people. we need changes but a Right change. not a negative changes to fit in or get accepted.

you r accepted. you dont need to be validated by people. Your worth are given since birth not from people around you.

ure humam not an item that negotiate like prices $. SPEAK. politely. dont jumo to conclusion.

hear what toxic ppl want to say. and u learn way more than just screaming back at them

[jan]

I told him I don't feel safe in the relationship and that's why my gaurd is up. This was based off what ive been through in life and some of his unhealthy behaviors. He never wanted to disect this with me but still wondered why I am the way I am....

[SweetheartMorada]

I just want to say a big big thank you for what you do. It’s so important for men to contribute productively to these conversations about relationships, and you bring an insightful, balanced, non-shaming perspective that is so helpful. And to top it off, your voice is so soothing!

[sw]

Having a “conversation” is an increasingly rare skill, fighting fairly and productively is even rarer….

[confusedwhynot]

Actions speak louder than words!! Don't make promises you don't intend to keep.

[pamaylward]

Spot on! Your demeanor and sincerity strike me as an easy man to seek advice from. Your messages need to be shared. I truly hope you're heard and understood. Great work!

[rhonda]

Oh yeah, I have said that numerous times do it because you want to do it not because I’m asking you to do it if they do it for you they will end up resenting you and like you said it will only be temporary

[Ultrademic]

Love your videos Jimmy. You're spot on. I am a woman and it's nice to see a man who gets it. Ty for helping other men to understand.
Your videos have helped me alot as well.

[PeacefulChaoticGoddess]

Lol. Mine roleplays with me to help me recognise my strengths and to help me establish firm boundaries and maintain them in ways I never had the guts to stand up to my ex and his mother about.