Stopping Yourself from Acting On Bad Impulses (Quick Study)

It’s about training yourself to pause. Here's how.

Amy Jen Su, author of "The Leader You Want to Be: Five Essential Principles for Bringing Out Your Best Self—Every Day", says that recognizing when you’re about to engage in a bad habit--and being able to find a “magic pause”--is the key. If you’re about to snap at a co-worker, reach for that sugary snack, or micromanage a direct report, there are ways to short circuit these behaviors before they begin. She describes three techniques in detail: having a mantra or “swing thought”, breathing with intentionality, and practicing something she calls the “washing the dishes meditation.”

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[jackster]

Normally when I feel flustered or my thoughts are scrambled, I tend to just give myself time and not act on my impulses but just wait until my head clears or just tell myself to be calm, one step, one breath, one moment at a time.

[MrDokuritsu]

If necessity is the mother of invention, it could also be the mother of developing good habits. Put yourself in a demanding course where you need to pass exams. And that means you need to get up early and study. If you manage to do that, you will minimize your chance of failure, and develop confidence that you can do anything you set your mind to do.

[An.Italian.From.Hollywood]

Breathing techniques can change your life, for better.

[omkarbagmare]

I guess the doctor learnt the 4-7-8 breathing technique in Sudarshan Kriya Yoga of Art of Living foundation. It's been in use since 1981. Had heard about stories that western countries see and modify and copyright things bt didn't believe it until now!

[m.fazlurrahman]

In absence of impulses, one will loose the business of buying gummy bears or pollos. In an meeting that demands participation requires spontaneity, hence absence of it somewhat diminishes the probability of getting participation. A swing thought, is nothing but FOCUS before an action, Having a DEEP breath works because it ensures taking up additional oxygen into your heart and from there to you blood. Abundance of it relaxes one’s pressure and reduces Hysteria!! When you are going into a presentation. You must be ready and not anticipating what might happen!! It’s like giving a stage show in front of an audience. They have the option whether to like or dislike you. It’s a chemical/ technical presentation and a sales pitch is not going to work, in such situations TREMBLING LEGS are natural.

[tleta]

In other words, practice mindfulness.

[sirisaksirisak]

Old said count one to ten or more . As your technic aim to change new focus on controling mal behavior to devient interrupt misbehavior action but some keep silent and leave away to avoid confrontation arguement.Clap one hand gather no loud.Old proverb.

[mountainman]

My mantra: Chillout, Chillow, Chiman

[lippielove]

Funny being doing washing dishes one without knowing it.

[mathematicshindi]

Sometimes when I try take pain to gain, , I feel like torturing myself in a wrong way and geel like taking an unplanned break and tell myself "overexercise is the other name of harming yourself" what's that???

[aarongluzman]

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a soft yet tense voice

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study me well

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not me

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study me well

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and
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[ksinkar]

What is a non-western MD?
Is it a northern MD?
Is it a southern MD?
Is it an eastern MD?

[ManishPajan]

Almost everything that is bandied about by modern western "packaged" purveyors of wisdom has already been articulated by ancient Hindu sages (rishis) many millennia ago.. the least we could do is acknowledge their originality..